VERY DETAILED.. TMI!
Please don’t judge or make ugly comments.. This is here to help.
Before i begin, I just want to say I am very pro choice.. I believe that every woman has their own right to choose whats best. I however have been seeing a lot of "It will ruin my relationship because he doesn’t want it" etc. So i have decided to share my very long awful terrible times story because i feel it is so wrong to have to be put in a situation like this....
When I was 19 years old I had 1 Child already and decided to go into the military to support him with stability and a lot more money than not having a job. So about a month before I was supposed to swear in, someone decided to throw a going away party for me. I wanted to have fun one more time before I left and so I went. When I got there, it wasn’t that big, just a little party, but I was determined anyways to at least enjoy myself. At this party there was a couple, Kelly and Mike. The girl was funny and Me and her hit it off from the get go in the most non-lesbian way of friends mind you. Later that night, after her and her husband poured me shot after shot, we ended up having a “threesome” I quote that because it was more of me and him with her watching. I was too drunk to even remember if he had condom on to be honest. Long story short.. I ended up pregnant. Of course about a week finding out someone told my mom etc.. but I will get to that in a few minutes.
So I kept my pregnancy secret except to them (and the other slight possibility.. I thought I had a period between the two people) I was heart broken when I found out. How was I going to do this? I was only a week away from swearing in for Christs sakes. The pregnancy literally felt like I had just had everything I was working towards ripped from me. I had never thought about abortion before any of this or even with this pregnancy until the day Kelly snapped. There were clues to how exactly crazy she was but nothing could have prepared me for what was about to happen. She proceeded to tell me if I didn’t get an abortion, she would make sure the baby didn’t make it.. she turned my family against me, (she hacked my att account because she worked for them and got every single persons number I had called in the past month) Told them all that I was with multiple people (I had slept with one other a couple weeks prior, but like I said I thought I had a period.) I got kicked out of my house and was pretty much forced to live there or nowhere at all. (this was before she threatened the life of my unborn child) Throughout this whole 2 weeks of hell I was living through, I still in the bottom of my heart didn’t want to do it. I however seen no other option. So I made the appointment a week from that day. I couldn’t stop thinking about what I was about to do. It overwhelmed me. I thought of every option possible, like pretending I got one just to get her off my back and then running as far away as I could as fast as I could. ANYTHING to get me out of it. I finally realized the day before there was no way I could live with my decision, so I called in private and canceled. I wasn’t sure how, but I was going to get out of this situation. I finally found it when my friend since 8th grade offered me a place to stay finally. I had somewhere else to go! I was more than relieved and left that night. It was going good until she decided to come find me.. It was the scariest moment in my life. I honestly thought she was going to kill me. HOW DID THIS WOMAN FIND ME!? Well when she walked up to the door she decided to tell me she wanted me to keep the baby. I told her it wasnt her choice that it was mine and I had already made my decision. I thought this was going to work out ok after this. I was wrong. Shortly after this day I got calls and texts from people telling me they were trying to get enough dirt on me to take custody as soon as my child was born.. MY CHILd the one that she threatened the life of not 3 weeks before. How could she be so insane!
I will cut the rest of this story short. I moved again, only this time it was with my brother, of whom she had no idea how to find since I hadnt called him from my phone in 6 months. I was so relieved to finally be rid of her. I was happy she couldnt threaten my safety or my childs. Today the deciosion to move in with my brother was the best one I had ever made. It was not a desired place to live nor the best looking but I did it for my children. I wish I had a way with words like some of these other ladies so I could at least skim the top of what I had to go through to have him. However because of those horrible times, I met my suppotie, wonderful, loving husband, and had my precious baby boy on december 23rd of 2009. (btw I mention thinking I had my period between the two guys... I didnt, It was inplantation bleeding meaning it wasnt the crazy womans husband) so I legally did not have to deal with them ever again!! So sometimes, when you feel like you have no where else to go, no other choice, there is. It might not be favorable, but its still a choice...
Here is a pic of the baby i was pregnant with!!
He saved me from so much i cant even begin to describe. I finally grew up after him and got my life on track (i should have with the first but didnt, he also saved me in ways, unfortunately not from partying)
EDIT, rewording this it sounded biased.
I wish you all the best decisions in any choice you make, whether it be to terminate, or not