re: I'm 15 years old and want to have a baby.
posted 13th Nov
<blockquote><b>Quoting Country Babe ; * (::</b>" I'm almost 16 years old, in July. & lately i've been wanting a baby. I am sexually active and had ... [snip!] ... both of my new born nephews, One is almost 5 months old and the other is 3 weeks old and it seems really easy to be a parent."</blockquote>
When i was 16 almost 17 i had become pregnaunt i was in a stable relationship with a person i love and loved me back, most importantly had a job when i found out i thought it would be easy. At 18 weeks i started getting some strong pains in my lower stomach went into the ER and as it turned out baby died in the womb. They told me it was because as a young teen my womb wasnt mature enough to carry a baby. It was sad because they told me i had to wait at least 3 yrs before giving it a try agian. It could of have brought bigger complications. Honestly it mwy not happen to everyone but there is a lot of possibilities and risk. You should wait !
posted 13th Nov
Quoting Monika Acosta-Delgado:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Country Babe ; * (::</b>" I'm almost 16 years old, in July. ... [snip!] ... bigger complications. Honestly it mwy not happen to everyone but there is a lot of possibilities and risk. You should wait !"
I think they lied to you.
Girls younger then you used to carry babies, ages as young as 13, and they may have died, but they still had babies.
You were at baby making age and i think they tried to talk you into not getting pregnant again by saying you had to wait three years.
Although, your story scares me. i'm 15 almost 16 weeks and my stomach feels heavy and i feel pains sometimes.
posted 13th Nov
What happend was that the said my womb wasnt to its normal size. I dnt think it was a lie. Went to 3 diffrent doctorsquote
posted 15th Nov
There is NO way you are financially ready for a child at 15! I'm 20 and knew that babies were expensive, but holy cow it's still more expensive that what I expected.
You'd only be stupid to get yourself pregnant on purpose now. Finish school, go to college, then think about a baby.
It's certainly NOT easy.
posted 15th Nov
i got pregnant wen i was 15 and had my son wen i was 16 .! Trust it is HARD being a teen mom .! your not ready to be a mother yet .! you think it easy because you babysit your niece and nephews that's because you only have them for a few hours and you give them back.! but once you have your own you will see the big difference.! my mother had to help me with everything .! my son is 2 years old now not alot of teen mom graduate from high school but i did with a 3.0....jus stay in schoolquote
posted 16th Nov
Haha Yeah I thought the same thing when I was fifteen............enjoy the freedom while you have it.quote
posted 17th Nov
I'm 16, have a job as a teacher, my fiancÚ is a teacher and has other jobs, I live with my parents who are well-off and would help me if I got pregnant (which I won't!) and I know I can't afford a baby. It costs a lot more than you can imagine. I went through a phase of wanting a baby a couple of years ago until my mum got really ill and I, as the eldest, had to take care of my little brother who was a few months old, it was hell. He wasn't even one of these babies that cry a lot or who have sicknesses or anything, but it was so exhausting and now he's three, I still don't want my own baby until the far future! Don't do it. Just enjoy being a teenager, you've still got so much to learn. If you like looking after kids, then babysit it's always better when you give the kids back to their parents. quote
posted 21st Nov
I got pregnant when I was 17, I had my baby girl after I turned 18 & graduated high school. Im 19 now and STILL living with my parents... NOT living off my parents, just with them. My SO and I both work FULL-TIME jobs, 40 + hours a week and we still cant afford to get our own place because the cost of raising a child is so much. We pay all of our own bills, we pay my mother to watch our daughter while we both work, we pay for our own groceries, all the things that my daughter needs....the only thing we cant afford, is to pay the extra $600 a month for rent, plus another $100 (at least) for utilities. my SO brings home about $700 A WEEK and I bring home $650 every two weeks. And that still isnt enough. So unless you plan on bringing home over $4,100.00 a month...by yourself...you are not anywhere close to being financily stable.quote
I'm TTC since December '12, have 1 child & live in Illinois
posted 21st Nov
Yeah, I thought I was ready at 16 when I got married. Luckily, my husband was determined to wait to have our baby until I finished my degree. So I got it done as quickly as possible and got pregnant at 19- still an ideal age for me. Looking back on it, if I were to have gotten pregnant then, I would have just simply been screwed in almost every way...quote
posted 22nd Nov
<blockquote><b>Quoting paris.:</b>" I'm 16, have a job as a teacher, my fiancÚ is a teacher and has other jobs, I live with my parents who ... [snip!] ... to learn. If you like looking after kids, then babysit it's always better when you give the kids back to their parents. "</blockquote>
How are you a teacher at 16?
