vent :(

sooooooo, im 17 i work and go to school and i have beautiful 3 month old son, my son does not sleep through the night so i am up monday-sunday with him im always with him there is not one night he has been away from me... his fathers mom has taken him a night or two when i was staying there for a month ... but ever since i moved back home with my parents his father does not take him for a night does not ask to see me and his son ... or even his son ! mind you me and my son's father are together ... he is 19 graduated last year ... and he would rather hangout with his friend on the weekends or make plans with his friends and cancel plans with me and his son .. and it gets so irritating because i get shut down all the time, and he is the type that brags about how he dont see his kids (he has a two year old daughter) but i dont keep him from his son, so i told him to not ever tell nobody that he don't see his son because i ask .. and im getting fed up idk what to do anymore because i have been stuck in the house the whole time i was pregnant and i think we can all agree that it would be nice to have a break once in a while .. i think i am starting to go insane -____-

why would you stay with him? he obviously isn't committed to you or his child..

You've been with him since you were 12?

he has a 2 year old that he donst care about what do you expect?
sorry but you need to get custody and child support and forget his ass do what you need to do to support your LO and move on.

Quoting Bizzle.:" You've been with him since you were 12?"

where did u see this? i must have missed it

Why don't you just ask his mom to get the baby?

I honestly think you and your little man are way better off without him. If he doesn't give the attention to the two year old you are never going to get him to pay attention to his son. You are honestly better off just letting him go and do his own thing and you do what you have to do for your son. In the end your son will know who has been there for him from the beginning and you will feel amazing for that(:

Quoting Small Fry&Bed Bug:" he has a 2 year old that he donst care about what do you expect? sorry but you need to get custody and child support and forget his ass do what you need to do to support your LO and move on."

 

Why do girls do this smurf? They get with a guy that has kids already and what, think they are going to be different? If I see a guy that already has kids he has nothing to do with I'm certainly not going to be popping out more kids for him...

Quoting Redneck mamma:"   Why do girls do this smurf? They get with a guy that has kids already and what, think they are going ... [snip!] ... If I see a guy that already has kids he has nothing to do with I'm certainly not going to be popping out more kids for him..."

100% agree

When it comes to what to do now. Obviously leave him and move on with your life.

Quoting Redneck mamma:"   Why do girls do this smurf? They get with a guy that has kids already and what, think they are going ... [snip!] ... If I see a guy that already has kids he has nothing to do with I'm certainly not going to be popping out more kids for him..."

  this! but i did it too  

Quoting ~~My*EgGo*Is*PrEgGo~~:"   this! but i did it too  "

and guess what.. he hasnt seen his son in 3 years

I Have Been In Your Shoes and it sucks big time , but you have to learn that you can not make anybody grow up and step up and be a man and take care of his responsibilities . I know its hard but the sooner you let go the better . If He has had a little girl for 3 years and hasn't stepped up then he will prolly never step for your son .. I wish the best for you and your son and you guys will be in my prayers , good luck !