re: Dual Military Families Selfish? D&D

Quoting Raptor Jesus:" That bitch  "

We were together constantly too ):

Quoting Philosoraptor.:" We were together constantly too ):"

I have a friend this happened with. We more or less lived together during our senior year of high school and over that summer she just dropped off the face of the planet. It was so bizarre. She stopped answering all calls, texts, e-mails, etc. It was as if she had died or something.

Oddly enough she just started hitting the "like" button on lots of my photos and whatnot on Facebook after about six years of complete silence. It's almost as if she's trying to slowly reintroduce herself and knows that she was a bitch for just up and disappearing, or at least that's what it looks like to me.

Quoting Raptor Jesus:" I have a friend this happened with. We more or less lived together during our senior year of high school ... [snip!] ... reintroduce herself and knows that she was a bitch for just up and disappearing, or at least that's what it looks like to me."

It totally sucks. And I lost one of my oldest friends back here too, she's just... holier than thou

I dont think selfish is the right word.. but everyone comparing it to a child having two working parents that is just ignorant. a regular job is very different than joining the military where you could possibly be deployed for months at a time.

Quoting *Doodle'sMama*:" I dont think selfish is the right word.. but everyone comparing it to a child having two working parents ... [snip!] ... ignorant. a regular job is very different than joining the military where you could possibly be deployed for months at a time."

I have never met a dual couple with kids to deploy at the same time. Not saying it couldnt happen but its very unlikely.

Quoting ♡Sarah♡ +1.5:" I have never met a dual couple with kids to deploy at the same time. Not saying it couldnt happen but its very unlikely."

This is true, but the OP says they both have orders to deploy when the child is 6 months old. I think the "unwise" comments stem a lot from that. A child losing both parents at 6 months old would be VERY difficult for that child. The fact that that situation is unlikely doesn't change that people I think were responding based on what the OP said, not what would likely happen instead of that, you know?

Quoting Teagans_Mom:" This is true, but the OP says they both have orders to deploy when the child is 6 months old. I think ... [snip!] ... change that people I think were responding based on what the OP said, not what would likely happen instead of that, you know?"

Honestly, I think both enlisting is unwise because that scenario is not impossible. It might not be the norm, but it certainly does happen.

Quoting Sans Foy:" Honestly, I think both enlisting is unwise because that scenario is not impossible. It might not be the norm, but it certainly does happen. "

That may be true, but my point was that arguing that someone has never seen it happen doesn't change the original question. The original situation involved two parents both leaving when their child is 6 months old. Saying that is very rare doesn't change that, in the situation presented, that's exactly the circumstances people are talking about.

Quoting Teagans_Mom:" That may be true, but my point was that arguing that someone has never seen it happen doesn't change ... [snip!] ... that is very rare doesn't change that, in the situation presented, that's exactly the circumstances people are talking about."

True. But you know how defensive people can be. They view things as personal attacks even when they aren't.

I myself am in the military, my soon to be husband is as well... YES we talk about one day having children.. do i think its selfish.... NOT AT ALL!!!!.. what i do think is the smurf that posted the comment originally can kiss my patriotic ass...truth is... when we retire.. between the both of us our kids will have $100,000 for the college of their choice.. we will have medical, dental... we will never have to work again so when it matters the most we will have all the time in the world to explain to our kids why we were so damn selfish! i dont think they would mind at all.. AND IN THE CASE THAT WE BOTH MAY DIE IN COMBAT... MY HYPOTHETICAL CHILDREN/ FAMILIES WILL HAVE OVER A MILLION DOLLARS IN LIFE INSURANCE FROM THEIR SELFISH PARENTS !!!




for anyone out there who feels like they have the "want to" to say something about what we do.. you should stop and think about what you do for your kids/family... then maybe just maybe you might not have so much to say

I dont think if its selfish, but doesnt seem like a smart idea. I would never do it if my husband joined, which he would never though. I'd make sure I was there for my children or atleast 1 of us was there.

Quoting Penny Ramey:" I myself am in the military, my soon to be husband is as well... YES we talk about one day having children.. ... [snip!] ... you should stop and think about what you do for your kids/family... then maybe just maybe you might not have so much to say"

Sorry but a 1 million dollars doesnt replace you....I'm sure the children would want their parent over 1 million dollars. Atleast I know I would.

Quoting MommyToWesley:" One of my good friends was very upset yesterday after reading an article attacking dual military families ... [snip!] ... are both in the army, and have orders to both deploy for a year when their son is 6 months old. What are your thoughts?"

yet another example of overusing the word "selfish."
Anyway, that is a choice that me husband and I would not make. We have good family support but not good enough to leave our child with family for an extended period. I could see that arrangement working for some other families.
also, as a mom, there is no way i could separate myself ffrom my child for that long. I know my husband couldnt do it either.

I was under the impression that only one could parent was allowed to serve.