re: my abortion tomorrow

Grrrrrr.....I had already deleted the quote.
Anyway good luck tomorrow OP!

How do they do the abortion? It's a D&C right? I've never had one, and I don't really want to look it up and see the videos and pictures and whatnot. How do they dilate you? Do they... suck everything out with a vaccuum? Or does that just depend on the place?

Um....so....how was what I said against the rules or offensive in any way? Just a bit curious.......

Quoting Manda~Panda:" Um....so....how was what I said against the rules or offensive in any way? Just a bit curious......."

Since you apparently lack any ability to search for forum rules, here ya go http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about545917.html

Quoting Manda~Panda:" Um....so....how was what I said against the rules or offensive in any way? Just a bit curious......."

You can't really try to talk someone out of the decision they've already made. It can come across as rude and judgemental. Regardless of your stance on abortion, you have to assume the OPs in AS have thought through all of their options and chosen the absolutely best one for them.

i didn't have an abortion but had a d&c for a m/c that I was only given local anesthesia for, it hurt, but was over quickly... Best of luck..

Quoting The Biscuit Farmer.:" You can't really try to talk someone out of the decision they've already made. It can come across as ... [snip!] ... you have to assume the OPs in AS have thought through all of their options and chosen the absolutely best one for them."

I wasn't and I am not against abortion in any way. I went with my best friend when she wanted hers. Did not try to talk her out of hers. I watched it destroy all three of them emotionally, and I was trying to as tactfully as I could encourage therapy after the abortion because of my personal experience with what it did to some people that I love. I apologize to OP if it came off that I was trying to talk her out of it, or that it was a bad decision or the wrong decision. All I was trying to say is to see a therapist BEFORE it becomes an issue as it did with those that I know. I truly am sorry if it came off any other way. Adoption is just an afterthought. I didn't realize that it would be taken as attempting to talk her out of it or that I was against the decision in general.

OP: Good luck, and I sincerely apologize if my comment was not written the way it was coming out in my head. Good luck. And as I said, from what I know, it's just a little uncomfortable, but not painful at all (in reference to the original question)

Quoting Alissa (lissapfa):" i didn't have an abortion but had a d&c for a m/c that I was only given local anesthesia for, it hurt, but was over quickly... Best of luck.. "

My own D&C was miiiiserable!!!!!!! You got a local?! They doped me up via IV and sent me home with pain meds and that was it.

She even asked for no bad comments or judgements... it is her choice regardless of why. The fact that she came to us because she has worries, should tell you to just be supportive and say positive things to help her not be freaked out. You are strong hun... you will be just fine and we are all here tomorrow as well if you need us!

Quoting Manda~Panda:" My own D&C was miiiiserable!!!!!!! You got a local?! They doped me up via IV and sent me home with pain meds and that was it. "

yeah they gave me some shots of lidocane (sp) that was it, I was awake, and the lidocane barely took the edge off, no pain meds afterward or anything. It only took a few minutes, I think I squeezed the hell out of the nurses hand..

Good luck today, hun! <3

Quoting Alissa (lissapfa):" yeah they gave me some shots of lidocane (sp) that was it, I was awake, and the lidocane barely took ... [snip!] ... edge off, no pain meds afterward or anything. It only took a few minutes, I think I squeezed the hell out of the nurses hand.."

Well, at least I was sm**rfed up.

update:
hey ladies, i actually went & i couldn't do it.
I'm thinking about adoption if things don't look up soon.
Thanks for all the support!

Quoting Nathaniel&Jaxson's Mommy!:" update: hey ladies, i actually went & i couldn't do it. I'm thinking about adoption if things don't look up soon. Thanks for all the support!"

Hey babe.

It's not for everyone!

  That's great you looked into other options, to do what's best for your family!
Good luck with all things, if you ever need to talk, feel free to PM any of us!

Quoting Nathaniel&Jaxson's Mommy!:" update: hey ladies, i actually went & i couldn't do it. I'm thinking about adoption if things don't look up soon. Thanks for all the support!"

  Good luck with everything hun!