Parents' pressure

My mom had a dream that she was holding a newborn girl (me & my sister both stood beside her), and ever since she woke up from that dream, she knew she had a granddaughter on the way! 1 month later, my sister (almost 17 at the time) got her shots for college & had the Dr. give a PT. It came back positive! I seriously believe my mom wants me to be pregnant too! All I asked them for Christmas was ONE month's tanning because that's what I really wanted! Instead, I got a Christmas card w/money saying, "I know you wanted a tanning package, but hopefully you are pregnant!   ".  My heart sunk. Has anyone ever felt pressured to be pregnant? (It's weird/sad/frustrating) I told her it wasn't going to happen until Anthony & I were ready & even took a PT to show her I wasn't! The look on her face I will never forget. It made me feel like such a disappointment!! My step-dad (since I was 3yrs old) keeps telling me to brush it off, but it really gets to me sometimes! Has anybody tried to pressure you into getting pregnant? That's a big deal when you aren't TTC yet. It's gotten to the point that I don't call her much b/c she’ll ask, "is there something you want to tell me?".   *ugh*
 
Has anyone been in any kind of similar situation?? Even if it's your SO, please respond. I'm so confused! We drove 8 hrs to visit them last weekend & she constantly looked at my stomach!! [uncomfortable much?] I just really wish she’d put all her focus on my sister (17 now) for being pregnant w/her 1st grandbaby, instead of me!   Who has stood up for themselves (not just this topic, but a major topic) & still feel guilty? It's just not fair.

Quoting Jen-Nifer:“ My mom had a dream that she was holding a newborn girl (me & my sister both stood beside her), and ... [snip!] ... much?] I just really wish she’d put all her focus on my sister (17 now) for being pregnant w/her 1stgrandbaby, instead of me!”

Yes. And I was only 17. But my mother was practically begging my now husband to take my virginity and get me pregnant.

We ended up giving in and now have a five year old little boy. And while I don't regret my child, I feel like my mother shouldn't have pushed me so hard, especially while I was still a child.

Sorry - I didn't realize I had asked so many personal ?'s... so I changed most of them!

Quoting Jen-Nifer:“ Sorry - I didn't realize I had asked so many personal ?'s... so I changed most of them!”

lol It's not that big of a deal lol Ask away...I've noticed most of us on here aren't bothered by answering personal questions :-)

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ Yes. And I was only 17. But my mother was practically begging my now husband to take my virginity ... [snip!] ... while I don't regret my child, I feel like my mother shouldn't have pushed me so hard, especially while I was still a child.”

wow, 17? Well I guess they're use to it b/c my great g-ma was 17 when she had my g-ma, g-ma 17 = mom, mom 17 when she had me. but still. I'm sorry to hear that she was begging you to loose your virginity. I mean, if I do end up pregnant, I'd love it. It's just the process (stress b/c of pressure) before it happens that's getting to me. Did that make sense??

So did you or your mom convince your boyfriend to go through w/it???  I would've given in too at 17.

Quoting Jen-Nifer:“ wow, 17? Well I guess they're use to it b/c my great g-ma was 17 when she had my g-ma, g-ma 17 = mom, ... [snip!] ... I'd love it. It's just the process (stress b/c of pressure) before it happens that's getting to me. Did that make sense??”

That completely makes sense. No one really convinced him. We had started having sex before she started asking me to lose my virginity lol Brandon just sort of happened, more or less, but since we didn't feel the need to use protection because my mother didn't care, we were young and did the "stupid" thing. Like I said, I could never regret my boy, but I do wish I'd been more precautious and not given in to what my mother wanted.

Quoting *Wicked Mama*:“ That completely makes sense. No one really convinced him. We had started having sex before she started ... [snip!] ... Like I said, I could never regret my boy, but I do wish I'd been more precautious and not given in to what my mother wanted.”

ohh, ok.  I think I got to that point b4 (wanted to stop using condoms) too, but then reality set in.  we love kids & wouldn't mind having one (that's why we bought a 2bdrm instead of a 1), but with my mom on our back, it's frustrating! 

My sister is due July 24th, and I'm hoping my mom would leave me alone. It's weird b/c she never pressured me to do anything growing up! not even sports or chores (which wouldn't have hurt me). Thank you for speaking up, b/c I was starting to think that i was going crazy by thinking this is what she wants for me. I've complained about it to about 4 people total besides Anthony, and they just laugh! 

Quoting Jen [nifer]:“ My sister is due July 24th, and I'm hoping my mom would leave me alone. It's weird b/c she never pressured ... [snip!] ... thinking this is what she wants for me. I've complained about it to about 4 people total besides Anthony, and they just laugh!”

my mum did the same after we had Molly she kept asking and asking...every month i would get the are you yet???? so friggen annoying... eventually we got pregnant and lost it due to ectopic pregnancy it was sooo sad a month later my mum was diagnosed with cancer (not good) 2 months later we fell pregnant again and everything was going great... i was having morning sickness and mum was having chemo sickness...so we had something in common LOL... when iw as 5 months pregnant mums diagnosis was no good her memory was fading fast and she didnt know us from strangers... by the time i had Jett she held him (with lots of help she was bed ridden) and said only baby... it still makes me sad to this day....what if I had him earlier so she could have spent time with him.. should I have waited so I wasnt losing her but gaining my baby.. I dont know theres never an "ideal" time to have a baby and you never know what can happen... people will always ask the question so when will you have kids and it doesnt stop after one... then questioning gets worse with 'well they need a sibling" you can never win.... goodluck with your mum but just take it with a grain of rice.. nod and say yes mum... I would give anything to do that again..

Quoting adelaidemum~50DAYS~:“ my mum did the same after we had Molly she kept asking and asking...every month i would get the are ... [snip!] ... goodluck with your mum but just take it with a grain of rice.. nod and say yes mum... I would give anything to do that again..”

I know this doesn't help much, but I truly am sorry to hear that you lost your mum. I haven't replied to you b/c I've been at loss of words. Your story touched me. My g-ma passed away a few months ago from lung cancer. Last year I flew out to see her in the hospital & she called me her baby b/c I'm her youngest grandchild. Months after I left, she couldn't remember anybody. I called her 2 days before she passed & the only thing she said was "my baby".  Thank you for sharing your story. You have my deepest sympathy.