pro life bullsmurf

Ive always been prochoice. i think that the only thing that will stop if we make abortions against the law will be *safe* abortions. Deperate women will still find a way to do it and we've all heard the horror story of back alley doctors and coat hangers.

So that make me prochoice not pro abortion. I felt that every woman (and arguably the man if he is in the picture and wants to be involved) should have the right to choose. Personally, I didnt think that I would ever choose to have an abortion. These feelings intensified after having my daughtr 2 years ago. she was not planned. SO and I started dating 2 weeks before I conceived. We were both working dead end jobs but we did it. If we could do it then we could always do it. Plus how could I ever deny myself the delight of another baby??

Yeah well I found out Im pregnant again. SO and I are not stable. I just started school in january. I dont even have another bedroom unless major remodeling happens. Everything else aside, I just dont want and cannot handle another child right now. Ive known a few weeks but I finally made my first appointment today. Theyll do an ultrasound tomorrow. amazing - it is a THREE MONTH wait here to get smurfing birth control but they can put you right in for an abortion.

The worst part is all the prolife BS running through my head. all that smurf about bei ng the mother of a dead baby and how they have fingers and toes and they know what happening. all that brainwashing crap. all of it. i cant sleep. i cant eat. i cant go 2 minutes without some BS propaganda running through my head. Im goig to have a breakdown by the time everything is said and done

Quoting Cute_aza_Button WAL:" Ive always been prochoice. i think that the only thing that will stop if we make abortions against the ... [snip!] ... without some BS propaganda running through my head. Im goig to have a breakdown by the time everything is said and done "

I'm so sorry you are going through this. It cannot be an easy choice to make.

Maybe try to remember the quality of life you want to provide for your living child is more important than the unborn.

I felt the same way, and it didn't help that there were so many issues surrounding the abortion. But, I did it.. I can't say I'm not sad, but I don't regret it anymore & there are days where I don't even think about it.. it was the right thing for me to do, as it will be for you (I assume lol)... you'll be strong, if you need someone to talk to, I'm here! Good luck.

Im sorry you are having those thoughts....in the end do what is best for YOUR situation, and clearly you know what that is. Why do they make you wait so long for BC?

Quoting Kid Blacky™:" Im sorry you are having those thoughts....in the end do what is best for YOUR situation, and clearly you know what that is. Why do they make you wait so long for BC?"

itd to get a darn doctors appt. Ive had a really hard time remembering to take the pill. I nursed until april so I had to take the mini pill and basically didnt take it . Honestly, BFing really must be somewhat effective as BC for loger than 6 months because the month after i weaned I was pregnant. I did the shot but ended up in the hospital with blood loss and positional hypertention. I tried making an appt to get new BC (like the patch or even an IUD) but the receptionish told me it was 3ont wait. funny, even then i half laughed and said "wait - next time i call Ill be pregnant". stuipd me because thats what happened

Quoting Cute_aza_Button WAL:" itd to get a darn doctors appt. Ive had a really hard time remembering to take the pill. I nursed until ... [snip!] ... wait. funny, even then i half laughed and said "wait - next time i call Ill be pregnant". stuipd me because thats what happened"

I'd go with the IUD. No hormones! I hate hormonal BCs... Use condoms until you can get it!

Quoting MommyRu:" I'd go with the IUD. No hormones! I hate hormonal BCs... Use condoms until you can get it! "

my last family doctor wouldnt give me one. I had really bad cramos before LO (like in the hospital bad cramps) and I have a family history of endomitriosis (or however you spell it lol) so he didnt want anyting that would get in the way in case I needed any sort of emergencry anything. he didnt even want me to do the nuvaring thing. the cramps are not there anymore so I have been thinking about it. it would be nice not to have to think about it for a few years

Quoting Cute_aza_Button WAL:" itd to get a darn doctors appt. Ive had a really hard time remembering to take the pill. I nursed until ... [snip!] ... wait. funny, even then i half laughed and said "wait - next time i call Ill be pregnant". stuipd me because thats what happened"

As long as you have no doubts within yourself dont let pro-life talk sway you. Only you know what you can emotionally, physically, and financially handle right now. I wish you the best of luck, and hopefully they dont screw you around when it comes to the BC.

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time.  
*hugs*

I want to cry. I feel the exact same way and I'm in the exact same spot in life. I was thinking about getting one and now I'm 15 weeks. I'm really confused and with this one I feel super dettached and depressed. One day I feel like I can handle it then ill be a messlater. I don't know. I'm jusri just hope everything works out with you.

Quoting Cute_aza_Button WAL:" Ive always been prochoice. i think that the only thing that will stop if we make abortions against the ... [snip!] ... without some BS propaganda running through my head. Im goig to have a breakdown by the time everything is said and done "

I'm so sorry. To be honest, I felt the same way. Except I never wanted to get my abortion--I was pressured into it by my DH (boyfriend at the time). And believe me, the same thoughts were running through my head. Especially how the baby had a heartbeat at 6 weeks. I did everything I could to try and convince him to let me keep the baby, but his ultimatum (him or the baby) plus me being 18, scared and alone, no support from anyone, going to school and working a dead end job at Walmart, made me follow through with it.

And honestly I never regretted anything more. I had my abortion almost two years ago, and every day my heart aches with the loss. But now that I'm pregnant again, the pain has been a lot easier to deal with. I feel like it was a just sacrifice, because if I hadn't given up that baby, I probably never would have kept this one, and my life would be very different from what it is today.

I guess my point is, yeah it's really painful to go through.... And most women don't have an abortion without serious thought and consideration for the life they are taking. Just remember that this is something you're not ready for, and you need to provide the very best for the child you already have. There's nothing you can do now that you are pregnant. You will either have the baby, or get rid of it. Either way it is there, and now you need to decide what you are doing.

If you follow through with the abortion, just remember that it was what you thought was best for your family and don't hold on to the "oh, the baby had a heartbeat when I killed it," "oh, the baby had little fingers and toes," "oh, the baby was this far along when I took it's life."Don't let those thoughts haunt you. I did, for so so long, and it is so hard and painful to deal with. Just be strong. You are making an incredibly hard decision; don't let it be something you regret. I feel that if you think an abortion is best for your situation, you should be able to go through with it knowing you put the child you have now first, and that is the best you can do.

I hope that if you do have the abortion, you'll be able to look back on it like I do now, which is something that was for the best.