Apparently I'm going to be a single momma :(

Today is my baby shower for my little man   I'm gonna put on my happy face, after all a happy momma yields a happy baby boy. My nervousness and anxiety over baby has reached its highest so far, as the baby's father chose to throw me out yesterday. I'm eight months pregnant, we had been together for 3 years. I couldn't appreciate all the support of my close friends and family especially right now, but I have this terrible fear of being a single mom. I know I can do this, after all it's only been me preparing and supporting what was our household for the past several months, and I honestly can not worry about having to take care of the newborn and his father. This is simply just not what I had ever expected, so far have my dreams and expectations for my son have fallen  . Though the father did practically nothing except blow all the money we had coming in, he had at least some excitement over having a baby- discussing names and the nursery. Then out of the blue he doesn't love me. Had no intention of even signing the birth certificate. I don't want criticisms of what was, this is where I am now- I have my parents and friends and family firmly behind me. I will do everything I can for this baby, as I have been. I just wish baby's father would at least step up for his son's sake.

Being a single mom isn't that bad I promise. It is hard but it is totally worth it!

Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" Being a single mom isn't that bad I promise. It is hard but it is totally worth it! "

seriously! Kala is right.
Being a single mom is hard as smurf but well worth it. lol.

I'm sorry you're going through a hard time.

Stay strong, sounds like you're on your way.

Quoting Link:" seriously! Kala is right. Being a single mom is hard as smurf but well worth it. lol. "

lol I'm actually super lost without the kids. I told BD this is his last chance, well Last night he got home from "work" early but his dad is too stupid to see that he isn't working just pawning the kids off.

I am sorry that is pretty smurf of him. I was a single parent to my son for the first 3 years of his life. His father has been in and out of prison and if it were up to me I would have terminated his rights a long time ago.

To be honest, having a great family supports system is great and helpful.

Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" lol I'm actually super lost without the kids. I told BD this is his last chance, well Last night he ... [snip!] ... Last night he got home from "work" early but his dad is too stupid to see that he isn't working just pawning the kids off. "

lol!! Adrian is with my dad this weekend. Im scared and pissed but.. at least Im getting a break so I can rest.

BDs are dumb as smurf. lol.

Im sorry your going through this but trust me its not all bad.An when you look at how amazing your child turns out to be,you'll feel so much prouder knowing you did it alone.I know thats how I felt. 

Quoting Link:" lol!! Adrian is with my dad this weekend. Im scared and pissed but.. at least Im getting a break so I can rest. BDs are dumb as smurf. lol. "

Amen to that!!!

OP if you ever need to vent you can message me!  

I split up with my ex when my eldest son was 2, it was my decision and it took me a long time to do as was scared of being a single parent and coping alone, but was the best thing i ever did, my ex like yours was more of a hinderance than a help and my life was so much more relaxed without him, i am now happily married and expecting my third child, its all good, things will work out for the best

You can do it! It can be really hard at times but it's very rewarding, you will be suprise at how well you will adapt. Honestly it sounds like your better off without you BD anyway. You and your LO deserve so much more and never forget that.

So sorry to hear what you're going through   My mom raised my brother and I as a single mom and I think we turned out pretty good hehe. The love and support from family and friends will defintely help you get through this. You have every right to be scared, it's a huge change, but if BD doesn't want to be a part of that beautiful little boy's life, then let him go. I know that may sound bad and it may be hard for you to accept, but it may be better than forcing him to stay in the baby's life. If BD chooses to be a part of your son's life later on, your son will realize on his own that it was all his mama who loved him, fed him, kept him warm, kept him clean and so much more. I unfortunately speak from a bit of experience, but the fear will soon grow to pride to know that your son turned out to be a wonderful child because of you. Much love and I pray for the best <3

My mama was a single mother and she gave me all the love and support i ever needed. she was and still is my world and more, she did a fine job raising me and i lover her each and every day for it! im sure you will do a perfectly good job looking after your baby just stay strong and be happy you have your family behind you  

i was a single mum to my eldest for the first two years of her life and yes it was hard but all her achievements were down to just me and it makes me so proud. im 28 weeks pregnant now and looks like im going to be on my own again as me and my other half are having serious relationship problems. it seems really scary now but once you're there and you get used to it, it is seriously well worth it! good luck  

Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement! Being back at my moms house has brought a wave of relief really. It's such a relief to not wake up in the morning and be flooded by intense feelings of worry over keeping the apartment, having food, or even being able to make it to work to get the next paycheck. This is giving me an opportunity to worry about the things that matter like this precious little jumping bean in my belly  . I hope for my son's sake his father pulls his head outa his butt, I just want my little man to know regardless that he is loved beyond all else. And as for the BD- well let's just say you never really know a woman until you meet her in court  . Thank you again everyone!!