So upset

So (if any of you have been following) my boyfriend Chris and I have been having lots of problems. Last night I blew up (because of his absolutely inconsiderate behavior) and broke up with him. This continued and I was pretty sure I was leaving him. I even left for work. I get to work, however, and he starts IMing me saying how he wouldn't just miss me, he would miss Hayden (he's not Hayden's dad and knows that I think him having a daddy is important).
Now that he thinks I'm really going to leave (and I'm VERY serious about this), he's trying to say all the right things. Right now, I believe him (or want to) and I do love him, but I know that in a month or two weeks or a week it's going to be right back to normal.
I'm so confused. Everyone in my life that knows he and I say to LEAVE. He makes me feel so horrible though. I'm in tears.

Take some time for yourself and your child, and if he does love you and want it to work between the two of you, he will wait.

You obviously believe that nothing will change if you don't leave, right? Of course he's saying all the right things now because he's scared of losing you, but in the long run, probably nothing will change. You deserve better, don't you think? *Hugs* and *Prayers*

Quoting Kim009:“ Take some time for yourself and your child, and if he does love you and want it to work between the two of you, he will wait.”

we live together so this is incredibly hard. I love him but am just not sure I want to be with him any more.

Sorry to hear that your going through this. With relationships there is never a magic button to push or a magical way of knowing what to do. Just take a step back and weigh you options the pros and cons of everything. Ultimately you have to make the best choice for yourself and your son.

Leaving is the hardest thing in the world to do, especially with a baby. I would say as much as it hurts now do what you think is best for you and Hayden. It will hurt probably for a long time, but if you think it will be better for you in the long run then do it. Maybe take some time apart then look at your relationship. It might make you guys realize how much you should or shouldn't be together.

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I'm so sorry things have got to this for you...

Maybe you can just take a short break from him to get your head together.

Of course it is easy for us all to give you advice to leave him etc, because we aren' there with you and can't see for ourselves.

You just sound so unhappy and you don't deserve to be...maybe will he consider counselling with you? If so you will at least know you have tried if you decide not to work it through...

Hugs to you honey...

Quoting Aussiemumtobe:“ I'm so sorry things have got to this for you... Maybe you can just take a short break from him to ... [snip!] ... with you? If so you will at least know you have tried if you decide not to work it through... Hugs to you honey...”

Thank you   I can't stop crying. It hurts so badly either way. I just want happiness

I know you do, and that's what you deserve...

If he loves you he'll give you some space, don't feel presured into things okay? You have to be okay with what you want and that might take some time to work out...

I feel your pain and wish their was something I could do to help you through this...

Quoting Aussiemumtobe:“ I know you do, and that's what you deserve... If he loves you he'll give you some space, don't feel ... [snip!] ... might take some time to work out... I feel your pain and wish their was something I could do to help you through this...”

I told him that I will be taking some space. He doesn't like it but I think that this may be good for us. If he loves me he will appologize (not just today) but in 3 days after I've had my space. He will want to work on it. If he gets angry at me I'll know it's not meant to be.

Well that's all you can do really...

You have been fair and honest about what you need and you aren't asking for anything extreme, just a little space..

Keep your chin up, remember all the nice things about YOU!!!

Quoting piratetink824:“ So (if any of you have been following) my boyfriend Chris and I have been having lots of problems. Last ... [snip!] ... I'm so confused. Everyone in my life that knows he and I say to LEAVE. He makes me feel so horrible though. I'm in tears.”

Sounds like me and my bf we have been fighting so much the past few months. We both have told eachother we are done. I love him a lot and it's hard. We've talked a lot well I have and he listened and said a few things which is good for him. I told him ONE more fight and Im done no talking or trying to work things out after the next fight.

Quoting piratetink824:“ we live together so this is incredibly hard. I love him but am just not sure I want to be with him any more.”

I understand that it being much harder since you are living together. I am a SAHM and my bf pays all the bills so it's harder for me when we fight I would have no where to go. I would say maybe go stay with a friend or parents for a weekwithout talking to him and see how you feel then.

Quoting brianamarie21:“ I understand that it being much harder since you are living together. I am a SAHM and my bf pays all ... [snip!] ... no where to go. I would say maybe go stay with a friend or parents for a weekwithout talking to him and see how you feel then. ”

I'm so sorry you're going through this too.