HELP! Please?

I have a 2 year old son. Im not with his father. We have not been together since my son was 5 months old.However, I have not denied him the right to be around his son. So, since I left Ive had him 4 days out of the week and his father has him 3. Every week. Everything was okay up until recently, my son fights me when he has to go to his dads house for the past couple months. He screams bloody murder when I try to hand him over to go. Im concerned and I think its time to hire an attorney. I dont want to keep him from his dad, but on top of those issues, I also notice hes becoming confused of "home". I think he should only be going there every weekend or every other weekend. But im thinking this 3 days a week is not good for him. And the screaming? Im confused and never went through this. Somebody help me? What should I do? Who do I call? Can I legally decide for myself that he cant go there as often anymore without problems? HELP?!

Quoting BoogzThaMommy:" I have a 2 year old son. Im not with his father. We have not been together since my son was 5 months ... [snip!] ... should I do? Who do I call? Can I legally decide for myself that he cant go there as often anymore without problems? HELP?!"

Confused about home? He has two homes...what is so confusing about that?

You have set the precedent for visitation....I would recommend going to court. Because no one legally has custody, he can decide to keep the child and file for custody when he has him.

nope neither of you have custody i am assuming.. and he can fight for joint custody if he wants... did u talk to him about why he has been acting this way.. ur ex or ur son.. see if things have changed.. my step-daughters go through phases all the time.. one week they ddont want to go back to mommies the next week they dont want to come here.. its constant cycle.. but unless you have sole custody he can have him as much as he wants and he dosnt evenhave to bring him back

Quoting BoogzThaMommy:" I have a 2 year old son. Im not with his father. We have not been together since my son was 5 months ... [snip!] ... should I do? Who do I call? Can I legally decide for myself that he cant go there as often anymore without problems? HELP?!"

i think it might just be the age. my son is 2 and half. i was never with his father since hes been alive. since he was 18 months old he goes over there pretty much every other week from thursday-sunday. it was ok at first. he loved going to go see his brother. but once he hit like 2 he would scream and cry every time his dad came to get him. like he was never gunna come back. if you try to take it to court honestly there probably not going to change anything. youv been co-parenting this long with no problems. unless theres abuse going on i doubt theyll change it all that much. and theres not a problem with having 2 homes. try talking with him about it. see what he says. wither its with you or his dad its still home.

I did ask him. Aside from the fact hes never home and his parents are handling everything with my son for him. I asked "why is it that daemon screams bloody murder everytime your parents pick him up?" he immediately started screaming at me and cursing me out to mind my own business. [he has really bad anger issues which is why were not together, not good for my son to see] i dont believe hes hurting him but i dont believe hes home and i believe the grandparents are with him and not his father. I understand the 2 homes thing but isnt 3 days there 4 days here at all concerning to his mental development? What about when he starts school? Maybe im over thinking it cause I was blessed in 1 home with 2 parents? I just want whats best for him.

Quoting BoogzThaMommy:" I did ask him. Aside from the fact hes never home and his parents are handling everything with my son ... [snip!] ... when he starts school? Maybe im over thinking it cause I was blessed in 1 home with 2 parents? I just want whats best for him."

It won't harm him developmentally.

How far away do you live from one another?

in Ohio and Tenn if you werent married when he was concieved or anytime during your pregnancy until after the baby was born then you automatically have custody (of course you would have to check where you live) i would take him to court my SO has his son for one week then his mother has him for the next it really sucks he gets moved from home to home everyweek with dif rules so i can see how your son is confused one house hes got mommy and one set of rules and the other house he has daddy and another set of rules when you go to court you can request that he only gets your son every other weekend and one day a week (thats how my parents had it) plus get child support (he has financial obligations to his son)

Quoting Jillian Lindsey:" in Ohio and Tenn if you werent married when he was concieved or anytime during your pregnancy until after ... [snip!] ... other weekend and one day a week (thats how my parents had it) plus get child support (he has financial obligations to his son..)

Exactly! And thats one of the biggest problems. 2 houses. 2 completely diff rules. and he doesnt want to get on the same page as me either. I think its just time for court. I just wanted to hear somebody else say it. I could understand how 2 homes could work if you have 2 parents semi on the same page. But were in 2 completely different books.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" It won't harm him developmentally. How far away do you live from one another?"

About an hour

Quoting BoogzThaMommy:" About an hour"

He can still pick up the child from school on Friday evening and drop off on Sunday night.

Quoting BoogzThaMommy:" Exactly! And thats one of the biggest problems. 2 houses. 2 completely diff rules. and he doesnt want ... [snip!] ... could understand how 2 homes could work if you have 2 parents semi on the same page. But were in 2 completely different books."

my sister has two boys Drew is 5y/o and Kael is 21months they have been moved around from house to house for about 18months (Cody left my sister Sam) Drew really has struggled and Kael is behind developmentaly (i think because of everything going on) Cody now is the residential parent my sister get them on weekends Drew strugles because of the two completely dif houses with completely dif rules Cody is finally getting the boys back on track and working with Drew on his behavior (he used to be so good but when they broke up he had a hard time adjusting) imo you should get a dif set up for visitation and go thru mediation to discuss how you two can be semi on the same page as far as discipline and daily routine