I don't know what to do....long..sorry

Please don't judge me for this..because i'm being hard enough on myself. Okay heres the situation I have two young kids, and I just found out two days ago I am pregnant again. We did use protection but I had two operations and the first operation they gave me an iv antibiotic that I wasn't aware of...needless to say the antibiotic counter acted the birth control. My fiance is very supportive and a great dad..and he keeps telling me it's my choice but he thinks abortion is the best option..now part of me thinks this too..but I am very pro-life..and I feel so guilty..I made an appointment for thursday..but i'm not sure if I can do this...I know i read if the dr feels your not emotionally stable enough they can refuse the procedure and i'm about 85 percent sure that is what would happen in my case..i'm scared about money...and if we can provide a good enough life for three children..and also his family can't stand me and i'm pretty sure this would end up with them not talking to him..I just....I don't know I read a bunch of the posts here from other women who have similar situations and they say they regret their abortions...and I went to the er a few days ago and saw the heartbeat and I just don't know if I can do this...for all of you who have had abortions or almost did..do you regret your decisions? or did you feel like I do and end up feeling glad you had an abortion? I'm sorry for this being so long but i'm so conflicted..

If you're not sure, don't do it. Do you know how far along you are? If you just found out, you probably have a little bit of time to think about it. It has to be the right choice for you, though, and not just what your fiancee wants. Best wishes.

Have you considered adoption?

If you know in your heart that this is the best decision for you and your family, i don't think you will regret it. I had one a couple years ago, and i KNEW that i wouldn't be able to take care of another child, i think about it sometimes, but i don't regret it because i know i made the right choice. The only thing i wanna say is don't let ANYONE push you into anything, you need to do this for yourself, no matter what you choose, you have to know in your heart that its the right choice!

pro-life also! there is no way i could do that BUT if all else fails there is always adoption! There is a couple looking for a precious baby as i type! Good luck in ur choice momma!!

Please don't ask me about adoption..I could not have a child and not raise the child myself..

and i'm 6 weeks and 1 day along

The way your SO's family feels about you should have no influence on this situation or your family size in general. I will be praying for you. I was only 21 when i ended up pregnant w/my 3rd (#2 was only 9wks old).....it was alittle tight financially but i never regretted having my baby.

You said you're not sure if you can financially afford three kids..have you sat down and evaluated finances to see what could be cut out or redone. That's what I did when I found out I was pregnant

I almost did wit my last babygirl who is now seven days old. I wouldnt trade her for the world she is my third. I am a single mother. I pray everyday for the strength to take care of my three. I believe you can do it just pray and you will know what to do I did.

Thanks for the support everyone..i'm thinking my fiance doesn't really want to do this either since he said he's having some doubts..and since he keeps telling me if i don't want to go i don't have to..but i'm pretty sure i may end up keeping the baby..things will be tight but..i don't know if i have it in me to choose an abortion..i'm going to think this over long and hard..and if i'm not sure by thursday i'm going to cancel

Quoting Unsure..and scared:" Please don't ask me about adoption..I could not have a child and not raise the child myself.."

You absolutely don't have to. I could never do that, either. I'd honestly rather abort, if it was me.

If you think you can fit another baby into your life, then do it! don't worry about what other people think. It's your life. It doesn't sound like you're sure either way, so maybe you need to have a serious talk with your fiancee to see if raising another baby is something you could do together. It's nice that he is respecting that it is ultimately your decision, but at the same time, I know his input matters.

Quoting Unsure..and scared:" and i'm 6 weeks and 1 day along"

have you looked into government assistance?

Quoting B( o )( o )BS!:" You absolutely don't have to. I could never do that, either. I'd honestly rather abort, if it was me. ... [snip!] ... together. It's nice that he is respecting that it is ultimately your decision, but at the same time, I know his input matters. "

the hardest part is he keeps telling me it's my choice..and so i feel like if i don't do it and we go through hard times he'll blame me, but if i do do it and he regrets it like i think he may he'll blame me as well and he's never said any of that to me and it may be just me but i feel like thats what would happen..so i'm feeling conflicted either way