Quoting whoknowsx:" While I know you are trying to give constructive criticism, and I appreciate it -- I am seeking advice ... [snip!] ... just me and my LO then its not for lack of effort to have his father in the home. I only wish the same could be said about him."
What are you looking on advice for? How to get over him? The best way to get over someone is to STAY away from them. Find new things in your life to do, re-bond with your girls, go to a movie with an friend, do things that keep you busy so your heart can heal.
But you can't do that since you are moving in with him. You are putting your vulnerable heart into a bad situation. How do you turn your feelings off for him when you are going to see him everyday? How do you not let your heart burst with joy when you see him bathing your child, or rocking him to sleep?
I can see why you want your family together...and I dont have to know either of you to know what he's missing out on...but how is he going to see that if he has you and his child in his home?
And what is your next plan? To finish school and then leave his home with your child? Thats the most unrealistic thing ever. Your heart and family will only grow strong over the next year or however long you have till school is done.
There has to be other options. He cant be the only person who can give you shelter...and if he is, then you've set your life up for it to be that way. You need to move on. You need to focus on you and your child. You need to be prepared to be the best single mama ever!
But...If you want to stay, and you want to learn how to 'move on' then you need to focus on ANYTHING other then him. Let him see what he's missing out on. Go about your life and do what you want to do.
**This is just going to be very difficult when you will be with him at all times and sharing a child.