Child Custody Observation

So me and my BD both have a Observer coming to our homes to make sure our homes are in safety standards for our 8 month old. Any whoo she charging us each $100 which is ridiculous but anything for my LO. My mom said to make sure i get a receipt from her for my payment and proof he paid as well. What would you guys do would you ask for a receipt?

Yes.

I would ask for one. My husband is adopting our oldest son, it's a step parent adoption. And they're charging us $450 for a home visit, you better believe I'll ask for a reciept so I have proof I paid for it.

hell yah i dont want it to bite me in the ask always ask for proof of the payment.

I've never heard of being charged for that....is it for adoption or something? or did someone call on you?

nevermind. for some reason i didn't see the custody part...i thought this was like for CPS.

I still don't see why they're charging you anything though.

SHOULD I ASK FOR PROOF OR REQUEST TO SEE THAT HE PAID AS WELL???.. AND THE REASON WE HAVE TO DO IT IS BECAUSE BD WAS PHYSICALLY VIOLENT AND NEVER TOOK ANY PARENTING RESPONSIBILTY FOR OUR SON..

Quoting Richelle E:" SHOULD I ASK FOR PROOF OR REQUEST TO SEE THAT HE PAID AS WELL???.. AND THE REASON WE HAVE TO DO IT IS BECAUSE BD WAS PHYSICALLY VIOLENT AND NEVER TOOK ANY PARENTING RESPONSIBILTY FOR OUR SON.."

No need for caps ask for ur receipt... I dont see why asking for the other party's proof they paid is ur business as if he does not pay its his ass on the line not your's.

I just want to make sure im not the only one doing it... this whole process of the child support and child custody i just dont want to be tooken of advatage of. I'm starting to feel my son is not even mine i have raised him on my own these past 8 months and with the courts, and mediation and this stupid obeservation is making me feel like im not the one who carried him for 9 months and gave birth to him and cares for him now. Our system is just SmUrfED up!!!!.   Sorry but its how I feel.

Quoting Richelle E:" I just want to make sure im not the only one doing it... this whole process of the child support and ... [snip!] ... him for 9 months and gave birth to him and cares for him now. Our system is just SmUrfED up!!!!.   Sorry but its how I feel."

Welcome to California darling. Our ENTIRE family law system is smurfed up. Worry about your part of all of this, make sure you get a receipt for what you have paid and just do what YOU have to do for this to be over, dont worry about what he is doing/has done or has paid. It sucks that our BD put us thru smurf like this, but there is really nothing we can do. Roll with the punches and before you know it, this'll be over.

Quoting Batman ♥:" Roll with the punches and before you know it, this'll be over."

Batman has given you the most important advice.
As difficult as this all feels, it will pass and you will both be fine.
Take good care of yourself. If you don't, he will end up raising your child without you.
Enjoy the time you have with your child. It is golden and short.
Don't obsess about the little stuff.
You are not responsible for what the other parent does. You are responsible for how you respond.
Your child will look back at how you behaved. Make sure you will be proud of yourself.
Try to get a copy of a little book called, "Dear Judge, Children's letters to the judge". It will give you the children's view of their parent's behavior in child custody cases.
Hang in there. It will work out.