Justify this

By law, a 13, 4, 15... year old sexually active girl's parents are not allowed to "make" her get on birth control. It is the girl's choice.
It is also the girl's prerogative to go out and get pregnant...whether by accident or on purpose.
Once a baby is born, who is more than likely left to take care of him or her? Said girl's parents (a.k.a. the baby's grandparents)...

How is this okay? What is the solution?

**btw, this topic comes from a family situation that i'm pretty involved in.
i wrote briefly about it once on here if you're curious. http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about159039.html

Quoting Meg.:“ By law, a 13, 4, 15... year old sexually active girl's parents are not allowed to "make" her get on birth ... [snip!] ... i'm pretty involved in. i wrote briefly about it once on here if you're curious. http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about159039.html ”

It's not okay.I personally do not think 13 year olds have any business having sex,let alone getting pregnant-espescially if they have a parent who is willing to get them on the appropriate birth control.

So a person is considered an "adult" at 18, the responcibility of their parents until they are 21. But a 13-15yo girls parent's aren't allowed to take responcibility and put her on birth control? Yea I would have to say there is something wrong there. If I am to be responcible for my child I would like to have a say in whether or not they get pregnant!!!

a teenager isnt "legally" an adult and the parents are legally responsible for that child so I think thats a load of crap...what makes me mad is that thats the age range were most abortions are gotton. Parents should be able to control this.

my concern in that situation is the control/discipline that the parentshave on their kids. Of course they cant force their kid to take birth control but they can also guide them and tell them the consequences of having a child young. Don't parents talk about the birds and the bees anymore?

Quoting Ms. Von Fate:“ It's not okay.I personally do not think 13 year olds have any business having sex,let alone getting pregnant-espescially ... [snip!] ... sex,let alone getting pregnant-espescially if they have a parent who is willing to get them on the appropriate birth control.”

exactly.
i think her having sex in general is ridiculous.
when i took her to the clinic though...i sat in the room and said "give her the shot". she didn't say anything and then the Doctor asked me to leave the room. 5 minutes later, she comes out with a bag full of pills that I knew she would never take.
sure enough, her baby is due in 2 months.

I don't see how a parent could force birth control even if it was legal to do so. What do you do, strap them down and inject them?

Grandparents are not under any obligation to help out with these children if they have irresponsible children who get pregnant.

Maybe that sounds harsh, but I personally didn't start being sexual active until I was legally considered an adult, and if my kid wants to be stupid (and yes, I think it's stupid to have sex as a teen) and gets pregnant, my kid gets to deal with it, not me.

C.

i really don't know the solution... but i do know a lot of my friends that had kids in high school are being taken care of by the grandparents ( mother's parents).

I would love to say i am going to teach my daughter not to have sex, especially at that age, but at the same time I know all the teaching in the world is not going to convience a preteen/ teen to not do something they want to.

That makes no sense at all. If a minor has cancer and doesn't want treatment, and parents consent, then they do treatment, Same for other illnesses and medical conditions Why are they singling out B/C. Course it's not like they can force feed her the pills, I think I would have had a IUD or the depo shots or something then

Quoting God:“ I don't see how a parent could force birth control even if it was legal to do so. What do you do, strap ... [snip!] ... to be stupid (and yes, I think it's stupid to have sex as a teen) and gets pregnant, my kid gets to deal with it, not me. C.”

I agree that it's not the parent's responsibility but many times a parent does take that upon themself...
Her mother is not in nay situation to take care of a baby anyways so I don't know who will...
you can be damn sure i will be the first person to report her and her boyfriend to cps if this child is not being taken care of though.

whats wrong with strapping them down and injecting them?

Quoting Meg.:“ exactly. i think her having sex in general is ridiculous. when i took her to the clinic though...i sat ... [snip!] ... later, she comes out with a bag full of pills that I knew she would never take. sure enough, her baby is due in 2 months.”

I think if a parent has a reason to believe her teen is trying to get pregnant at a young age, she should be allowed to insist she get the shot,or an IUD,or some other bc that's a little harder to fake taking than the pill.
I understand unplanned pregnancies happen all the time-to adults as well-but I just cannot fathom being 13 years old and thinking about having a baby.What's wrong with waiting?Is the attention worth it?

Quoting Daniellebeauvais:“ whats wrong with strapping them down and injecting them?”

hah.
especially when you have a 14 year old telling you "i'll take the pills home but i won't take them!"

Quoting Ms. Von Fate:“ I think if a parent has a reason to believe her teen is trying to get pregnant at a young age, she should ... [snip!] ... I just cannot fathom being 13 years old and thinking about having a baby.What's wrong with waiting?Is the attention worth it?”

definitely.

if you read through the whole post i linked you'll see what a difficult/ hard headed child this girl in particular is...

Quoting God:“ I don't see how a parent could force birth control even if it was legal to do so. What do you do, strap ... [snip!] ... to be stupid (and yes, I think it's stupid to have sex as a teen) and gets pregnant, my kid gets to deal with it, not me. C.”

I beg to differ, if a minor child has a baby then YES her parents would be responsible. If they took their child home and not the baby I am sure the parents (grandparents of baby) would be looking at some trouble. I don't think for a second that they would be allowed to walk off and abandon child. And if you say, well the babies parents did it, well that is a minor and they have to do what thier parents say, and I think if a parent refused to take both home they would be in trouble then. IDK, I think it's a very fine line, prob would take courts years to figure out what to do!