Custody/abuse

I didn't know where to post this. But I was raped by my boyfriend at the time at 13 He beat me all the time my parents did nothing about it. My mom actually seen him do it and did nothing.. Fast forward 4 years and I won't let her go over there to see her "dad" my daughter is 4 years Old now. And her "dad" got caught beating his now wife. My daughter came home with hand print bruises on her butt and came home a different day saying her dad chokes her to keep her quiet. Which he use to do to me so I believe her. She hasn't went over there since january maybe? Well my husband has been there since she was 9 months old and that's who she calls dad. I was just wondering if anyone had children and the parent abused and stuff, what kind of visitations will he most likely get? I don't want her over there at all!! He's tried killing himself, he abuses people, rapes people and I just don't want her over there. We have a court date today. I'm not exactly sure what it's for. But he's not paying child support even tho it's ordered. He's like 500 behind.

Call cos on him now!! And arrange for it, if he gets charged you do not have to let her go there

did you file a police report when the abuse occurred?   I'm sure that would help your case

OMG that is so awful  

tell the judge you want him to speak with your daughter .you should have called the cops the day she said he chokes her omg i wanna kick his ass im so mad

Sweetie, please call the Police. You know he is abusing her, you know he sexually abuses people. I know you're scared of him because of your shared past, but you have to find a way to get over that enough to protect your daughter. If you don't, someone else WILL figure out what's going on and both of you will be in trouble. Him for abusing her - you for allowing it by letting her continue to go and not stopping it.

Wow call the police DO NOT let her go there he will end up killing someone. Get the court to have supervised visitations or not to see him at all. Get a restraining order for your daughter anything to keep his hands off of her.

you have to take pics of the bruises and call the police. even if the bruises are gone now, still, call the police and file a restraining order against him. you have to protect your daughter.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Live life, cherish moment:</b>" I didn't know where to post this. But I was raped by my boyfriend at the time at 13 He beat me all the ... [snip!] ... date today. I'm not exactly sure what it's for. But he's not paying child support even tho it's ordered. He's like 500 behind."</blockquote>



If he gets her again, have a camera ready.. My father was like this. If you can prove it or at least tell your attorney, if you have one, about what has happened. They can better help you. If you do prove he was abusive to your daughter he will most likely be limited to supervised visitation and maybe parenting/anger management classes. It all varies on your county and judge.

I have picture of the abuse, and I did call CPs and the police on him! They did literally nothing! They said they cannot tell who did it even tho I had my cousins there who are 30 that seen she came home with it. I will not let her go over there and I'm just afraid they will give him visitations back! CPS told me I did not have to let her go over there at all.

revoke his rights 100%
never allow him to see her again, if you have to go to court to make it this way, do it.
any police reports?

Quoting Live life, cherish moment:" I have picture of the abuse, and I did call CPs and the police on him! They did literally nothing! They ... [snip!] ... over there and I'm just afraid they will give him visitations back! CPS told me I did not have to let her go over there at all."

Then don't let her go over there, period.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Waiting for you ❤:</b>" revoke his rights 100% never allow him to see her again, if you have to go to court to make it this way, do it. any police reports?"</blockquote>




No, but there is police reports from hitting me and his wife. When we went to the police they said she to young to tell the truth. :/ what the smurfrfrf?? Okay she's not stupid she doesn't just come home saying that.

do you have to let her go there? is there a custody arangment in place? i think you need to talk to a lawyer if possible. if you have to let her go over there anymore think about getting a nanny camera or a pin camera or somthing and see if you can get it on video.

<blockquote><b>Quoting jaela's♥mommy {BBM}:</b>" do you have to let her go there? is there a custody arangment in place? i think you need to talk to a ... [snip!] ... her go over there anymore think about getting a nanny camera or a pin camera or somthing and see if you can get it on video."</blockquote>



I thought there was, but I went to see my case worker for our case and she said I don't have to let her go there either.
I'm just worried about what the judge will say. Like if him saying she has to go over there, I just don't know what he will get for visitations. Like supervised? None at all? That's what I'm worried about

I would recomend you get your child into some counsling, that is verifyable info that she gives them and could be used in court.. always always take pictures of her before she goes and she come back.. And document conversations threats, and If I were you I would not accept his money until it is court ordered... I might not hurt to have her checked out by a doctor too.. If hes capable of raping hes capable of hurting your daughter in such ways to.. maybe even invest in one of those nanny cameras and put it in a bear?? I dont think your daughter should be having any kind of unsupervised visitation with him..