you'r right! you shouldn't start off a post "if you don't have something nice to say stop reading." You SHOULD be a big girl and not take people on the internet so seriously. YOU SHOULD have a thick skin and know some people are going to see you for the smurftard you are right off the bat and call you out for it. Not everyone in the world is nice. Not everyone in the world really gives to smurfs if you are a timid little mouse who can't take criticism and or stand up for herself when she needs to.
not everyone sugar coats the truth or their feelings just to spare you the embarrassment of being told what you don't want to hear.