When did you tell everyone?

I'll be 13weeks tomorrow! I'm 5'1, 105ibs, and I have a small bump, which gets HUGE from bloat after I eat, so much to where I can't button my pants. So I'm not sure how much longer I can "hide it" (nor do I want to feel like I have to hide it).

This pregnancy was not planned and were both really terrified. When I came to the decision to keep the baby, I "manned up" and told my family by myself. They took it very well mainly because we have been through so much that this is a blessing. -- However, his family has no idea, I asked him the other day when he planned on telling them and he said "I haven't put much thought into it", I think we both forget about it from time to time, or put it off.

So when did you tell everyone & the world you were expecting?

Most people start telling after the first trimester (which ends at 12 weeks I believe). If you think SO's family will pressure you at all to get an abortion, then I would wait till that's no longer an option, just so they can't argue that point at all. I do not know the latest you can get an abortion though.

Quoting Colt's mommy:" Most people start telling after the first trimester (which ends at 12 weeks I believe). If you think ... [snip!] ... no longer an option, just so they can't argue that point at all. I do not know the latest you can get an abortion though."

His family is SO religious that they would be more upset if I got an abortion, so I know they would never ever consider that idea. I think that maybe it's part of the reason why he's stalling is because he know they will be very upset that he knocked up a girl he just met 6 months ago, and not married to..

when ever you feel the time is right. when i had my first i told his family first and then my family. if you want to wait until the bump is really noticable you can you may feel 'fat' with just a tiny bump and i know i did but my husband was really good at that time telling me that i was beautiful and he helped my thru it by reminding me that that 'fat' is a baby and it helped me feel better.

Quoting Roper:" His family is SO religious that they would be more upset if I got an abortion, so I know they would never ... [snip!] ... stalling is because he know they will be very upset that he knocked up a girl he just met 6 months ago, and not married to.."

Then just whenever you feel like it. Anytime really. Maybe make them a dinner or something and tell them together. Idk, but good luck  

Quoting Alicia Wendland-Leany:" when ever you feel the time is right. when i had my first i told his family first and then my family. ... [snip!] ... me that i was beautiful and he helped my thru it by reminding me that that 'fat' is a baby and it helped me feel better."

I do feel just fat now  

Would it be bad to not tell them sooner? He's really close with them both, and I eat dinner every Sunday with his family. I would just hate to be like "Yeah it does look like rain outside, BTW I'm pregnant, and it's a boy or it's a girl".

Quoting Colt's mommy:" Then just whenever you feel like it. Anytime really. Maybe make them a dinner or something and tell them together. Idk, but good luck  "

Thank-you <3

with my first(who was very unplanned) i didn't test until 9 weeks because i was scared and we told his parents around 11 weeks(we lived with them so we had to make sure they were okay with us living there!) then we told mine around 13-15ish weeks because i wanted to tell them in person and they lived in seattle and us in california... then we told the world about another month or so after that once we were married(lol)

Quoting Roper:" I'll be 13weeks tomorrow! I'm 5'1, 105ibs, and I have a small bump, which gets HUGE from bloat after ... [snip!] ... we both forget about it from time to time, or put it off. So when did you tell everyone & the world you were expecting?"

We didn't announce it. Just kind of let people figure it out on their own.
With our others we let family know after 20 weeks.

Quoting Roper:" I do feel just fat now   Would it be bad to not tell them sooner? He's really close with them both, ... [snip!] ... family. I would just hate to be like "Yeah it does look like rain outside, BTW I'm pregnant, and it's a boy or it's a girl"."

in my experience coming from a very similar situation only both sides are very religious it was so much better once every one knew like a weight was lifted.. and i had no idea how his parents would handle it and they were great! my parents weren't as easy but i was their second daughter to get pregnant before getting married   lol

Quoting T♥B:" with my first(who was very unplanned) i didn't test until 9 weeks because i was scared and we told his ... [snip!] ... lived in seattle and us in california... then we told the world about another month or so after that once we were married(lol) "

Thanks, that makes me feel better about waiting  

Quoting Colt's mommy:" Then just whenever you feel like it. Anytime really. Maybe make them a dinner or something and tell them together. Idk, but good luck  "

yeah make them dinner and tell them that you have something important to tell them. then tell them when the time is right just make sure that SO is ok with this plan. as long as you two are happy together that is the most important thing. if they get upset accept that this is their way of dealing with the situation. my mom wanted me to put my first up of adoption because she doesnt like my husband. we werent married when our first arrived but she is loved and now we're married and on our third. if there is major problems and you's dont live together think about moving in together so that he is there to help you at the end cause its a big help. if they are still upset after a week or two let them know that you choose to keep the baby and that this child is their grandchild and even if they're not happy with you to be happy for you cause you are carrying the continuation of their family. it may take some time but eventually they will come around.

Quoting T♥B:" in my experience coming from a very similar situation only both sides are very religious it was so ... [snip!] ... they were great! my parents weren't as easy but i was their second daughter to get pregnant before getting married   lol"

Did you plan on getting married to him? I don't know how they would handle it, his youngest sister got pregnant really young (17 and she's now in her 30s) and they supported her though they weren't happy at first. I think it will be different though because A) we just started dating and B) there is a big age difference, which neither of them seem to have a problem with.

with my first, I was about to tell after my u/s confirmation at 7w, but then I m/c later that day, so I'm glad I didn't say anything.

With my 2nd and 3rd pregnancies, I told around 13 weeks.

I think HE should be the one to tell his family. It shouldn't all be on your shoulders.

Quoting Alicia Wendland-Leany:" yeah make them dinner and tell them that you have something important to tell them. then tell them when ... [snip!] ... for you cause you are carrying the continuation of their family. it may take some time but eventually they will come around."

That's great advice, thank-you! We haven't even thought about moving in with each other, and I don't want to ask him until he brings it up (I'm stubborn and independent) .