Name change.. vent?

So, back in early March, my daughter's dad and I decided to begin the process of changing her last name, from mine to his. I figured I was ready for it, and thought it was about time we get that done.

We went to the Vital Statistics office and she took down our info (on a piece of printer paper) and sent us to the court to get a "certified copy" of our CS order. We paid the fee for that, and called it a day.

Well, I started getting hesitant. I don't really know why, I guess because it's a legal process, and permanent, but now I'm beginning to back out. My mom says I need to finish what I started, but I really am not sure anymore.

He (BD) keeps texting me, asking me when we're going to get her named changed. I have no idea how to answer him. Because... I really don't know if it's what I want to do anymore..

/end vent.

although you don't feel comfortable anymore on it, you did do it half way and said you would so you should complete it.

What has changed since then to make you reconsider?

You don't have to go through w/ it if you don't want to...

Quoting Angela08:" What has changed since then to make you reconsider?"

 

Couldn't you hyphenate?

If you don't want to do it, don't do it. Just be prepared for the backlash and stand your ground. You don't have to explain yourself or justify your actions to anyone.

If BD is in her life I think you just need to do it. I could see you not wanting it of he wasn't around but I he is than what would be the reasons you don't want to? Is it for you? Or for you DD? Or for your BD? Look at who it's going to benefit.

BD has been around, but lately he keeps flaking on us (daughter and I)
And I don't really know why I changed my mind. I just had an uneasy feeling in my gut, and backed out. I guess I'm kind of afraid he might try to take her away from me or something, since he "has" another child (DNA pending) and he is trying to get full custody of that baby.

My earlier question was justified. I wanted to know if something had indeed taken place since then.

Given the current situation with hima nd his other child and the custody issues, I probably would be very hestiant (sp?) about doing it myself. And especially if he's been slacking with your child lately.

I was the same way, my Baby father did not come around, call, nothing for a year and then *poof* appeared. so he took me to court, and of course the last name was brought up and I made him leave mine on there as well so he has two last names, made me feel better. Anyways thats been a year ago and he still has my last name haha, his dumbass laywer never followed through and did the papers to get it changed. So pretty much nothing has been said or done, he probably doesnt even know to be honest. I am putting it off myself..

Quoting Stevie Renae™:" although you don't feel comfortable anymore on it, you did do it half way and said you would so you should complete it."

Why?