anyone else...

I was wondering if anyone else was offered a scan photo when they went to find out how far along they were?

I was, I watched my baby on the ultrasound screen. I kept the photo. I think that seeing my baby is what has made it so hard to move on. Four years later and I am still grieving. (The abortion wasn't my choice, I was 15 my parents arranged it).

I can't move on. I don't really know what to do about it. I can't sit around feeling sorry for myself, I have a baby on the way now. But I think that's what's making me think about it so much now. Is it wrong for me to grieve for a baby that I allowed someone to take from me? Ughhhhhh.

I got two pics at mine. They asked if I wanted it I said sure. About 2-3months After I threw them away.

Probably what I should do too. I just can't bring myself to.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie Shikari:</b>" Probably what I should do too. I just can't bring myself to."</blockquote>




For me it was an easy choice to do it. I was using condoms so I wouldn't get pregnant because I couldn't be pregnant and take the meds I needed so my only choice was to terminate. I thought me momento would be nice but then it made me dwell on it and I couldn't get better so I crumpled the pics and tossed them after that I never really had any hang ups about it

Hi Ellie,
I’m so sorry about what you’re going through right now. I don’t know if it helps at all to know that you’re not alone – what you’re feeling is experienced by many women who have had an abortion, and it’s ok to allow yourself to grieve. Healing is a process and I would encourage you to seek some outside help and support. If you’re not sure where to start, you might check out the OptionLine website and click where you see “After Abortion.” There are some good resources there and also a directory for centers that offer programs – I see you’re in the UK, and it looks like there are some there – even if they’re not near where you live, you may be able to just call and talk with someone. Another possibility is CARE for the Family – you could call them at (029) 2081 0800 or check their website for some other referrals. I work with an organization in the US called Focus on the Family, which is associated with this one, and we have some resources that might be helpful for you too – a booklet called Healing the Hurt, and a book, A Solitary Sorrow. I’m glad you’re reaching out here, and I’ll be praying that you’ll find comfort and peace. Take care, ok?

<blockquote><b>Quoting ColorRed:</b>" Hi Ellie, I’m so sorry about what you’re going through right now. I don’t know if it helps at all to ... [snip!] ... A Solitary Sorrow. I’m glad you’re reaching out here, and I’ll be praying that you’ll find comfort and peace. Take care, ok?"</blockquote>

Thank you very much, I will be sure to look into everything you have suggested. It is much appreciated.