Quoting Katie's Bees:" IMO 1st birthdays are for the parents, NOT the child. They don't care, they don't remember, and most ... [snip!] ... of her 1st year and life... one you almost didn't get. That, to me, is worth the party - whether she remembers or not."
That's kinda my whole thing that this is more for us since we never had that baby shower and for all the people who supported/prayed for her while she was in the NICU. I never would've done a big 1st birthday but now I feel like we should, we should celebrate her life and let everyone meet her. I know she won't remember, but we will and we will have lots of pictures for her to show her all the people who were there for her.