I have 1 child & 2 angel babies & live in Texas
posted 23rd Nov
At 15 you are in NO way ready for a child. I'm 20 and STILL ask myself if I'm really ready. I don't have a choice, I'm already pregnant and days away from having my baby in my arms. It's not easy to be a parent. It's good parents that make it look easy. Let me break it down for you financially. This is assuming you aren't getting a ton of hand-me-downs, which I was lucky enough to receive and this is the bare minimum of what you will need and it's around the lowest you can purchase it for. Keep in mind, during you're pregnancy, you are going to want to buy things that will help get your through the first 6-12 months.
Diapers: $20.00 (times 4-5 boxes per month)
Wipes: $13.00 (pack of roughly 500)
Diaper bag: $15.00
Baby powder: $2.00
Diaper rash cream: $4.00
Training potty: $25.00
Starter bottle kit: $20.00
Formula: $15.00 ( times 5+ cans a month. You may not produce enough breast milk and since you will want to finish school)
Manual breast pump: $15.00
Car seat: $50.00 (poor quality though)
Wash and lotion: $10.00
Bath Tub: $20.00
Baby oil: $4.00
Baby lotion: $4.00
Body wash: $5.00
Healthcare/grooming kit: $20.00
Pack n' play: $50.00
This is BARE minimum and I may have even forgotten a few things. This doesn't count clothes that you will need since most people tend to give you clothes. I swear I have more clothes than I know what to do with. And you think you will get this at a baby shower? YEAH RIGHT!!! I got more clothes and a couple other things. Not to mention that's just about the only thing your friends will be able to afford since they are probably still in high school.
With this list alone, your child has no toys and other nice things that you will probably want to supply them with.
You cannot rely on your mom to support your child for the next 18 years. Graduate high school, go to college and get a decent degree and THEN consider having a kid. They aren't easy and they aren't cheap. I know this is long, but it's the honest truth.
posted 27th Nov
@ Katya's Mommy
it isnt necessary to have a crib , starter bottle kit, health and grooming kit, a pack and play, a training potty, body wash, baby oil, bedding, wash and lotion or a monitor. Doctors dont recomend baby powder for infants anymore because of the respitorary risk involved when they inhale it.
I bought a johnsons baby gift se at walmart wich included, all full size items, a baby hair and body wash, baby oil, baby lotion, 2 washcloths, diaper rash cream, a story book and all items were positioned in a bath time toy basket for about 20$
posted 27th Nov
Quoting Natasha Thompson-King:" @ Katya's Mommy it isnt necessary to have a crib , starter bottle kit, health and grooming kit, a pack ... [snip!] ... lotion, 2 washcloths, diaper rash cream, a story book and all items were positioned in a bath time toy basket for about 20$"
You're right. You can stick your child in a pack n' play for $50 until he or she is 2. Not very comfy, but at least they are safe from falling out of bed and getting a bassinet only helps for a couple months until they exceed the weight limit.
The starter bottle kits are almost cheaper since it includes extra nipples and such.. A training potty, no, but it makes potty training MUCH easier to potty train, and even just the seats you attach reduce the risk of your child slipping into the toilet and getting stuck, it does happen.
I don't see how see how you figure they don't need body wash, they do need to be cleaned and regular soap is hard on their skin. Lotion keeps their delicate skin from drying out. Oil, no that's not really necessary, but it's good to have. Even with that said, everything you listed only take off a very small fraction of the cost of caring for a baby. You took off MAYBE $200, not much when you're 15 years old with a minimum wage paying job. I'm 20 years old and $200 still isn't taking off much more than $600 has been put into preparing for the baby.
posted 12th Dec
What's wrong with the damn world? Smurfing babies are TTC. You need your ass beat.quotesmurfs?