Lost on what to do. *VERY PERSONAL*

I'm 8 weeks pregnant and my fiance and I found out tonight that he met another girl. I can't be a single mom of 2 at 21. I don't want to give it up for adoption because I'm afraid they won't go into a good home, or get adopted at all. I don't want him/her to feel unwanted.
I feel like abortion is the best decision, but also the worst. I don't know what to do. I'm so lost. I need to talk to him about it. But I really, really can't support two babies on my own. I'm a smurfing horrible person.

Quoting MOMMY❀:" I'm 8 weeks pregnant and my fiance and I found out tonight that he met another girl. I can't be a single ... [snip!] ... lost. I need to talk to him about it. But I really, really can't support two babies on my own. I'm a smurfing horrible person."

You're not a horrible person, at all. It's not your fault that happened.

I wouldn't make any hasty decisions right now, since you're still very much in shock from just finding out all this....

Only you can make that decision sweetie.
I've been there done that, and for me, in the moment I was in, abortion was my best option. I also couldn't stand to give up a child, and I couldn't afford another one at the moment.
You do what you think is best for your situation. Don't let anyone tell you differently.

Quoting MOMMY❀:" I'm 8 weeks pregnant and my fiance and I found out tonight that he met another girl. I can't be a single ... [snip!] ... lost. I need to talk to him about it. But I really, really can't support two babies on my own. I'm a smurfing horrible person."

You are not a horrible person, sometimes life throws us curveballs and we have to make extremely difficult decisions.

I always said I would never get one myself, but now that I have my daughter I worry that if I were to get pregnant that it would severely negatively impact her life (less money to support her on, less time and energy for her, etc etc) So I understand it is a difficult situation especially if you know you're going to be a single mom.

I'm a bit confused though, you said your fiance and you both found out he met someone else? I'm assuming you meant you found out he cheated :/ Is there any way possible your relationship can be saved? I don't condone cheating at all, but when there's children involved I think sometimes there is room for forgiveness to an extent.

I'm very sorry you're going through all of this, what he did to you was horrible.

There are open adoptions, or adoptions where you can choose the family. That way you know he/she will be adopted, and in the home you decide on. I wouldn't make any decisions while you are still in shock from all this...just wait it out a few days, and talk to him about it.

You are not a horrible person. I'm saddened you can even think such a thing when you're innocent in this situation.   I'm so sorry you're going through this at a time like this.

Have you two split up already? Does he no longer want his child?

I was a single mom of 2 at 20, it can be done if that is what you decide to do but if you decide abortion is YOUR best option that does not make you a bad person. Life really sucks sometimes and sometimes it requires people to have to make tough decisions.
I'm sorry you're going through this.

you obviously dont want or are not keen on an abortion, well thats what I'm hearing. I didnt want my kid that I am pregnat with currently, but like you I couldnrt really live with the abortion thing or the adoption thing...I was like "If i have to push this kid out then he is mine!"
I too have been a single mum, with my 1st two kids I did it alone. Yes it was hard but at the same time I got to do everything MY way. Best of luck with your decision. I will pray for you, if thats ok?

i have been at that place twice.... i have had an abortion, and placed a child. my youngest son when i was pregnant with him his dad left me. he was with 2 other girls and covered it up constantly.... by lying on top of lies.

whatever you choose its your choice. :-)

Quoting Alyssa's mommy [EBFT]:" You are not a horrible person, sometimes life throws us curveballs and we have to make extremely difficult ... [snip!] ... there is room for forgiveness to an extent. I'm very sorry you're going through all of this, what he did to you was horrible."

i've forgiven him once for cheating. and he did it again. i can't forgive him again, i don't have the trust, the energy, or anything. i know i just found out but i have to take action now or never, because it'll be too late. he doesn't want to save anything. i BEGGED him. it's just not going to happen.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bad {MAM} -A- Jamma:</b>" I was a single mom of 2 at 20, it can be done if that is what you decide to do but if you decide abortion ... [snip!] ... really sucks sometimes and sometimes it requires people to have to make tough decisions. I'm sorry you're going through this."</blockquote>




this...




and pregnant... with twins... omg. congrats!!!!!!!

and i don't want abortion, at all. you're right. but i don't want to bring a child into this world with these situations. i would love to keep him/her but i just don't have the money. i planned on going to community college because i only graduated high school. i just don't know how i'll support another baby by myself. i'd LOVE to save the relationship. but i won't be able to forgive him, and he wants her.

Quoting MOMMY❀:" i've forgiven him once for cheating. and he did it again. i can't forgive him again, i don't have the ... [snip!] ... action now or never, because it'll be too late. he doesn't want to save anything. i BEGGED him. it's just not going to happen."

I am so sorry. Whatever you decide it's your choice and I know you'll have support on here, either way.

Quoting Y[♥]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Bad {MAM} -A- Jamma:</b>" I was a single mom of 2 at 20, it ... [snip!] ... I'm sorry you're going through this."</blockquote> this... and pregnant... with twins... omg. congrats!!!!!!!"

Haha I'm not... I mean unless I'm having Jesus twins. I haven't had sex in over 18mos.


BOOOOOOOO to not by choice celibacy!