Parenting a teen~tough love

I have been struggling with her for a while. She is 17 and has always been a difficult child. Her high school life consists of going to school everyday, but failing every class. She is a junior this year and is about 4-6 class credits behind for graduation, meaning she will have to either do extra on-line classes next year or go for a second senior year or both. She also is now not wanting to do chores or help out with anything, and says she doesn't want to be included in any of our family stuff. So yesterday after saying this for the millionth time, my husband took our other 2 girls to get slurpees after all the hard work they did in the yard. She got super pissed because they didn't take her. Then later on after our bbq and campfire with our neighbors, we told her and the 15 year old to get the food in the house before it got too dark and she threw the biggest bitch fest. So I sent her to her room, took away her cell phone and told her to unplug everything in her room and not to use the lights. In this house, you must pitch in to deserve ammenities like electriciy. BTW, this isn't the first time, this is like an everyday occurance when she is asked to do chores, she thinks we should do them and shut up and give her whatever she wants, because she also says hurtful things to us and then the next sentence out of her mouth is can I have___?

And it's not that she is just a teenager, because I have a 15 year old who doesn't act like this. She is much smarter, because she knows if she does extra, she will be rewarded. (without bitching the whole time)

I'm 17 and my best friend is like that, so is my 13 year old sister. I however don't act like that at all! It just happens in some teens, not really sure why.

My child would lose everything in their room except their bed. Everything would have to be earned back. No going out with friends, no cell phone, tv, computer time(unless its supervised for school projects/homework)

Quoting ♡Sarah♡ +1.5:" My child would lose everything in their room except their bed. Everything would have to be earned back. ... [snip!] ... earned back. No going out with friends, no cell phone, tv, computer time(unless its supervised for school projects/homework) "

Sounds like my punishments!!! When I got mouthy, I had to sit on my bed and do NOTHING. I still have the ceiling pattern memorized in my old house. ;)

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♡Sarah♡ +1.5:</b>" My child would lose everything in their room except their bed. Everything would have to be earned back. ... [snip!] ... earned back. No going out with friends, no cell phone, tv, computer time(unless its supervised for school projects/homework) "</blockquote>




This!!

When does she turn 18? I would sit her down, and tell her at 18, you're no longer paying for her. She can live at home, but will have to pay for her own things, and if she doesn't graduate, she will have to pay rent. Tough, but you have to be with teenagers like that. They think they have everything figured out. Well, let her at it then. Let her pay bills, see how she likes being so grown up.

Reason #13455 why I really don't want a girl. That sounds mentally and physically draining to have to deal with that   Hope everything works out

Sounds like me... My parents gave up and let me do what I wanted. I've always had to learn the hard way, which I did. They gave me two rules 1. be home before 10pm or don't come until the next day and 2. be respectful when you are home. If I didn't want to do chores, I didn't go home.

I was a lost cause basically. I learned my lesson when I got smurfed up on drugs and alcohol, and knocked up at 17. I was going to do what I wanted regardless, so the least my parents could do was take the stress off themselves.

I'm not saying this is the "right" thing to do... I don't know if I could let me daughter go, but I guess it comes to a point when you just want to stop fighting. She's almost an adult. Maybe suggest she get a job, and you can help her move out (rather than kick her out).

Quoting ĸalana ♥ 7/29.:" Reason #13455 why I really don't want a girl. That sounds mentally and physically draining to have to deal with that   Hope everything works out"

You dont think boys act out in their teen years?

I agree with the above posts. Tough love is the only way with teenagers sometimes. She has it MADE and she doesnt realize how good she has it- all teenagers know-it-all.
Show her the truth, how hard life could really be. Or, make her get a job.

I should also add that I was angry. I didn't know why (I do now), but I just was... My mom should have put me in counseling, lol

Quoting ♡Sarah♡ +1.5:" You dont think boys act out in their teen years?"

Of course i do but Lord knows they don't carry on like girls do. I would know, i'm a girl.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ĸalana ♥ 7/29.:</b>" Reason #13455 why I really don't want a girl. That sounds mentally and physically draining to have to deal with that   Hope everything works out"</blockquote>




This is kids period. I hope you dont think a boy is any better! I have a 17 yr olf nephew who is 10x worse then how her daughter sounds

Quoting ♡Sarah♡ +1.5:" My child would lose everything in their room except their bed. Everything would have to be earned back. ... [snip!] ... earned back. No going out with friends, no cell phone, tv, computer time(unless its supervised for school projects/homework) "

This!!! But also I would be in contact with teachers to see why she is failing.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ĸalana ♥ 7/29.:</b>" Of course i do but Lord knows they don't carry on like girls do. I would know, i'm a girl."</blockquote>



Boys can be just as hard to deal with, or worse.