re: ~~February 2013 Due Date Thread~~

Quoting Fusselinchen:" noooo. bathtub duckies. they started growing mold inside so i asked BG what to do. someone suggested ... [snip!] ... them in the dishwasher on a regular basis now, thats what someone else said they are doing and they never had a mold issue.  "

i do vinegar to clean them. also, put some hot glue over the hole, unless she loves to fill them with water.

Quoting Sammi + Bailey *JAS08*:" Im so sorry. Honestly , don't let her get the best of you, maybe you will feel more excited about the ... [snip!] ... same way and I learn to ignore it and appreciate the fact im in a different state. I hope things start looking up for you xoxox"

they live in the buffalo area, they just think where i want to move to is still too far (it's about 18 miles, the courts told me 20 mile radisu)

they're just never happy.

Quoting Lil' Nugget.:" they live in the buffalo area, they just think where i want to move to is still too far (it's about 18 miles, the courts told me 20 mile radisu) they're just never happy."

In the words of my grandfather "tough smurf on a shingle for them" Its what he told me when I told him I was moving to NJ and my mom was angry at me. Its not like you are moving cross country. They need to suck it up and move on.

Quoting Sammi + Bailey *JAS08*:" In the words of my grandfather "tough smurf on a shingle for them" Its what he told me when I told him ... [snip!] ... I was moving to NJ and my mom was angry at me. Its not like you are moving cross country. They need to suck it up and move on. "

i know.

now my issue is this baby. i cannot get happy about it. & it keeps getting bigger and more human and real. and i don't know what to do. i literally feel like my life is over. how am i supposed to work, go to school AND make time for SO? i know these are small things that ALL families deal with and it's part of being a family. but it's not what i want. i'm 22. i smurfed up, royally. i'm numb to anything right now. i just want it to be over.

i wish i could go in and talk to my therapist but she's always booked forever. & if i'm going to abort, i need to do it now. before it's too late.

Quoting Lil' Nugget.:" i know. now my issue is this baby. i cannot get happy about it. & it keeps getting bigger and ... [snip!] ... a family. but it's not what i want. i'm 22. i smurfed up, royally. i'm numb to anything right now. i just want it to be over."

You just need time to adapt, everything will work out but its not going to be overnight. It takes work and its going to be hard at first. However, it is worth it. You need to focus on the good in your life. Stay positive. If people around you are negative then do not be around them. You are in a tough spot right now. If you need someone to talk to do not hesitate to message me!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lil' Nugget.:</b>" it doesn't help. i barely want this new one. i'm trying to be excited, but i'm not. i'm completely unhappy."</blockquote>




I'm speaking from experience:

I was not excited about my second at all! abortion crossed my mind many times, we even wound up at the clinic twice and I didn't go through with it. so and I were in a HORRIBLE place and we hated each other, it even got physical a couple of times. Both parties fault, I should add. My family was horrible to us and my oldest son's dad is a dead beat. Any ways, we decided we needed to get away from all the bull smurf and we packed up our things and moved from Phoenix, Arizona to Durango, Colorado while I was 8 months pregnant. Getting away from all the negatives in our lives was the best thing to ever happen to us.

Don't let your mother influence your decisions in life with something so big. You are a big girl now and you need to do what's right for you and your family.

Oh, and as for the baby, I did not grow attached to my second until about a month post partum. I know it sounds horrible but I was really in a rough spot and that's how I truly felt. Of course I will never tell him this story, I love him more than life itself now. Sometimes.... Just sometimes, your current situation,.can and will affect your emotions towards that baby growing inside you. It will pass, hopefully quicker than out did for me.

Don't let others bring you down our tell you what to do, that's your decision. Make it for yourself.

Quoting Lil' Nugget.:" i know. now my issue is this baby. i cannot get happy about it. & it keeps getting bigger and ... [snip!] ... a family. but it's not what i want. i'm 22. i smurfed up, royally. i'm numb to anything right now. i just want it to be over."

So sorry that you feel this way. I felt this way about my first son. Even after I had him, I still didn't feel like I wanted him and I had to talk to a therapist. In the end I'm glad that I do have him. He's my heart!

In the end, you have to make the decisions that are best for you. Otherwise, you'll never be happy.

I really hope you get things figured out, mama!

