Teen Pregnancy =] I need help with my paper!!!

I am writing this paper on Teen pregnancy.
I ama teen mother so I am planning on writing about the struggles and the good parts of teen pregnancy...If anyone can help me answer a few questions I would be soooo greatful!!!

The questions are:
Why do we have unprotected sex with our partners?
Do the relationships always last?
How many teen mothers have considered abortion during our pregnancy?
Any of you teen mothers gotten pregnant without being in a relationship with your partner?
How many of you have the fathers on Child support?
What nationality do you think has the highest teen pregnancy rating?

Any other things you guys can tell me about your personal experience, then let me know please!

THANKS!

I was a teen mother....YEARS ago...hehe.

I had unprotected sex because I was too embarrassed to buy or bring up the subject of condoms.

I married him, but we divorced 2 yrs later and is currently 29, 000+ dollars behind in support. I never considered abortion. Not once.

And as far as who is more at risk for teen pregnancy? I dont think it is nationality. I think it's ignorance and that knows no race.

By ignorance I dont mean stupid people...my parents thought that raising me in a church and telling me that God wanted me to abstain would keep me from doing it. They failed to educate me on safe sex....because the didnt want me to have sex....and they thought that educating me would make me want to do it.

you should make a poll   i will tell you about my experience though... i was 19 when i got preg. the first time, he was 18 and i miscarried sadly. i had unprotected sex with him because i wanted to- i was tracking my fertility and thought since it wasnt my most fertile days, we were safe... obviously not   i did concider abortion but i had not decided by the time the baby has a hearable heartbeat and after i knew their tiny heart was beating, i could not kill it. i was scared but i knew i couldnt live with that decision. my relationship DID last, and he is now my husband. i think after everything we went through with the miscarriage, our relationship grew even stronger. and we were in a relationship, we had been dating for 6 months. i do not know the stats for teen preg. but you can probablly find them on the net. good luck with the paper.

Quoting Mardesse:“ I am writing this paper on Teen pregnancy. I ama teen mother so I am planning on writing about the struggles ... [snip!] ... pregnancy rating? Any other things you guys can tell me about your personal experience, then let me know please! THANKS!”

Why do we have unprotected sex with our partners? I had a condom but when I did have unprotected sex I guess it was because I figured I wouldn't get pregnant and that if I did it would be an easy happy thing.
Do the relationships always last? I think they rarely do...and honestly I'd say the majority of the time the boys are too blame, although we might be able to be ready to raise children most of our boyfriends aren't. I guess you could look at it from the whole standpoint of "girls mature 3yrs faster than boys mentally", but I think that society makes it easy for men to dodge responsibility with excuses like "oh well what do you expect, he's a teenage boy".
How many teen mothers have considered abortion during our pregnancy? During the course of my pregnancy? Not ever really. I thought about what my life would be like if I had chosen to get an abortion, but in my mind it was never an option, although various people in my life attempted to present it as one. I've just never heard of a girl being happy after one, I know it's not comfortable physically and mentally/emotionally it's a really rough thing to do, and even beyond that I would feel as though I was killing a part of myself.
Any of you teen mothers gotten pregnant without being in a relationship with your partner? I did. We weren't technically in a relationship when I got pregnant, I slept with him the first night I met him  . But we were dating right after that and that's even before we knew I was prego.
How many of you have the fathers on Child support? He will be when the baby is born!
What nationality do you think has the highest teen pregnancy rating? I don't want to offend anyone, I'm not racist, but statistically speaking, in the area that I live in the hispanic population has the highest amount of teen pregnancies.

