Quoting Amelia Margaret:" Does he visit with your ex a lot?"
Unfortunately we have a 60/40 parenting plan (I have him 4 days a week, he has him 3) until he starts kindergarden. Then it goes to Monday thru Friday and every 3rd weekend with me. He really fought for the parenting plan we have. In my opinion a lot of his fighting was just a tactic to hurt me. He knew the more time he could take from me the more it would hurt. He quit his second job and got an apartment he couldn't afford to show that he could care for Jace. The month after our divorce and the parenting plan was established he was evicted from his apartment. A few months later his car was re-possessed. He couch surfed for a few months (which he hid from me so I couldn't do anything about it). He's not involved in Jace's betterment at all (I take him to all of his doctors appointments, dentist appointments, his speech/physical therapy appointments, and spend time teaching him). In my opinion he wants Jace for the status symbol of being seen as a good father. I know that all he does when he's at his dads is watch TV, graze eat, and play (he's able to tell us these things now). What's worse is that his dad and his new wife live with a roommate who has a son who is 4. This kid is a hellion! Jace comes home all the time and says that this kid hits him, beats him up (there's bruises, too) and breaks his toys. We ran into his dad (the roommate) and the kid at an event and Jace like ran into our arms and was like, "Jett's mean!!! Keep him away!"
Sorry that got really long.