re: torn....

Quoting TNmarriedmomma:" I am 6wks today. I was hoping i would just have a miscarriage since my progesterone dropped from 20 to ... [snip!] ... who would take this baby would give him a life i could never imagine! He would be so spoiled and so very well taken care of!"

Honey, I think honestly, in your heart, you've already made your decision. You want to give this baby a good home, from what I'm gathering, so do that. The father has absolutely NOTHING to do with any of this. You don't even have to tell him when or if the child is born, nor do you have to give him ANY details about anything. Best of luck to you, honey.

Quoting Lotus Mama:" If you have had unprotected sex withing the last 72 hours then you can take plan B to make sure that ... [snip!] ... the best answer for the whole family. Only you, with the support of your husband, can decide if it is the best choice for you."

My hubby says he supports whatever decision i make but is really pushing for what is called the abortion pill.... I am a 32yr old woman and my ex is a 20yr old kid who has no friggin clue about taking care of a baby! He lives in a dump with his mommy her alcoholic bf, in the 5 months i have known him he has worked 2 months of it... my mother in law actually got him in a job starting today.... My son who is 8 already feels he got pushed aside for my 3yr old daughter and that she gets special treatment.. she is mama's girl all around, she is my shadow. How are my kids gonna feel about another baby! My daughter when she wrestles with me is starting to aim for stomach... she has never done that before. My hubby's health is not the best right now. He is back and forth between neurologist and cardiologist trying to figure out what is wrong with him. its just a big o mess! Me and ex used condoms except for 1x and he pulled out. I am not fertile at all!!! I have so many issues down there it aint funny! I was going in to schedule a hysterectomy when i found out i was preg!!

Do what feels right in your heart.

Love and Light to you, I hope you find peace.

Quoting TNmarriedmomma:" I am 6wks today. I was hoping i would just have a miscarriage since my progesterone dropped from 20 to ... [snip!] ... who would take this baby would give him a life i could never imagine! He would be so spoiled and so very well taken care of!"

I am very biased in favor of adoption because I have a number of friends who TTC for 4-7 years and then tried to get on adoption lists and they are so desperate for a child and they would give a child everything.

HOWEVER, I think it is very difficult to give a child up for adoption. Much harder than having an abortion. It takes an inner strenght and a true alturism that very few people have; I don't know if I could do it myself. (Although I had an abortion when I was 18 and never looked back - best decision ever!)

Also, your ex has NO legal right to tell you not to have an abortion but once the baby is born he will have a legal claim on it and it could get very messy for you!

Quoting Lotus Mama:" I am very biased in favor of adoption because I have a number of friends who TTC for 4-7 years and ... [snip!] ... you not to have an abortion but once the baby is born he will have a legal claim on it and it could get very messy for you!"

Part of me feels it would be the best decision for my kids plus forgot to mention my hubby has 3 kids of his own. So 5 kids we have together.... When i move in with him he will be the only one working. Right now he is on disability until they figure out what is wrong with him.... The adoption would be hard for sure but i would still get to see the baby and get updates..... But like you said i would have to deal with the ex and his stupidity! I am going to talk to my dr next week and see what she thinks.... I dont want to be thought of as a killer  

Quoting TNmarriedmomma:" Part of me feels it would be the best decision for my kids plus forgot to mention my hubby has 3 kids ... [snip!] ... his stupidity! I am going to talk to my dr next week and see what she thinks.... I dont want to be thought of as a killer  "

 You cannot even mentally grasp an abortion so with that it's probably best you don't do it.

Quoting [JadeLee]:" Yes it is an option, it is an abortion."

I know that they have you take something at the abortion clinic, I just meant that I don't think there's something you can take at home that will just make you lose the baby. The only pill like that I know if is the Plan B that only prevents pregnancy, it won't help if you're already pregnant. She said in her original post that she doesn't even want to consider an abortion so I assumed she thought the pill was something other than getting one. But to the OP, I agree you should do what you feel is best. I think you should give each option deep thought and choose the one best for you and your family. Best of luck to you <3

I support whatever decision you decide to make, however, don't let anyone make your decision for you. Not your ex, not your kids, not your husband, etc. You are the one that should make the final decision. No guilt will be felt by others involved but if you feel you "made the wrong choice", you might suffer with guilt for the rest of your life. Think it over before making any rash decisions.

It sounds like you already have a family that would gladly adopt this baby. That is awesome. I wouldn't just talk to your doctor, I would consult a lawyer about what would need done to secure an adoption. Yes it would be hard to give up the baby but you won't be struggling like you are now with the thoughts of abortion. But you look into all your options including legal advice and make the decision based on what YOU feel is right for YOU and the baby. Your husband and children will be fine if you decide to go with adoption and only you will live with the long term affects of either choice.

Quoting ☠Dawn[+Cambria]:" I know that they have you take something at the abortion clinic, I just meant that I don't think there's ... [snip!] ... I think you should give each option deep thought and choose the one best for you and your family. Best of luck to you <3"

There is a pill that causes an abortion. It is RU486 and is completely different than Plan B. You can take RU486 during the early stages of pregnancy. It stops the pregnancy from growing and then causes uterine contractions to expel the uterine contents. You take the first pills in the clinic and the second set at home.