I fell pregnant with my ex's baby when i just turned 17. i was terrified and scared, my parents flipped and kept telling me to have an abortion. My ex wasnt interested he was abusive and told me i was a slag and it wasnt his even though he was the only one i was sleeping with.So i didnt think it was fair to bring a child into this world that i cant provide for. I was terriably upset at the time but i knew it was the right descion as i had an abortion and now im married to myfantastic husband and i've just found out im pregnant. Im very happy as i am in a stable relationship and finacially stable. I know i can look after this baby now and i wont be on my own with no money and no support.No i have everything for us it feels so right now xxx baby due 28th december xx

Quoting ***Yummy**Mummy***:“ I fell pregnant with my ex's baby when i just turned 17. i was terrified and scared, my parents flipped ... [snip!] ... wont be on my own with no money and no support.No i have everything for us it feels so right now xxx baby due 28th december xx”

What is a slag? Like a slut?

same thing yeah, still hurts to this day when he called me that because i know im not like that you know xx

Quoting ***Yummy**Mummy***:“ same thing yeah, still hurts to this day when he called me that because i know im not like that you know xx”

I know. I'm sorry, that's horrible. I've been called names by the father of my child and it's really hard.

Why do we have unprotected sex with our partners?
We used protection(condoms) to an extent....but honestly we suffered through a miscarriage a year before so i think subconsciously we both wanted a baby in a way, so we weren't exactly carefull...we weren't trying necessarily, but when we found out we couldn't say we were upset at all, if that makes sense.

Do the relationships always last?
My fiance and I were together for a year and a half prior to getting pregnant, and we are still going strong planning a wedding. i'm completely in love with my fiance and couldn't imagine my life without him, so i know we have what it takes to make it.

How many teen mothers have considered abortion during our pregnancy?
not once, no, never!!! i don't agree with abortions at all, so it's more of a personal view on the subject as to why i didn't consider it i'm sure...

Any of you teen mothers gotten pregnant without being in a relationship with your partner?
not me. =)

How many of you have the fathers on Child support?
not me again. lol

What nationality do you think has the highest teen pregnancy rating?
i agree with the first answer, it's not a nationality it's ignorance...when sex is presented as something that you should just say no to, instead of teaching how to be responsible when having sex, that breeds ignorance which in turn breeds something else, babies.

Thank you all so much.
Keep the posts coming.
P.S.
my paper will keep everyones life private im not going to name names in my paper.
Just mention the hardships and the thing about society making it easy for boys to bail out with excuses like "He's just a teenage boy"
Will really spice up my paper.
i wasn't thinking about writing about society but it works because it's a sociology paper!!!!!

YOU ALL ARE THE BEST!

Quoting Mardesse:“ Thank you all so much. Keep the posts coming. P.S. my paper will keep everyones life private im not ... [snip!] ... i wasn't thinking about writing about society but it works because it's a sociology paper!!!!! YOU ALL ARE THE BEST!”

That's a really good idea, because it's true. Society doesn't hold men to the standard of responsibility that they hold women, especially in cases of teenage pregnancy. It's a double standard of sorts...most girls are frowned upon for getting pregnant and then when the father skips out instead of expecting him to act responsible people just say things like "well what did you expect, he's only 18"...well so is the mother! Like wtf?

Quoting fierce:“ That's a really good idea, because it's true. Society doesn't hold men to the standard of responsibility ... [snip!] ... him to act responsible people just say things like "well what did you expect, he's only 18"...well so is the mother! Like wtf?”

You're so right. I never looked at it like that because sometimes i feel just as ignorant as society and me bein a teen mom ugh he wasn't there for my whole entire pregnancy and he is around now he was there for the last 2 months of my trimester and now and people think its ncie that at least he came around ugh.
but they don't understand how my pregnancy was straight hell.
verbal abuse and name callin and just tons of thingsz.
and then society is like...ughh sooo judgemental.

losersz haha

Quoting Mardesse:“ You're so right. I never looked at it like that because sometimes i feel just as ignorant as society ... [snip!] ... verbal abuse and name callin and just tons of thingsz. and then society is like...ughh sooo judgemental. losersz haha”

Honestly I have to wonder how many teen moms have happy pregnancies, I mean I know it happens, but I think more often than not it is a long nine months filled with many trails and tribulations. On top of that, very few people give teen mothers the credit they deserve, they think we keep our babies out of ignorance, thinking it will be like having a puppy, but did they ever stop to think that we keep them because we can't imagine ending a life? And then if you don't keep your baby and you do have an abortion a majority of people will still look down on you...so how do you win?

