won't sleep in his room

so my 4 year old has had his own room for about 2 or 3 weeks now, he falls asleep in it..But either his dad or myself have to fall asleep with him, then he comes over to our bed at about 4 am..last night was the worst cause he kept comeing back to our room 3 times first at 2 then 2:30 then at 4 am i gave up..mind you all the times i took him back and lay down with him..i'm due anyday now..I can't have him in the bed with us...I know it hard for him cause he was sleeping with me until recently..but how did anyone else get their kids to sleep in their own rooms..or even go to sleep alone..

Keep putting him in his own bed.

i close the door to my daughters room and let her watch a movie and play. She normally plays for like ten minutes, lays in bed then passes out. But I also never let her sleep with me.

it sounds like because he slept with you for so long you are now having to do what a lot of moms do with their infants/toddlers. It does get harder the longer you wait...my sister slept with my mom til 11 !!! You don't want that. lol

my advice would be to handle it as you would a baby. set a night time routine (bath/book), tuck him in and if he comes in..walk him to his room and go back to your own. it will be tough for awhile but more than worth it. you just have to stick to your guns and create a constant reliable routine. children are comfortable with steadiness.

good luck!

Quoting Tasha Nicole:“ Keep putting him in his own bed.”

omg but i'm not gonna be able to keep this up last night was just horrible, and with the baby coming.. 

you can do it! Better now than when the baby is here and you're even more sleep deprived.

If you go to sleep with him every night, even in his own room he will expect it for a long time. A family friend has a 13 year old boy that still has trouble sleeping alone in his own room because his mom went to sleep with him for so long...a little ridiculous. Give him something to do alone like read a book or watch a movie until he falls asleep by himself.

Quoting fukuana:“ it sounds like because he slept with you for so long you are now having to do what a lot of moms do with ... [snip!] ... just have to stick to your guns and create a constant reliable routine. children are comfortable with steadiness. good luck!”

we have the routine down hes in his bed with a book by 8..just due to circumstances he had to sleep with me for so long and now well...

Quoting Miss*jess:“ omg but i'm not gonna be able to keep this up last night was just horrible, and with the baby coming.. ”

Yeah it sucks. The older they get the harder it is. When the new baby gets here don't let it start sleeping with you.

Quoting Tasha Nicole:“ Yeah it sucks. The older they get the harder it is. When the new baby gets here don't let it start sleeping with you.”

oh god no, that was only cause i had to have him sleep with me not making the same mistake

Did the routine you originally had work for you?

Quoting Miss*jess:“ oh god no, that was only cause i had to have him sleep with me not making the same mistake”

You're on the right track! Big brother will learn, and it might be harder for him right now too because he knows you're having another baby. My daughter is having some issues with it. She wants to be a big girl and is excited about being a helpful big sister part of the time, the other part she cries and wants to be held.

Quoting fukuana:“ Did the routine you originally had work for you?”

right now what i've had for a few months works in bed by 8 with a book, and asleep by 9. But again i have to lay down with him, if i don't they he'll come down and sit on the couch with us and fall asleep there, or just stand at the top of the stairs cryin and since he's already tired he's almost fell down the stairs a few times..i feel like my hands are tied

Maybe you should just work on getting him to stay in his own room right now, and work on going to sleep on his own after that.

you've already got a great start to getting him to bed with the routine and all. Maybe a little talk would be good. Ask him if he wants to be a big boy/brother and explain how he can do that...i.e. sleep in his own bed. Im not sure if this will work, but maybe on some level he'll want to be independent.

dont give up. im sure it can be frustrating and difficult. just reinforce and remember you are in charge.