Quoting Momma Kylee +2.5:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lil' Nugget.:</b>" it doesn't help. i barely want this new ... [snip!] ... than out did for me. Don't let others bring you down our tell you what to do, that's your decision. Make it for yourself."

Thank you. I am glad to hear I am not alone, because that's how I feel most of the time. I'm staying at my parents until I get Carson back on Sunday. I need some space from Jake. Clear my head. I think him & I are pretty doomed either way, unfortunately.

He would gladly take the baby, but I don't feel right doing that. Adoption is one thing, but just letting him take him/her then never knowing it, I don't think I could deal with that.

I have a lot to think about still. We'll see  

Oh & I see my therapist on Tuesday. Baby appointment is supposed to be wednesday. Then i have an abortion set up for Thursday, in case I do want it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lil' Nugget.:</b>" had a blow out with my mom. i'm sick of always being a disappointment. nothing i have ever done is good ... [snip!] ... crossed my mind again. i'm just hating everything. i'm not excited about this baby. i'm trying to be, but i'm just not."</blockquote>


Screw 'em!!! Don't let them get you down!

Shoot my mom & sister (the sister I grew up with) are nut jobs so I don't even talk to them! With my last pregnancy, they somehow (within 24 hours of us finding out & sharing news with friends & family) managed to find out & email me wanting to "work things out for the sake of the family & new baby joining the family"...that lasted all of a few weeks before my mom went crazy like usual & for no reason called me up cussing me out while I was staying with a friend who's fiancé had just been killed by a drunk driver. I nicely told her to never bother calling or contacting me, *yet again*, & sadly if I'm not dealing with one of them, I can't with the other...they're like BFF's & tell each other EVVVVVERYTHING, so I'd have no privacy or freedom from their craziness.

Anyway, sorry such a long story, my point is I'm pretty much keeping this pregnancy a secret so I don't have to deal with their B.S. & drama this time around. Like maybe 15-20 close family (only on my dad's side who don't talk to either of them & know they're crazy) & extremely close friends who don't even know them have been told. My MIL lives out of state on the East Coast, so I've created a second FB just so I can keep her & the people I know I can 100% trust, informed of the pregnancy & progress.

As far as I'm concerned about people who are old mutual family friends, they can all eat it about knowing for now since I don't know who told them last time...that's what happens when you're dealing with crazy people & others don't know or realize just how crazy they are & want to do them a favor & keep them updated on my life...they no longer get the important updates. I've even stopped posting as many pics & stuff over the years on my FB with mutual old family friends that I know keep in contact with my mom & sister.



I hope your family chills out & realizes this is a happy time for you & they should be supportive.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sammi + Bailey *JAS08*:</b>" Im so sorry. Honestly , don't let her get the best of you, maybe you will feel more excited about the ... [snip!] ... same way and I learn to ignore it and appreciate the fact im in a different state. I hope things start looking up for you xoxox"</blockquote>


All this is great advice & she's got a good point...if they want to see him, they'll make the effort.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Momma Kylee +2.5:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lil' Nugget.:</b>" it doesn't help. i barely want this new ... [snip!] ... than out did for me. Don't let others bring you down our tell you what to do, that's your decision. Make it for yourself."</blockquote>

All this! So far everyone else is giving great advice, so there's not much if anything left for me to say that I can think of.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lil' Nugget.:</b>" Thank you. I am glad to hear I am not alone, because that's how I feel most of the time. I'm staying ... [snip!] ... him take him/her then never knowing it, I don't think I could deal with that. I have a lot to think about still. We'll see  "</blockquote>


I thought things were getting better with Jake? I think you guys are just under a lot of stress between new baby, new home & having to move, custody battle with Carson's dad, Jake's work stuff & finding a new job, etc.

I know I've had some rough patches with DH before we were married & I broke things off briefly twice, then I thought about it & realized, "if we were married, would these be things I'd want to work through or get a divorce over?" Well, obviously you know what my answer was every time or we'd never have gotten back together, then eventually engaged & married, lol. So maybe if you both look at the situation that way since you were considering marriage? Maybe it'd help? Just an idea.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lil' Nugget.:</b>" i wish i could go in and talk to my therapist but she's always booked forever. & if i'm going to abort, i need to do it now. before it's too late."</blockquote>

I hope everything gets figured out by then.

I know you mentioned adoption in another previous post, if you went that route would you do open or closed adoption?