And I know what you mean, my pregnancy is full of drama and I am constantly allowing myself to be walked all over by a man that doesn't deserve the love I give him.

I soooo understand where you're coming from.
The guy I'm with in the beginning I slept with him atleast like 2 weeks after I met him. We were [[friends with benefits]] I actually had feelings for him but of course him bein a guy shoved it to the side and looked at me as just [[another f*ck buddy]].
to this day when i bring it up to him he apologizes but a part of me still wonders if he loves me because he saw me push out his baby or what..because he still has doubts that she is his. =[
We have an [[alright]] relationship but not where I know it could be because he keeps letting people get in the middle. ughh i just wanna smack every single person! lmfao

but about him walking all over you and you loving him and he doesn't deserve the love yo ugive him...i understand.
I'm still doing it and my friends tell me he's walking all over me but I never look at it through a mirror you know..so I dont see what they see...so then i started to realize I do let him get away with a lot and I changed.
When he texts me and if he takes forever I get mad and ask him tons of questions hahaha and he noticed that Im changing and so he is starting to change wanting to hang out with me more.
It's better to show them \whose boss.

I mean if you gotta be a bitch about it then by all means..go for it.
That's how i did it but i still show him my sweet side. I don't need him around, i mean c'mon i went through my whole pregnancy with my mom!
He wasn't there for any appointments nothing! and i know it eats him up inside. My mom hates that he is around now because I give him respect as if he had been there for me when he hasn't and she feels pushed to the side when it is nothing like that.
But [love makes people do crazy things] =/
hate to admit it but it's oh so true and I know you can work things out great with your [[boo]] =]
ANYTHiNG iS POSSiBLE!

Well let me first start out that i got pregant when i was 15 n had my zowie when i was 16... My bf n i had dated for like 6 months b4 i had gotten pregant..He was a lil older then me he was 18 going on 19.. I lived in a very small town everyone new everyone's bussiness..anyways i just wanted let u know some of the struggles i had as a parent.. first of all its just not the boy who gets u pergant n says mean stuff to u.. i lost several friendships.. alot... of kids parents would make comments to me that i was a slut n they would not let their kids even talk to me... they called me a drop out said i wouldnt graduate ... n that i would be a bad mom.. boy did i prove them wrong1!! when i told my parents my mom cried n my dad didnt really talk to me until he saw his granddaughter then it was paps lil girl!! My parents were very supportive my mom watched zowie when i was in school i went half a day bc the school sit it up wher if i worked 5 hrs a day for 5 days that i only had to go half a day .... Then in the evenings n at night n on weekends i could spend w zowie everymin i was not at school or at work..i got my ownplace at 16 too..I graduated w honors at my highschool.. I cried like no other mother when i graduated i felt so proud to prove evryone wrong!!! As for zowies dad at first he was great when i was pergant then after his friends got into his head he told me things like u were having sex w other ppl the babies not mine i amnot going to help u until i get a test done..w all the raging hormones u have when yr pergant i felt horrible ..But when zowie was born we got a test n he was the father i recived child support n he went to the militay ... he always apoligizes to me for the things he had said but the thoughts r always there .. after that he was really good to me n after minding our realtionship we r still together after 6 yrs!!! I think he grew up a lil n relized what he needed to do to b a man!! n i think it is very easy for men to get away n not help or take care of the baby!!! As for the abortion thing i never thought about it but my friends brought it up to me n ppl who didnt even know me told me i should ..that i was to young.. i think no matter how old u r it doesnt make u love yr baby less!!! It only made me stronger a stronger mother for my baby!!! Not to mention the downfalls all the stares u got from ppl when i was out n about!!!!! There r alot of downfalls but it does not compare to the glory n happiness zowie had brought to my life... The life lessons she had tought me.. how to love someone so much n compassion for something that was mine n no one could take away from me... Evrytime i see a young mother i just want to go up 2 them n tell them that they are a great person for what they do !! A single mother is the hardest job in the world !!!! I would not take back one min of my life or to go back n change it!! it made me who i am today n that is a great n stong person like many other single young moms out there!!