first supervised visit tomorrow

ahh! I'm scared! lol my daughter has her first supervised visit with her dad tomorrow. Shes almost 1 and hasn't seen him for almost 3 months! Well she seen him once about a month ago but it wasn't a good visit considering he beat up in front of her. But we went to court and he gets supervised visits on saturdays for four hours! I think that is way too long for a baby her age. But that judge signed an order for it. I'm kinda nervous because its not at an agency or anything, its with a family friend. I'm scared that maybe she isn't going to understand exactly what "supervised" means. I just dont want him to leave with her. I'm scared that when I drop her off tomorrow I'm not going to see her again

there is no legal reason you can't be there too if you're uncomfertable with the situation (unless you were ordered otherwise).

I can't be there because I put a restraining order on him after he beat me up. The restraining order is even for him to stay away from our daughter but the judge says its in affect except for his visitation which i think is odd

id be sitting outside in my car then.

Wow. What a life. Do you really want your daughter in his presence? Why don' you just ask him to sign away his rights? Seems like she would be better without him in her life than with him in her life.

He won't sign his rights away. I know that she'd be better off but he can't understand why I'm keeping her from him. Its like he doesn't understand that beating a woman isn't ok, expecially if there are children around. We were in a custody battle because he was cheating on me, but it was suspended after i filed criminal charges against him. It really sucks because my daughter used to be really close with his parents but they don't think that he really hurt me and that i made it up to help me in court. which is bull! lol it actually happened when I was bringing her over for his visitation, before it was supervised. I think he has some kind of mental problem because he still thinks that he deserves full custody and he has never helped me buy her anything! Sorry this post was long lol I needed to vent!

Why did you do it because he was cheating on you? That has nothing to do with your daughter, just you. Why can't his parent's be close to her? Because you hate HIM?

Well i left him because he was cheating on me which led to the custody battle. But I don't want his parents around her either because they tried to tell him that I was cheating on him. i don't know what I ever did to them but they were always making stuff up to try and make him leave me. Thats the reason he beat me up was because his mom said I was cheating on him, which is bull. So basically shes the one that is causing all the problems.... If they really cared about my daughter they wouldve called and asked how my daughter was doing and I was doing, considering Im pregnant with their grandson. I haven't talked to either of them in over a month. M y daughter's birthday is next week and they haven't even called to see if she needs anything. Her dad hasn't even offered to buy her diapers or formula or anything. I hate that! I can't stand how guys can be granted visitation but don't have to help support them financially! its bull

I'm heartbroken! I just dropped my daughter off and she cried when I left. As I was pulling out of the driveway she was looking at me out the window crying still. I feel like a terrible mother. I just left her in a house full of strangers. She doesn't know the supervisor or any of her kids and she doesn't know her dad because shes only seen him once in the past 3 months.... I only like like 2 blocks away but I'd feel better if I could look out a window or something and could see their house so I know that she's ok. And that shes really going to be there when I get back....

I'm sorry but I think that keeping a child away from another biological parent because the other hates him/her is just WRONG.
you aren't hurting anybody but the child. YOU had sex with him, YOU weren't careful, YOU had a child with him & he shouldn't have to sign over his rights just because you don't like him.
Feel lucky. My daughter's dad gets her every other weekend + some more.
She'll get use to being with her father in time.

Quoting Made In Italy♥:“ I'm sorry but I think that keeping a child away from another biological parent because the other hates ... [snip!] ... him. Feel lucky. My daughter's dad gets her every other weekend + some more. She'll get use to being with her father in time.”

HE BEAT ON HER! Why the fuck would you put a child in that!? If he has mental problems or beats on women what makes you think he won't do it to his own damn child huh? yeah she may have slept with him but still, she wants to protect her baby!

One reason why I'm glad my baby's father isn't in the state. Hes mentally instable himself. He thinks he deserves the world when he didn't do shit for me or his daughter when we needed it. He thinks he needs to be the one to "parent her" when he can't live on his own, keep a stable job or take care of himself. So. yeah sometimes its best to keep the child away from a parent. Sometimes doing it can be better then not.

Quoting Gothic Lolita Mana:“ HE BEAT ON HER! Why the fuck would you put a child in that!? If he has mental problems or beats on women ... [snip!] ... care of himself. So. yeah sometimes its best to keep the child away from a parent. Sometimes doing it can be better then not.”

Thanks so sticking up for me! I wouldn't have a problem with him having her on alternating weekends but he beat me up in front of her! She even tried to bite him and he pushed her outta the way and she hit her head on the door..... He doesn't deserve visitations.... at least in my opinion. He doesn't even have to pay child support! Which I think is bull, since he does work full time

Quoting n8ivebutterfli:“ Thanks so sticking up for me! I wouldn't have a problem with him having her on alternating weekends but ... [snip!] ... at least in my opinion. He doesn't even have to pay child support! Which I think is bull, since he does work full time”

No problem. Some parents don't deserve to be parents or have kids. He sounds like one of them. I don't believe in keeping kids away from their biological parents but sometimes its the best thing for them, and she doesn't need to be around him. It would be better if she wasn't.

Ohh, reading all these posts made me so mad. Especially yours Made in Italy. Are you seriously that dumb? Obviously the man is a woman beater, and if you can hurt a woman, you can hurt a baby. What if she were to cry, and he got mad and hit that little baby, or shook her or something, you still think he should be able to see her no matter what? Use your brain. And to the OP, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. You should definitely try to get some proof or something and prove he doesn't deserve visits. It just takes one time for him to get mad and her life could be in danger.

Oh, and my fiance said he would love to know where he lives, so he can take care of him for you!!   He thinks it's ridiculous.