re: feeling like your life is over

Quoting Philosoraptor.:" I am. I doubt he's even parenting now, likely his family is, but what can I do."

That smurf makes me so mad. She's his daughter! men, like this..i will never understand..she's his flesh and blood. She should be his life..

Least her mother puts forth a 100% effort for her..

That's so irritating.  

Quoting i love my son so much:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Brantley's mama*:</b>" Okay so i'm not looking to be told i ... [snip!] ... I work fulltime and I'm in school as well I graduated 2010 this whole thing is new to you so it will take some getting used too"

i just feel like ill have some resentment towards my son. And i really dont want that to happen!

Quoting Puff the Magic Dragon!:" That smurf makes me so mad. She's his daughter! men, like this..i will never understand..she's his flesh ... [snip!] ... his flesh and blood. She should be his life.. Least her mother puts forth a 100% effort for her.. That's so irritating.   "

Honestly, in the handful of times my SO has been around her, he's interacted more with her than her dad. I hope he'll get with the program, but I'm doubting it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Brantley's mama*:</b>" i just feel like ill have some resentment towards my son. And i really dont want that to happen!"</blockquote>




No don't feel that way once you see her face and hold her you'll feel differently you will have moments at first that will be very difficult to handle but you will make it through are you going to have any help with her when she comes by your family?

Quoting *Brantley's mama*:" i just feel like ill have some resentment towards my son. And i really dont want that to happen!"

I don't resent my daughter. I resent her father, yes. But not her

Quoting i love my son so much:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Brantley's mama*:</b>" i just feel like ill have some resentment ... [snip!] ... be very difficult to handle but you will make it through are you going to have any help with her when she comes by your family?"

when HE comes, and my mom but honestly she really can't help all that much, im single and his father lives 6 hours away so he wont be helping at all.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Brantley's mama*:</b>" when HE comes, and my mom but honestly she really can't help all that much, im single and his father lives 6 hours away so he wont be helping at all."</blockquote>




I'm sorry idk why I put she I ment he.. I'm going to be honest with you it's going to be very difficult the first month especially just because your first few weeks you'll be sore the baby will be up every 2hrs cryin when my son was born I felt so overwhelmed and the first few weeks I had help at nights but I know you will be ok patience is the key to being a mom and especially for the adjustment my lil guy will be 1 on your due date and the other day he woke up screaming and I couldn't calm him down I admit I had tears rolling down my face wishing I had my BDs help because I didn't know what to do but you just have to be calm you'll learn so much about yourself in your journey as a mom I have patience with my son but not much with anyone else lol

I had my baby at 15 and he's 4 months old and I'm 16. I always feel like my life is over. All my old friends never talk to me. I'm always sitting at home. I only been out 3 times since January. But I know my life isn't over. That life of fun and games is over but now I have a new life and it's to raise my baby the best way possible and be there for him. Everytime I get depressed I just look at it that way. We was grown enough to have sex we can be grown enough to accept the fact we have. NEW life. And it's gonna take some time to get a used to that new life stlye cause your gonna want to do things and your always gonna get upset but just look at your baby and think about the new life.. Things will be different when you see him/her

Your friends, if they haven't been there for you, probably aren't very good friends to have.
I would suggest trying to find other people with children that you can relate to. I went from having 1 friend with a child to having about 20 friends with children.

But your life is far from over, it's just began.

I felt like that, for sure. I was lonely, I felt like my friends had abandoned me. But now he's almost two and I we build forts play hockey and basketball we go to the park... he's my best friend.
It was hard before when he was smaller, and didn't do anything. I got bored, a lot. He was adorable as heck and I adored him but he slept a lot !

Quoting Philosoraptor.:" Nope, I did everything while we were together."

Dude. our BD's should get married. Same sitaution happened to me. I love the free nights though.

Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:" Dude. our BD's should get married. Same sitaution happened to me. I love the free nights though."

Right? Couple nights a week I get to be 22 haha

Quoting Philosoraptor.:" Right? Couple nights a week I get to be 22 haha"

So true, I love it. I hate when BD calls watching his son BABYSITTING! Like if I have an appointment and my mom can't watch him, I have t call BD and he's like "I guess I could babysit..."

Quoting *Brantley's mama*:" Okay so i'm not looking to be told i need to grow the smurf up and that i shouldnt have been so irresponsible ... [snip!] ... find time every once in awhile to have a girls night, their kids are 1 year and up though. Does anyone else feel like this?"

Your life isn't over, it has crossed my mind because now I can't do certain things and I'm only 16 but when you have your child you will realise he/she is the best thing that has happened to you.
If your friends don't want to talk to you just because you are having a kid, they aren't true friends. Try going to baby clubs, there is bound to be other teen mums who you can talk to too. Good luck with everything  

Quoting Charlie's Lovely Mommy:" So true, I love it. I hate when BD calls watching his son BABYSITTING! Like if I have an appointment and my mom can't watch him, I have t call BD and he's like "I guess I could babysit...""

Wtf? Lame. I asked XH to take Anna on different days one week and he asked what I was doing. Ummh, not your business?