re: My husband cheated on me

Quoting Courtney O.:" Y'all are right about everything. I have no where to go or anything so I'm stuck"

There is so much help out there for people in your situations. Get a job, find assistance with childcare and suitable housing and get along with your life just fine! Its difficult to think about, I'm sure, but you can do it.

I'm sorry hon, but subjecting your kids to that kind of relationship is almost worse, if not more than being without the 'family' title.

He sounds like he's practically addicted to sex.

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink1inblue:</b>" i really hate to say this but it is kind of your fault because he know you aren't going to leave. I mean ... [snip!] ... though is your kids will eventually be old enough to know this smurf is happening and that is a lot worse then a broken home "</blockquote>




How do I stand up for myself?

Quoting Courtney O.:" Y'all are right about everything. I have no where to go or anything so I'm stuck"

There are places out there to help you out, you're not stuck you just have to put forth the effort to get out of the situation.

You two would be better off divorced. Your children probably would be, too.

Quoting Courtney O.:" Y'all are right about everything. I have no where to go or anything so I'm stuck"

Girl, I can't say leave when I know the feeling of being stuck. You will have a path created for you when the time is right!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Despicable Mama:</b>" I'm sorry hon, but subjecting your kids to that kind of relationship is almost worse, if not more than being without the 'family' title. He sounds like he's practically addicted to sex."</blockquote>




He said he has a problem but blew it off

Quoting Courtney O.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Despicable Mama:</b>" I'm sorry hon, but subjecting your kids ... [snip!] ... title. He sounds like he's practically addicted to sex."</blockquote> He said he has a problem but blew it off"

Then he's not willing to get help and you staying with him is doing nothing but letting him take you for granted.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lily's mommy♥:</b>" Girl, I can't say leave when I know the feeling of being stuck. You will have a path created for you when the time is right!"</blockquote>




Yeah I'm so going to pray long and hard

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♡♡:</b>" Then he's not willing to get help and you staying with him is doing nothing but letting him take you for granted."</blockquote>




When we were talking about it, he tried to manipulate me into thinking it was my fault he did it! He always does that

Quoting Courtney O.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink1inblue:</b>" i really hate to say this but it is kind ... [snip!] ... know this smurf is happening and that is a lot worse then a broken home "</blockquote> How do I stand up for myself?"

You tell him that it has to stop! He has to stop cheating and start treating you with more respect or he can get his sorry ass out! Or you will! tell him everything you are thinking and feeling just lay it all out on the table. And I promise you you can do it on your own if you have to. I did! It might take time but I bet once you file for a divorce he will be thinking twice about things....and if he doesn't you deserve better anyway.

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink1inblue:</b>" You tell him that it has to stop! He has to stop cheating and start treating you with more respect or ... [snip!] ... but I bet once you file for a divorce he will be thinking twice about things....and if he doesn't you deserve better anyway."</blockquote>




I did but he turned it around on me. Y'all know any links for me?

Quoting Layla's Momma ♥:" How can you love someone who totally disrespects you? How can you even look at him everyday? Wow."

Have you ever been in an abusive relationship? Because if you have not then I don't believe you can judge. I have and it is so much more complicated emotion wise than the whole world likes to think. And so many people say I wouldn't do this or I would do that but really how do they know. They haven't been there.

Yeah leaving him is most certainly easier said than done, especially when you love him.

I mean neither of you sounds like saints to be honest. You both cheat on eahc other,and yet you are amazed he is still doing it? You actually expected a guy who cheated on you on multiple times in the past, who told you how important sex was to him, to just drop it once he had kids? And in reality you don't sound much better since you have cheated right back. Really you 2 just have a toxic relationship, and it's time for you both to move on.