husband wants abortion but I don't really

I mean I do in this case but I don't like that I do. Like he says his family won't accept it we're only 18 and he's in a prestigious college. I would ruin our relationship if I kept it I couldn't be a single mom to twins either but I just wish he'd be ok with it. Then I could have them. I can't stop feeling I'm going to resent him if I do this... I know no one can make it better I guess I was wondering what got you through it?

If YOU don't want to do it, then I wouldn't.

Do what YOU think is best for YOU.
You will have to live with the decision for the rest of your life.

you are the one to make the decision.

If you don't want then don't do it. It's YOUR choice.

It's never a good idea to get an abortion to please someone else. Do what you want, what you're comfortable with. It's a decision that should be left up to you - whether you abort, adopt out or keep the child.

Quoting Carley Weaver:" If YOU don't want to do it, then I wouldn't. "

I don't want to but in this case I do in that I don't to ruin our relationship his future be a single mom at 18 to twins... I just wish he would be different but I know he's just the way he is it'ss not going to change

Quoting youngpregnantandhurt:" I don't want to but in this case I do in that I don't to ruin our relationship his future be a single ... [snip!] ... a single mom at 18 to twins... I just wish he would be different but I know he's just the way he is it'ss not going to change"

Then maybe you guys shouldn't have had sex. If you're married and he still can't be a man about the situation you both got yourselves into id leave his ass anyways.
But its up to you if you want to terminate, not your husbands choice.

His parents were ok with you getting married at 18 but not having a baby? That just doesn't make sense. You have to keep in mind it is your body your choice. You don't want to live your life in regret over someone elses decision. Raising babies is hard no matter what age or what circumstance, especially when it is your first.... Think it through and if you find it to be the best option for YOU and the baby, then do it. Just not cause anyone else wants it. You will resent him for it.

Oh mama...I was in a similar situation back in December. I was pregnant with our second. It was an oopsie, we had recently decided to stop TTC and get back on our feet before having an other one. I announced him I was pregnant. He tried to pressure me into getting an abortion. I almost went, against my will...but finally gathered enough courage to stand up to him. He dumped me. I am not pregnant anymore, I lost my baby in February...but in retrsopect, him dumping me was one of the best things that ever happened to me. Moral of this story: You have to listen to your gut. If you want those babies, keep those babies. If you are scared you will do it alone...well you won't. Even if HE does not want to be a part of your kids life...there is TONS of ressources, help centers and wonderful person you know and love who can provide support.

Do what you think is best for you honey. We will be here for support no matter your decision.

Quoting youngpregnantandhurt:" I don't want to but in this case I do in that I don't to ruin our relationship his future be a single ... [snip!] ... a single mom at 18 to twins... I just wish he would be different but I know he's just the way he is it'ss not going to change"

Look, if "ruinging" your relationship because you have a baby that you made TOGETHER is your concern, thats crazy. If something this hard can break your relationship.. something else will too. He should love and support YOUR decision. And if that means you are going to be a mom at 18.. so what? Plenty of people do it. I think Id understand more of the situation if you didnt seem soe eager to "please" HIM. He can walk away from it, you will have that empty feeling LONG after he is gone.

Although some of my children weren't planned I have never regreted having any of them and couldn't imagine life without them. Being a single mom is hard but so worth it. The decision is yours to make and you shouldn't let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. You will hold it against them.

He sounds like a real winner....what does his ''prestigious'' college have to do w/anything thing and how do you know that his family wouldnt be supportive of of you and their grandbabies/nieces or nephews? just because he says sooooo??? If he is willing to ''leave'' you if you choose to have these babies that doesnt negate his resposibilty to them (atleast finacially) DO NOT allow him to persuade you into a decision you arent totally sure you want.
i have a good friend that confided in her SO's parents that their son was pressuring her to abort ......the parent were ''less than'' happy about the situation but they supported her choice to have the baby and now they have a great relationship w/her and the child (even though the BD isnt in the picture as much as he should be) sorry for the long winded opinion....your post just reminded me so much of my friends situation......

his parents weren't happy about our marriage but it wasn't their choice to make


nd I don't want an abortion at all it's just the situation he's making it to be I feel like I got not much other choices...

Well... One thing is for certain... he should have considered the consequent result to assisting you in the conceiving of these children. Yeah.. its going to be hard but your relationship probably wont last long anyways if you abort and end up resenting him for making the decision.