in need of some comforting words..

I posted this in pregnancy issues and its been viewed like 25 times but no one responds.. maybe here.. Just needed/need some comforting words and to know maybe somewhere outthere someone else married an asshole too..


Ok.. This really baffles me. I was talking to my husband on the phone today (we dont live together.. long story) and he says, so how much did you weigh at your doctors appointment yesterday? And i tell him.. 208 woohoo (yeah i feel like a fucking heffer) and he says to me "Oh do you LIKE that??" with this freakin attitude like calling me fat without actually saying it, so I got my feelings hurt and hung up on him. Then he calls me back about 1/2 hour later and I just put a load of laundry in the washing machine cause i dont wanna have any dirty laundry when i go into labor so that I dont have to worry about it when i get home and he says, oh your actually gonna do laundry before you have 5 loads?? Calling me lazy, like he always does. DO YOU NOT FUCKING UNDERSTAND I AM ABOUT TO HAVE YOUR CHILD IN A COUPLE OF DAYS AND YOU HAVNT DONE SHIT!!! I CAN BE LAZY IF I WANT... but silly me doesnt say that, i just say YEAH I am gonn abe lazy if i want cause im about to have to take care of a baby 24/7!! And I have a bad habit of chewing on the side of my cheeks and i was doing that while talking to him and he says GOD!!!! NOW what are you eating??? (mind you its 1:45 pm and igot up at 930 and all ive had to eat today is a peanut butter and Jelly sandwich and a glass of milk) And i said NOTHING you assshole i was chewing on my cheeks and youre an asshole and i dont wanna talk to you so have a nice day and dont call me back!!

And he hasnt called me back, but i just DONT understand how someone who is supposed to love me more than anyone can be so mean to me.. I dont even think a stranger on the street would be that mean and my husband can say these things.. Yeah I do weigh 208 lbs and i feel fat.. ive gained 53 lbs now in this pregnancy and i definately feel like im huge and he has to go and make me feel even fatter.. god i just dont get it..
I just want to have my baby so i can finally divorce his ass cause im not gonna sit around and take this emotional abuse!! i hate him so much.. its amazing how i loved him with everything i had and all he did was shoot me down and break promises.. this sucks.

I've never married an asshole, and I hope I never will, but really..

This is just beyond my understanding.

Women should be respected (_especially_) when they are pregnant, not looked down on or being abused, whether physically or emotionally.

You don't have to listen to any of that, just hang up on him when he calls you and it starts to seem like he's going to shout abuse at you. If you have something to say to him, you could try writing a letter. That way he can't talk back to you, and you'll have the chance to think through what you're saying.

Hope things will get better. I'm sorry you have to go through this right now.  

My husband and myself are separated also. We have said an awful lot of ugly things to each other in the last few weeks but, he would never go as low to say the things your husband has said to you. No matter what you still deserve respect from him. I am taking no less from my husband. He doesnt have to love me or like me anymore but I wouldnt allow him to speak to me in that way. I dont think you should put up with it either. As the old saying says " if you cant say anything nice dont say anything at all!" I have been trying to follow these words myself in my own relationship. I have said some mean things to my husband but I am hurt right now. He just walked out on me three weeks ago and is already dating. In a way I feel I have a right to be ugly, but it still doesnt make it right. You need to put your foot down and tell him flat out if all he is going to do is call you and be ugly to you to just stop calling. Sorry you are going through all of this, I know its hard. Just remember he is only going to do to you what you keep allowing him to do!

I feel what your going through I'm going through the same BS. Dont worry about it after you have the baby and lose your weight he is going to sweating you, but give him your ASS to kiss!

Hey...
I know how you feel...well...kinda. I've gained 49 pounds and I still have about 7 weeks to go. You should beat his ass! Men don't understand that when you gain weight-along with other annoying things- this fast...it's really hard on your body. You have the right to be the laziest person in the whole world right now. Hell, your body is working even when you're asleep. I'm required to stay on my feet at work for 8-10 hours a day. I've caught my coworkers looking at me in awe like "Isn't that the 3rd time you've took a break in the past hour-and-a-half??" It pisses me off....my feet are swollen, my back hurts, and it feels like I'm ready to go into labor any day now! Wow...they get pissy if you sit for two minutes. Just to piss him off, I would get a box of Krispy Kremes, a gallon of milk, and sit right infront of his ass. I would SLOWLY eat donut after donut, groaning about how good they were. After I was done, I'd say..."Go ahead, call me a fat lazy ass now." Then I'd go lay down on the couch and watch TV. I'd be twice the asshole he was being to give him a taste of his own medicine. Let him know you're not gunna take his shit...well...let your hormones do all the talking...he might run and crawl underneath a rock afterwards....hell hath no fury like a woman's scorn. Be strong!!! Marishka