what do I say???

A close friend of ours lost her baby boy this morning. Gavin was 4 months old. She has two other children, Blaine, who is 7 and Kiersten who is 5. Kiersten was diagnosed in August with Leukemia, she went into remission in November. Meghan (my friend) had two miscarriages before hs got pregnant with Gavin. She called my boyfriend this morning while she waited for the ambulance to arrive. Apparently she was getting her oldest ready for school, and when she went to get the baby up to get him dressed he was ash-white and not breathing. She called the ambulance and then called Ryan. I guess he passed in his sleep.

I don't know what to say to her now. I have my son, who is a healthy vibrant one year old, and here she is having these hard times. Ryan told her this morning that whatever she needs she could call us, if she needs to get away from her family (she has a trailer on her mom's land, and her dad just moved back from Arizona and is staying with her too) that she is welcome at our house any time, but I'm somewhat scared because I don't know what to say to her, or how to act around her. I am so heartbroken. I can't even imagine what she's going through. Any ideas would be wonderful.

I'm sorry if this didn't make sense, I'm somewhat fuzzy on details and somewhat groggy headed now.

Oh my goodness. I'm sorry I can't be any help as to what to say to her, but I did want to let you know that I will keep your friend and family in my thoughts.

I'm so very sorry for her loss.  

Im sorry for your friends loss.  
Just be there for her when she wants to talk, or let her cry on your sholder.
Send her flowers, get her something nice to remember baby by.
Dont rush her into talking if she doesnt want too.

Dont tell her it was gods will or she'll have another.

I would just be supportive as possible. Tell her that if she needs anything or someone to talk to, you are there for her. Just act like you normally would around her.

Honestly, there really isn't much that you can say to her...nothing anyone says is going to make her feel better. Just let her know that you're there for her. Give her a hug. Just squeeze her hand and look into her eyes. Sometimes, a gentle touch says more than words.

i would NOT avoid the topic, but i wouldnt bring it up weither, tell her if she wants to talk, you are there to listen, tell her your sorry for her loss, but you have not been in her possition, so it's hard for you to know EXACTLY what she is going thru, but you understand!

i'm sorry that he passed away, you, and her and her family are in my thoughts!

Thank you girls. I super appreciate the advice. I am so scared for her, she's has a severe history of depression. I really hope this doesn't push her too far, which I'm afraid it might.

I'm very appreciative of the prayers and thoughts. I hope it all turns out OK.