Night weaning BFing question

I feel like Im looking for a magic solution that just doesnt exist. So any advice or support given would be appreciated..

My DS is 9 months old and the ONLY way he knows how to go to sleep, or be soothed back to sleep in the middle of the night is my breast. Even worse, he still wakes about 4-5 times each night needing to be nursed back to sleep. I would really love to find another way for him to able to be soothed back to sleep during the night. B/c of this, my husband and I have never had a night out. We would really love to be able to go away for the weekend this summer (DS will be 1) and my mom offered to watch the kids. My husband is excited and ready to go now, but I cant help but dread it! There is no WAY I'd be able to enjoy myself knowing my son is up all night crying for me. Its not fair to him, to me, or to ask my mother to deal with this. I dont know what to do! I soo badly would love a kid free weekend! The last vacation I had was DH and I's honeymoon 4 years ago. The other night I tried soothing him back to sleep by rocking, singing, a pacifer (which he kept literally THROWING across the room) and after 45 mins of crying in my arms, I caved and gave him my breast. 4 mins later he was passed out and in his crib!

If you've been through this or something similar, was there something you did to break, or change the dependency?

BTW, Im not looking for a way to wean him off the breast completely, just the dependency to fall asleep on the breast throughout the night. I still LOVE nursing!

Watching! I have a six month old that does the same thing, and I just have a feeling it's going to be very hard to break down the road.

I tried everything, nothing worked lol.

Quoting Emmy's Mom:" Watching! I have a six month old that does the same thing, and I just have a feeling it's going to be very hard to break down the road."

Ugh, it KILLS me! And I just cant let him CIO. Not that theres anything wrong with that method, if it works for some parents, thats awesome! Its just not for me. I feel like I'M the one who gave him this dependency and so letting him scream and cry for hours on end is essentially punishing him for something he didnt ask for, if that makes any sense.

Quoting Waiting for you ❤:" I tried everything, nothing worked lol."

lolo You see, deep down....I know thats my only real answer lol.

Did your LO eventually grow out of this, or are you still currently employeed as 'Sandman' at night? lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~*VBAC Success*~:</b>" Ugh, it KILLS me! And I just cant let him CIO. Not that theres anything wrong with that method, if it ... [snip!] ... him scream and cry for hours on end is essentially punishing him for something he didnt ask for, if that makes any sense."</blockquote>



That makes perfect sense. I feel the exact same way about it.

At nine months old I would say not to wean at night, at least wait until he is one years old. They still need the breastmilk at night, since it's still the main nutrition.

Our daughter started sleeping the night when she turned two years old from 9pm to 8 am, no waking up at all. She did slowly wean herself off night feedings as she got older. I would say around one is when she went down to 3-4 night feedings, then few months later down to 2-3 night feedings. At twenty-two months old she was down to only getting up once at night.

Now she only takes breast twice the entire day, once for nap and once to go to sleep for night time. Of course she may get on more if teething, or shots or sick and so forth.

Quoting ~*VBAC Success*~:" lolo You see, deep down....I know thats my only real answer lol. Did your LO eventually grow out of this, or are you still currently employeed as 'Sandman' at night? lol"

haha well now she is 2.
she has her good nights and bad nights, she goes back in forth between beds.
when she was 16 months I pretty much cold turkeyed her. once i saw she can drink from a sippy with no problem. after 3 days of hell it was over lol.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~*VBAC Success*~:</b>" I feel like Im looking for a magic solution that just doesnt exist. So any advice or support given would ... [snip!] ... his crib! If you've been through this or something similar, was there something you did to break, or change the dependency? "</blockquote>

I too was/is in this boat. It's so hard! Although I have been able to change it a bit. Do you nurse your LO to sleep for naps & night? I was. So I tried changing it at night by letting her cry for a few min but I couldn't handle it! So I tried doing naps instead. She cried for 5 minutes & fell asleep. I only did it because it was a last resort-she was only taking 1/2 naps & up all night long! I also stopped nursing her to sleep for naps, instead I nursed her in another room then read books & cuddled for a min. Layer her down & that's when she cried for 5 min. I continued this for naps & when she first goes down at night. It has helped! I still nurse her in the middle of the night & hope to wean that soon. She is 8 months. Course now she is teethinh so here we go! Lol, good luck!