Off topic..but I have to vent!

So...my mother-in-law...I love her, but she really can get under my skin sometimes. The whole time that I was pregnant she was very supportive and reassuring me that I was gonna do a great job being a mommy. Well, when the baby finally arrived and I was still in the hospital, it was then I realized that she was gonna try to take over. I remember my sister-in-law was holding Emma and she started to cry because she was hungry. So I was like ohhh she's hungry, let me feed her. My MIL then ran over to her daughter and picked Emma up and was like oh noooo she just wants her Nanna. Yeah..I knew right then we were gonna have problems. Well, she didn't really pull anything while my husband was home for his R&R, but it was long after he returned to Iraq that she started to act like Emma's mom. She would do little things like tell me she didn't like the wipes I used or the diapers and say that the ones that she bought were better and blah blah blah. Well, the other day I was sitting at her house and I told her that Emma had been spitting up alot more than normal and she told me she had a secret to cure that and pulled out a box of baby cereal. I told her that my pediatrician said not to do that because Emma could develop alergies easier and it increases the risk of obessity. She was like Well, I know what the doctors said but I did it with all of my kids and they are all fine. I then said that it just scared me and I would feel safer just to follow my doctors wishes. She then turned around and said Well I've already put cereal in Emma's bottle several times, so it's a little too late to worry anyways. I looked her like I was gonna kill her and said Ms. Jennifer, you have to tell me these things...I am her mother. And she simply said ....No I don't, my mom never told me anything when she fed my kids, so therefore I don't have to let you in on anything! I wanted to scream, but as soon as I went to say something she had some company walk in the door. I told my husband about it and he can only do so much. It made him mad because he feels like she doesn't respect me as Emma's mother and he thinks she feels like because he is gone, that she needs to fill his shoes. So I guess now the only thing that I can do is supervise my MIL when I bring Emma over there. UGHHHH...she wouldn't do any of this if my husband was here. I just needed to vent! Thanks for reading my pointless rant haha

Quoting .:*Sarah*:.:“ So...my mother-in-law...I love her, but she really can get under my skin sometimes. The whole time that ... [snip!] ... UGHHHH...she wouldn't do any of this if my husband was here. I just needed to vent! Thanks for reading my pointless rant haha”

i would have slapped her in front of her company! that is YOUR child and YOU make the rules...don't let her get away with this stuff. i'd even tell her that she can't be with the baby without you around. Let her know what is up! i guess i can't say much because i'm having trouble standing up to my MIL right now but when it comes to your baby you shouldn't havea problem

Shoot that sucks I've been in similar situations with my MIL and it wasn't pretty either. I'd just make sure if you take her over there she has already ate or you say I'm going to make her bottle and I want to feed her. This is my time to cuddle with her. and seriously like you said I would supervise what she does with Emma. Sorry you have to go through this. It feels unfair doesn't it.

Quoting .:*Sarah*:.:“ So...my mother-in-law...I love her, but she really can get under my skin sometimes. The whole time that ... [snip!] ... UGHHHH...she wouldn't do any of this if my husband was here. I just needed to vent! Thanks for reading my pointless rant haha”

If my MIL did that, my baby would be off limits to her inless I was there. She would not be watching her or anything.
My MIL tried that diaper thing too, and I would ask her for the return slip and take them back until finally she started getting the right ones.
I would just bluntly let her know if she can't follow your wishes as you are your daughter's mother, then she will not be able to keep her with out u being there. That you didn't carry her and go through labor, watch what u ate for her to turn around and mess all your hard work up.

Holy crap! Now that is over stepping your boundaries. You are right though, there is no sense in arguing with her, she is obviously ALWAYS right. Just do what you can to monitor your baby with her and count down the days til hubby returns. Ugh! K.

i know how you feel... mine... well shes not legally my MIL yet but close enough. well she told me when kailey was one month old that i should try to give her strawberry icecream and i told her no that it was too early and she actually seemed bummed! im like you cant possibly think shes ready for that. then she had the nerve to tell me i didnt feed my child enough just because she got the hiccups all the time. excuse me? do you NOT see her rolls? and kailey had hiccups all the time while i was pregnant with her. then later she was getting upset because i wasnt bringing her bottles to feed her (i swear it has something to do with her thinking i dont feed her enough) and threatend to buy formula to feed her and that urked me. kailey hasnt had one drop of formula and i want to keep it that way. jarrett told a little lie saying she couldnt have it til 6 months but even then im not going to let her give it to her. she pisses me off...... ok i took over im sorry  

**edit to add that she will NOT be babysitting without jarretts dad there and i will make sure to tell him not to give her formula unless i didnt give them enough breast milk.

i would tell that if she cant respect ur wishes than ur sorry but she cant be alone with ur baby.....not to mention putting cereal in a bottle is a choking hazard, it messes with there sucking/swallowing instinct....they are tryin to suck/swallow/eat and not choke at the same time....my daughter choked the other day on her throw up and it scared the hell out of me....she was turning almost purple her eyes were bulging out and i called 911 and everything.....she needs to be aware that there are alot of really bad things that can happen if she continues to this...and how is she gonna feel ifher granddaughter ends up in the hospital cuz of something u told her NOT to do

HAHA thanks for sympathizing ladies....she's just a loon and thinks she is right about everything. I'll get the balls one day to stand up to her.

Quoting hunnybunchesofos:“ i know how you feel... mine... well shes not legally my MIL yet but close enough. well she told me when ... [snip!] ... jarretts dad there and i will make sure to tell him not to give her formula unless i didnt give them enough breast milk.”

the ormula thing sounds like something my MIL would pull. i will not be pumping just for someone else to feed my baby unless it's my husband or if MY mom is watching her

that's awful.
when i first had my son we went to indiana where my hubby is from for xmas and i met all 60 people in his family at one xmas party. i dont think i got to see my son once after we walked in the door as my MIL took off with him. The only time i did see him that night was when he pooped she came rushing over to me and said "he's stinky, you need to do something about that". i took him into a spare bedroom and changed him on the floor UNDER a coatrack because she was still hovering right over my shoulder. she was like "you can change hm on the bed" and i said "no this is fine" (seriously, give me some privacy and some space- Puuulease!) and no sooner did i fasten his diaper, she grabbed him off the floor and took off. his pants werent even up!!!
that trip was the only time i suffered from post partum depression and to this day my husband thinks im being ridiculous!

oh yeah, and that was only the second time i had seen his mom ever!

MIL can be your best friend AND/OR your worst freakin nightmare!!!!!!!!!

Quoting USMCBabyOnTheWay:“ the ormula thing sounds like something my MIL would pull. i will not be pumping just for someone else to feed my baby unless it's my husband or if MY mom is watching her”

his mom wont be babysitting unless its the last thing i can chose from. his dad is babysitting in june and if she tries anything i will be pissed. half the time when i pump bottles to bring to her house she never feeds her. its either me or john (jarretts dad) who ends up having to... why should i bring a bottle then??? grr

I'd stop visiting her. Then she'll get the message.