I'm writing this paper on teen pregnancy.
It's a debate.
I am writing on the Good things about teen pregnancy and the bad things.
I have to play both sides so please post what you feel is good about teen pregnancy and what is bad about it.

Do not go and bash teen mothers because I am one and we are human just like everyone else. Some of us are different kinds of mothers and don't let one teen mother who has showed you irresponsibility because she doesn't represent us all.
Some of us doooo care about our children and families.
-tHANKS-

BUT...My questions are...
What are the good things about teen pregnancy?
What are the bad things about teen pregnancy?

and I'm not talking about experiences like [[morning sickness, and feeling like a whale]] lol
I'm talking about in society, in our communities, everything.

the bad thing about teen pregnancy is that for the most part, teens are still children. (I'm not talking 18/19 year olds here...like 13-16 or 17) They don't have the resources to properly raise a child (there are exceptions...like Vik). Also you miss out on a vital part of your life because you have a child.
The only good thing that I see about teen pregnancy is that all babies are a blessing.

You could say that having kids young you are able to watch them and their children grow! Possibly even your GREAT grandchildren!

well im 19 and look 16. So when i go out people always look at me with judging eyes. My other friends ask me if Im sad that i ll be "missing out" on going out and partying. But i honestly want nothing more then to be a mom. So i guess that the views of people is a downside, how they judge us and assume that we are going to be on welfare, on maury finding out who our childrens fathers are or are sluts. I would have to say the upside is we have more energy then say a 35 yearold woman. lol

Thats actually a good question.... I guess there are obvous bad things that could occur but I would hink that a positive would be that later on in life a teen mother might be able to communicate better to a younger parent rather than like a 15 talking to her 55 year old mother about little teenage problem...I don;t know but basically what I'm trying to say is a child might relate better to a younger parent.  I probably didn't help you much, huh? LOL Good luck on this one.

One good thing is that you're closer in age to the baby than most & in most cases you'll be around longer to watch your child grow up & get married & have kids, etc etc etc.

Bad things, depending on how young, you miss out on high school experiences, you could miss out on college, most likely you're not going to have a great job to support you both financially & you'll need to rely on the support of your family a lot more, [i rely almost 100% on my mom right now & i'm 20!! i'm starting cosmotology school in the fall, so after thats over with i'll hopefully be able to stand on my own 2 feet & support baby all for myself   ]

I had my first baby when I was 17. The good that came out of it was a wonderful beautiful baby girl, and that she turned my life around. I was headed down the wrong path and I think that if I hadn't gotten pregnant with her and opened my eyes, I wouldn't be in a good place right now..5 years later.

But of course the bad is that really we are kids having kids and we have to grow up way too quickly.
Some don't go on to finish school b/c it's just too much for them to raise a baby and go to school too.
Alot of the fathers don't stick around when a teen girl gets pregnant. Not saying all, my husband did, but a lot do not and they leave the young girl to take care of the baby on her own.
Sometimes parents will kind of disown the teen. And not help in any kind of way.

So i just had a really long huge post in response to what you asked, and it disappeared, darn IE7!!!

Anyway the bad, is that our society is definitely becoming overpopulated, i've seen mothers take advantage of the government, and most times i've also seen the mother's parents end up helping support the child. The good, if a woman was immature before, she sure as heck is gonna grow up fast hopefully after giving birth to the child.
Alot of society today has lost focus of true moral values, and we need to get them back!!! it makes me wonder what our schools are teaching our kids, and it makes me scared to have a daughter of my own someday.

Many fathers deny the child and the woman is left alone to take care of the baby. Maybe the parents have not finished school and life becomes even more of a struggle especially if no one in either of the parents family wants to be supportive. Why do you think so many ppl end up relying on the governement aid & even then what the govt offers is not even close to enough!

I say don't start spreading your legs unless your really ready to pay for the consequences that come after having premarital sex, like the diseases if you have multiple partners or a baby. Many people have forgotten that marriage is key, and soo0o important to have that commitment first before the sex. I know many teens today have come from broken families, and its sad that ppl dont have faith to realize and fully think thru their decisions.

Of course, i know God has a plan for all of us, as Tabitha posted, The child of course is the benefit,and it DOES CHANGE A PERSON'S LIFE for good.
But ppl really need to think things thru more and realize what can happen if you just have sex once unprotected, your gonna have to deal with that for life.

I think really though our education systems need to be better and actually teach kids the truth behind having sex so soon

I kinda rambled, sorry

Thank you all so much you guys opened my eyes to this topic.
I never looked at all those pros and cons.
You are all making my paper so much better and easier.
It has to be a 5 page paper on my half but I'm in a group so our paper total has to be 15-20 pages.
So as you can see I am trying to get as much information as I can because I am not about to rely on my group for all the pages lol

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Quoting Cam'sWifey:“ So i just had a really long huge post in response to what you asked, and it disappeared, darn IE7!!! ... [snip!] ... our education systems need to be better and actually teach kids the truth behind having sex so soon I kinda rambled, sorry”

YOu're so right.
I know that most parents who don't educate their children on sex ed. then the children doesn't know all the risks and they go out into a world and do whatever they feel like doing without knowing all the consequences.
And the education system is the same way with not educating correctly.
In my highschool they only give you health class 9th and 10th grade and I don't remember them really talking to us about sex education except for the body parts.
Which is sad because I think if I would have known more I'd probably not gotten pregnant and had my daughter. My mother never talked to me about sex none of my family members did. They felt that if they educate me on sex that I will want to experience it which isn't true I probably would have been too scared to try after hearing about it and the truths about it [[you know?]]

