re: husband wants abortion but I don't really

i was in the same shoe u are in my sons dad wanted me to have an abortion and i almost did until i saw him i new in my heart i couldnt do it and i told my sons dad i was keepin my son and that if he didnt want to b a dad than to just walk away i lived without him b4 a could do it again
do what ur heart tells u not what a jeark wants

I had an abortion when I was very young, 14 (horrible circumstances, you don't want to know!). And my dad put huge pressure on me to have it, he told me I was killing my grandmother, that she was cutting me off completely, and I was nothing. I obviously went ahead with it and even now I totally resent my dad and it gets me down alot! If you want to go through with it for your husband and his family you definitely aren't doing it for the right reasons, trust me, that is something you need to do only for yourself.

At first my husbands was kind of hinting around about this, saying we werent ready. Since this will be baby number 6 (I have 3-step children) I know its alot. However 2 of them live with their moms. Since I've had abortions before I couldnt handle the thought. I told him, look if I were to do it, then we are DONE. He's my husband! The other men were just "guys" I dated.
I've been there and I understand. This time I did what I felt would make me feel good. Best of luck to you all. XOXO.

<blockquote><b>Quoting youngpregnantandhurt:</b>" his parents weren't happy about our marriage but it wasn't their choice to make nd I don't want an ... [snip!] ... nd I don't want an abortion at all it's just the situation he's making it to be I feel like I got not much other choices..."</blockquote>


Sweetheart it is yours and only your decision, if you want your babies, have them. I was a single mom to 2 for 4 years and even though its so tough you just do it. In the end, only you can sign the paperwork to have it done, not your dh. And if he leaves you over keeping them, he didn't really love you. I think it sounds to me he is trying to scare you into doing what he wants personally. But thlat's just my opinion.

I was a single mom. for 3 years. I considered abortion briefly when I found out I was pregnant. But I kept her and I don't regret it. If you believe that you will resent him now before you even made the decision then you probably will. There are MANY MANY resources out there for single moms. And he may just wake up if you say you are keeping the baby. My husbands cousin just recently went through a similar situation. She is 18 and married and off on an army base. They found out they were pregnant and husband said abort or give up for adoption or he was leaving. She left him and kept her son. He woke up and realized he wanted his wife and son and they are now working on their marriage with their beautiful son. Don't let the fear of losing a man who doesn't seem like he is worth keeping push you to give up your babies.

Quoting youngpregnantandhurt:" I mean I do in this case but I don't like that I do. Like he says his family won't accept it we're only ... [snip!] ... I'm going to resent him if I do this... I know no one can make it better I guess I was wondering what got you through it?"

Dude it's your smurfing body. Do what YOU want. Not what he wants, cause he's not the one pregnant. You are. Good luck!