re: Lost on what to do. *VERY PERSONAL*

Quoting MOMMY❀:" I just feel like someone else could give her a better life. But I'm too stubborn to give baby up. Carrying ... [snip!] ... to give baby up. Carrying him/her for nine months just for them to be taken away, leaving me just like my SO did. I'm pathetic."

Youre not pathetic. Dont put yourself down D= I agree, giving up a baby after carrying it for 9 months would be hard. But honestly, I'd rather give mine up so it can have a chance at life than not giving it a chance. but thats just me. Youre definitely not pathetic, nor selfish in your case.

Quoting ~SaraH.NaSH~:" Youre not pathetic. Dont put yourself down D= I agree, giving up a baby after carrying it for 9 months ... [snip!] ... have a chance at life than not giving it a chance. but thats just me. Youre definitely not pathetic, nor selfish in your case."

I'm leaning towards adoption more now, because I just don't want to give a potentially healthy baby no shot at life. I just want him/her to be happy. I want to see my therapist but I just have no motivation.

Quoting MOMMY❀:" I'm leaning towards adoption more now, because I just don't want to give a potentially healthy baby ... [snip!] ... healthy baby no shot at life. I just want him/her to be happy. I want to see my therapist but I just have no motivation."

That makes me so much happier to hear. I go see a counselor now because of m history with depression and anxiety, its gotten worse with my hormones. and it has helped me so much. I think, you should give seeing your therapist a shot, just so you can get whatever is bothering you out.

Quoting ~SaraH.NaSH~:" That makes me so much happier to hear. I go see a counselor now because of m history with depression ... [snip!] ... helped me so much. I think, you should give seeing your therapist a shot, just so you can get whatever is bothering you out."

I used to see a therapist. then I stopped going because I felt unmotivated. She helped a little, but I just don't know why I can't let everything out. I'd keep this baby if I could, and god I wish everything was okay just so I could. I already love him/her. Seeing a therapist is just so scary to me. I know I need to do it for my babies, because I cried in front of my daughter today before I dropped her off. I just don't understand why he left. He told me he's happy with her. Theres nothing I can do to get him back.

I'm sorry if I'm being annoying. I HATE to complain to people. But BG is the only place I feel safe :/ I really appreciate everything you are saying and doing for me. It means a lot. I can't thank you enough because you've made me feel a lot better.

You are NOT a horrible person! I know how you feelish. I've known my BD for a while and I had no idea I would get pregnant, but he was a nice guy and I thought he would own up and step up to the plate and be a man. But he never answers my texts about the baby and has not contacted me at all. My fiancee and I have been trying for a baby for 2 1/2 years and with the reaction I had when I was told I was pregnant, no way is my pregnancy being terminated. Thank God my fiancee is sticking with me and she works as well as me. But I will have to explain someday to my child why he/she has two mommies and no daddy.

Every situation is different. I will be a "single" mother of 1 at 21 with a part-time job if ever my fiancee and I don't work out. But if I was having twins or something, yeesh, I wouldn't know what to do. I'm sorry momma, I'm here if you want to talk.

Quoting M&S Expecting 1st:" You are NOT a horrible person! I know how you feelish. I've known my BD for a while and I had no idea ... [snip!] ... out. But if I was having twins or something, yeesh, I wouldn't know what to do. I'm sorry momma, I'm here if you want to talk."

Thank you. It's just the worst time for this to happen :/

Quoting MOMMY❀:" I used to see a therapist. then I stopped going because I felt unmotivated. She helped a little, but ... [snip!] ... everything you are saying and doing for me. It means a lot. I can't thank you enough because you've made me feel a lot better."

Its always good to vent. =] Youre not annoying at all. I like to help people =] Because, I too, vent A LOT. Eh, mostly complaining on my part. but it always helps to vent

Quoting ~SaraH.NaSH~:" Its always good to vent. =] Youre not annoying at all. I like to help people =] Because, I too, vent A LOT. Eh, mostly complaining on my part. but it always helps to vent"

Yeah. I feel a lot better. Thank you so much. Hopefully I figure out what to do.

It is very very scary and a very hard choice. I am already the single mom of two after my divorce. When I found out I was pregnant on new years ever I nearly fell over. It didn't help that the dad's reaction was abort abort abort. He has completely left the picture and I'm doing this on my own.

I know it won't be easy but I already loved this baby and even more so now.

However, if I wasn't financially able and if I didn't feel like I could I might have made the choice for adoption or abortion. It is SUCH a personal decision and very very difficult to decide what is the right choice.

I wish you all the best and if you ever need an ear to talk to I'll listen! My post is in here somewhere when I was trying to decide.

Quoting MOMMY❀:" Yeah. I feel a lot better. Thank you so much. Hopefully I figure out what to do."

youre welcome. Praying that you make the right decision for you and your baby. Message me if you wanna talk =]

i will tell you from both experiences... adoption is so much harder than anything else. call me selfish but if i had the money to abort my youngest son; i would have in a heartbeat. i am a single mom to a 5 year old. when i had my abortion he just turned 2. and i just had and placed my youngest in november. it is a hard thing to do and go thru. i went thru that pregnancy alone. i mean i only i had like 2 or 3 people by my side. and i was so disconnected during my pregnancy thinking it would be a breeze to get over.

when i had my abortion i had hard feelings about it for 5 months - a year but then i realized it was the best choice for myself and my son.
think about everything before you do it. your living child needs you; not a shell of their mom. i understand what you are going thru with your ex just leaving you for another woman. my oldest dad left me 2 years ago to date. we were together for 6 years. then got her pregnant around the same time i got pregnant with my youngest. my youngests father had a girlfriend when he got with me, then got another girlfriend when we were together and after we found out i was pregnant he tried to get the new girlfriend pregnant. my life was in total sambles when i got pregnant with my youngest.

if you choose adoption your ex is going to have to sign his rights over. and he may have a say in the parents. my ex didnt like the parents i picked for my youngest just because they are gay. but i got my way.