re: Is abortion right for me

I think that men that tell women to have abortions r selfish it is your body not yours when I lost my first baby I lost it and I think men r just scared of paying child support but if he is there than great if u do it alone than good for u I'm a single mom and I get support and ill tell u right now I would rather b myself have my little one instead of thinking about it in the future. Good luck girly and u need to do what u think is right not what he wants!! Again good luck hope all is well

Quoting Link:" They HAVE to give you an ultrasound.. You can ask them no to show it to you. "

That depends on the state you live in. In Oklahoma, the doc is required to show you the us and describe the fetus to you.

Quoting khigh:" That depends on the state you live in. In Oklahoma, the doc is required to show you the us and describe the fetus to you."

That is horrible. They shouldnt HAVE to do that..   If a woman decides that she doesnt want it, why must they put the girl thru more pain than she already is going thru?

Quoting Link:" That is horrible. They shouldnt HAVE to do that..   If a woman decides that she doesnt want it, why must they put the girl thru more pain than she already is going thru? "

Oklahoma is called the buckle of the Bible belt for a reason. They are also working on the personhood bill that gives rights to baby from moment of conception.

Quoting khigh:" Oklahoma is called the buckle of the Bible belt for a reason. They are also working on the personhood bill that gives rights to baby from moment of conception."

Yeah that make alot of sense.. more girls doing stupid smurf to themselves..   cant believe the government has to have a say in our uterus'

Quoting Whattodo:" I've recently found myself in a tough spot. I already have two children, a two year old and an 8 month ... [snip!] ... on the nuvaring. I'm looking for supportive words, maybe your own journey and experience. I feel very confused right now."

im pretty sure i got pregnant on the nuvaring as well

i have one daughter she is about to be 4 in a few months & am now pregnant with my 2nd
i only knew the guy a month before i found out i am pregnant, i didn't see the relationship going anywhere but in my heart i knew i couldn't and can't get an abortion.

if its not in your heart to get the abortion then don't, it will hurt so much more to abort if your hearts not in it then to keep the baby and go through the craziness of 3 kids.

i had an abortion when i was 17 so i am not against abortion my heart wasnt in it then i knew the guy for a while but i hadnt graduated high school yet & had so much ahead of me the guy refused to help me out and told me he would leave the state if i kept it my friends told me i needed to abort and at the end of the day i was dropped off at planned parenthood and told to do it. so i did it, i still think about it every day and it breaks my heart. although i wouldn't have my daughter and probably wouldn't be pregnant with this one. if he says he would support your decision but its your relationship that could be in jeopardy then think of it this way - there is no guarantee that the relationship will work out either way. so think about what you want and your heart first.

I think you should take your other children in to consideration. My sis just had her 3rd kid and her relationship with her husband is awful and has always been that way. Hes a smurffy person and doesnt help out at all and i really think she made a mistake when she chose to keep the last one because her other two are the ones who are gonna suffer when everything goes down the drain. I can understand that its difficult to choose an abortion since im 8½ months pregnant and all on my own, but sometimes you have to use your head because its going to affect others than just you.