she broke up with me

So ive been saying how wierd stuff have been and everything....She told me yesterday that she cant see us being together and she rushed into it. But now shes saying its her baby and I wont be able to have it with me at all for at least the first 6 months. How is that fair, she says that babies only need their mom and thats it. And then she told me I mean nothing to this pregnancy and the only part I did was just have sex and that was my part. Shes the one that is still technically married. And my lawyer says that its a huge advantage for me because she conviced the baby with me while she was still married and the papers were not signed.

Quoting *KYU*:“ So ive been saying how wierd stuff have been and everything....She told me yesterday that she cant see ... [snip!] ... its a huge advantage for me because she conviced the baby with me while she was still married and the papers were not signed.”

im confussed as to what the question is BUT i suggest u get a solicitor, its your child too and therefore u have rights to see it

So she said some hormonal things yesterday and you've already gone to see a lawyer??! 

Take her court if she wont let you see your child. It takes 2 to make a baby, logic would lead you to the conclusion that raising a baby with both parents might be intelligent design! Sorry youre having a rough go of it, maybe she will mellow out some as she gets farther along in her pregnancy

hmm,I was just reading the rest of your posts. Do you think shemight still be trying to work things out with her EX? I mean.. things sounds very shady with her. I would go see an attornery.. this is YOUR baby too and you have every right to be there for him/her whenit arrives to this crazy world of ours. If timing was so bad she really should have waitied until her divorce was final to start a new relationship. I wish you luck and I am sorry you are going thru this.

Keep us updated. Good luck

Quoting the_niqabinator:“ So she said some hormonal things yesterday and you've already gone to see a lawyer??! ”

Its not just the hormonal stuff.. she seems to be up to no good. And its his baby too. He has everyright to be there for his child.

Quoting LizzieL:“ Its not just the hormonal stuff.. she seems to be up to no good. And its his baby too. He has everyright to be there for his child.”

i strongly agree

I agree and I am not saying that he doesn't but keep in mind that there are always two sides to every story and we're not getting them both so to just go on what we know(one sided) and give advice on that would kind of be silly IMO.

Quoting the_niqabinator:“ I agree and I am not saying that he doesn't but keep in mind that there are always two sides to every ... [snip!] ... and we're not getting them both so to just go on what we know(one sided) and give advice on that would kind of be silly IMO.”

im pretty sure thats what we are doing!! all we know is that she has left telling him he cannot see his child! in that situation i would see a solicitor! we cant blame everything a pregnant woman does on hormones

Quoting charleigh:“ im pretty sure thats what we are doing!! all we know is that she has left telling him he cannot see ... [snip!] ... he cannot see his child! in that situation i would see a solicitor! we cant blame everything a pregnant woman does on hormones”

Sorry in the original post it doesn't say that he cannot see his child, it says " I wont be able to have it with me at all for at least the first 6 months" doesn't indicate that he cannot see the child with mother before then.
I have seen tons of mothers here alone afraid about thier child being alone before they are a few months old with the child's father, especially if they are soley breastfeeding. Not saying its right or wrong......
I would just prefer not to jump to conclusions when I dont' know everything.

are you SURE the baby is yours?? she sounds like she's been trying to push you away this whole time (i have read your other posts as well) she sounds like a total bitch! but yeah this baby is yours too so do whatever you need to get custody of him/her.

Im pretty sure that its mine, we were together everyday and the doctor said it happen when we were in Milwaukee at my APT for the weekend, so i was with her the whole time. I will def get blood tested if it comes down to it. She also told me all the stuff she said about loving me and wanting a baby with me was just drunk talk. But you know shes just saying that now. She also blamed me for us being together, she said I shoulda known since she was married before. But the thing with that is, she didnt tell me till 3 weeks being together that she was, when i meet her, she showed me a ring and said it was so guys didnt hit on her. Its just all really messed up. Her friends are even pissed at her and think its bs how shes doing this. I love kids, I was a rec director at a camp for 6 years. And I wasnt ready for one at first, but now I am so pumped for the baby.I just dont get how she LOVED me soooooo much a month and a half ago, and then just wanted to be lefted alone and now tells me this. The only thing I ever did to fight with her was, fight over not seeing her for so long and how dumb it is that she wont talk to me. Her X use to beat her, and she still goes over and talks and hangs out with him. So there is no way in hell my baby is getting anywhere close to her X, no matter what. I didnt go see a lawyer, I had my friend that is going threw close to the same thing ask hers. And thats what they told me.

How do you know it's your baby? It could be her husbands?? Just because she is married, and if this is your child. her husband could have his name on the baby, just because they are married.

She wasnt with her husband, she was with me. And everything was prefect. I was with her pretty much 24/7