I will educate my daughter on sex when she is in highschool and just hope for the best.

You may get more responses on this if you post it in debate & discuss.

I was 35 when I got preggo with my first.

A pro to having kids young is that you have more time to have more kids.

A con to this is emotionally & psychologically teen's brains are not fully developed. Having children too early limits their individual potential as a human being in this world.

Wisdom is not something you can get by having kids. It is something you get by living & experiencing life. Some do this by partying, but others do it by challenging themself. Challenging oneself within & without will promote further development in an individual. I think having kids is a challenge, but it something that is hard to do without wisdom. I disagree that having a parent close in age will make you a better parent. Having a parent close in age is only good if you want to be your child's best friend. To be a child's best friend is, flat out, bad parenting.

Quoting Mardesse:“ YOu're so right. I know that most parents who don't educate their children on sex ed. then the children ... [snip!] ... truths about it [[you know?]] I will educate my daughter on sex when she is in highschool and just hope for the best. ”

Ya i agree with what you put, no doubt, all we can do is try our best to educate our children and let them learn from us. I'm definitely gonna let my children know when they are old enough what sex is and why they really should wait.
My parents pretty much, scared me about it, i knew if i ever came home as a teen mom before i graduated or even talked about sex that my mama would not approve and my step dad would have freaked, i can recall however discussing how important it is to wait for marriage after my cousin had her baby at 19 with a 26yr old and now shes 21 and taking care of him herself. With me, my hubby and i did our best to wait, while being engaged we took the risk of being prego. Your right, children these days need the education and to learn about it.
Overall there is no benefit except for a child being born in teen pregnancies.
I know many women from my former graduating class that are prego now, most are not married sadly, but some are in stable relationships. I've seen many ppl get married just b/c they found they were gonna have a child together, and i think thats why divorce rate is high also, it was meant to have both parents ya know, But not to say I DO just for the child, the child will know if their parents are not happy together.
Anyway Best of Luck with your paper!!!!
i have to write one myself on the career that im trying to obtain.
Let me know how it goes  
~Mrs. Watt

Quoting Cam'sWifey:“ Ya i agree with what you put, no doubt, all we can do is try our best to educate our children and let ... [snip!] ... with your paper!!!! i have to write one myself on the career that im trying to obtain. Let me know how it goes   ~Mrs. Watt”

yes very true with everything you said.
The marriage thing was a plus topic for my paper.
I see that a lot where I live they get engaged and then they are living on rollercoasters because the man isn't ready to settle down but he always feels bad leaving the child with the mother blah blah.
I mean me and my boyfriend we took the risk of staying pregnant I wasn't about to be selfish to get an abortion because I know that if i had the audacity to open my legs that i can open them again to give birth. I made my bed and i was ready to lay in it. Of course I grew up before he did he is still growing up a lot. but he didn't want to settle down while i was pregnant and now he is ready and 3 weeks after I gave birth to my daughter he asked me to be his girlfriend officially...and i said "no" and he didn't understand why and i said...because i don't want you to be with me because you saw me push out your daughter and you feel different. because i want you to love me for me and if it takes awhile ill wait but i can't be with anyone who won't love me for me.
and he agreed that i was right so we're still waiting and my daughter is 5 months tomorrow. =\ but it's ok because things we're shaky but we didn't bring it around the baby.
she never liked him in the beginnin up until a month ago now when she sees him she just laughs and smiles and talks to him lol
before she would just cry and cry lmfao it was funny.

Well thats good, least he is attempting to grow up and be a mature man for his daughter   thats a major plus!!!
I had one girl when she saw i was prego on my myspace she goes" ya everyone is doing it from our class" I'm like dude no! that comment made me mad, if everyone was doing it, it would be doing it the right way ya know, and waiting til you were in a serious relationship and you could easily support a child if it happened, let alone what made me laugh was she aint prego so how is everyone doing it?? LoL

My hubby and i are 10 months apart, im very lucky how mature he is for his age and how independent he is and how all he wants to do is provide for me and junior. i still can't believe how lucky i am, coz hes not 19 til this june & i'll be almost 20 when our son is born.

Quoting Cam'sWifey:“ Well thats good, least he is attempting to grow up and be a mature man for his daughter   thats a major ... [snip!] ... me and junior. i still can't believe how lucky i am, coz hes not 19 til this june & i'll be almost 20 when our son is born.”

That's good. He is one of the many [[GOOD MEN]] out there that some of us ladies have yet still to find.
oh my gosh!
you know how I am doing this topic for my paper well I have other topic questions in the debate and discuss forum and there is this girl like flipping out. She is saying stuff like "WHAT IS UP WITH THIS TEEN PREGNANCY TOPIC ARE THERE ALOT OF PEOPLE DOING THIS TOPIC FOR A PAPER OR IS THIS JUST ONE PERSON WHO KEEPS POSTING THIS STUFF."
and yet...she isn't a teen mother...and i believe that is what i am looking for. hahaha
and so i posted a response to her thing tellin her that i appreciate everyone who was willing but that if she isn't willing then to not look at this topic.
she is just one of those nosey people who look down on teen pregnancy or somethin.

like what don't people understand...I AM DOING A RESEARCH PAPER! haha
research requires lots of questions!
ughhhh she gets me mad!