What to do when the love is gone.

okay well this is last resort. I dont know what to do anymore and Im just curious, what would you ladies do... Let a fading relationship die, or keep fighting for it, even if its only you fighting?

I'm kinda in the same situation right now... I don't know what to do either so i'd like to see these answers :-P

well, i fight everday...some days its easier than others.

did yours start to fade after you got pregnant?

follow your heart!! Deep down you know if its worth fighting for!!

im going thru the same thing everything was great untill i got pregnant now jaydens here and we stilll fight everydasy over nothing and now im preggo again im trying so hard but honestly i think im gunna be left alone with 2 kids

if its real love then fight. All relationships have ups and downs, what makes them last 50+ years is if ur willing to fight

My first marriage was loveless (not friendshipless, but love and passionless). That is a horrible way to live. I held on to hope for too long and missed out on real love and living life. It hurt like hell to let go but I have ZERO regrets. I met amd married (and got knocked up) by a WONDERFUL guy! Now I know what love is. Sounds like a greeting card, but it's the truth.

Good luck and TGIFF  

Well I just had a fading relantionship die, I was fighting for the relantionship to stay but my ex is the one who called it off. It sucks cause we were together for 4 years and have two kids togethher. I really loved him and really wanted to make it work but there was nothing I could do cause he gave up. I guess just talk to your man, let him know how you feeland see what happens.

Quoting Babii Love:“ well, i fight everday...some days its easier than others. did yours start to fade after you got pregnant?”

Well, Im coming to the realization that my pregnancy was for all the wrong reasons. Dont get me wrong I am so happy to be having my son, and happy we choose to do this together but I think are relationship wasnt so strong to start out with. My son was planned, which makes me feel like more of a failure.

Quoting annaber:“ if its real love then fight. All relationships have ups and downs, what makes them last 50+ years is if ur willing to fight”

Yeah, well thats what im worried about. I watched my mother kill herself for years and fight and try so hard and my father just gave up. They have been married for 25 plus years but only because the choose not to get a divorce. It was up in the air for a while, him moving out and us moving on but he never left us. Thats where the good lies in my father, his heart is wonderful , but his love is worthless.

tough question.....was it bad prior to pregnancy and you feel that this was just a temporary band-aid or it is more pronounced because you are pregnant and hormonal....I am going through the same thing and everyday it is something new.....try this....I sat mine down and said I know I am driving you crazy with this shit...but just for five minutes let me tell you how you are making me feel and where my mind is going...Ex: you are only here because of the baby, you have already met someone else and are just waiting for me not to be pregnant to move on, etc....after my five minutes of could not even look him face admissions he told me I was crazy, that he loved me, he was sorry he made me feel that way and that he saw us raising our child together forever....It erased months of self doubt, and daily arguments of talk to me, what going on with us, are we going to make it???? now our daughter is 5 days away and things aren't wonderful everyday, and yes we argue, but underneath I am no longer insecure because I was dead ass honest with him, and he was dead ass honest with me. Can't wait not to have these hormones gone.....making me crazy.....

PSOur sex life is like so non existent right now

I say FIGHT it is what you want...

Quoting Honeymoon Baby:“ My first marriage was loveless (not friendshipless, but love and passionless). That is a horrible way ... [snip!] ... up) by a WONDERFUL guy! Now I know what love is. Sounds like a greeting card, but it's the truth. Good luck and TGIFF  ”

Thats what im having my problem with, there is just no passion. Its more akward then anything. I have a post yesterday where I explain more about me and him cause he is just such a complex person its hard to understand what he wants sometimes. But there is no passion at all. We've only been together about 2 and a half years. Its killing me inside.

Quoting Baby♥Love:“ Yeah, well thats what im worried about. I watched my mother kill herself for years and fight and try ... [snip!] ... us moving on but he never left us. Thats where the good lies in my father, his heart is wonderful , but his love is worthless.”

I think it depends on how much real love there is there. If you guys still hold a passion for one another and both of you are willing to actively try to make it work id say go for it. If need be go to counseling. But if you are the only one really trying to make it work and he isnt doing ANYTHING, then it might not be right

even though your son was planned doesn't mean your relationship wasn't gonna be put through this strain (planned or not planned).

no one can really predict the outcome of life changing experiences. But if you do loose the father of your child because there seems to not be love..always know you will always have another (little)man in your life who will neverstop loving you....

I would fight. I did... and I won. My husband is not the fighting kind, he is the "I need to know you care enough to fight for me" kind, so, I would look deep into your heart, only you really know if you want to fight for it, bc thats what it boils down to. Do you want it bad enough to fight? Bad enough to fight every day if you need to? Bad enough that it does not matter if he fights too? Thats what I had to ask myself and I did, and here we are, over 3 yrs later, and I don't have to fight anymore, we are past that. Good luck on whatever you decide hon and to everyone else who is in the same situation. If anyone wants to talk, PM me.