re: pregnant and so confused.

Quoting BG Secrets:" I feel so ashamed. I never wanted it to be like this..I wanted our second baby to be something that ... [snip!] ... own mother because I feel like a foolish teenager who has just found out she was pregnant..I know she'll put me down for it.."

Your SO might feel super frustrated that he cannot ''provide'' for another baby right now but in reality no one knows what the future holds......U could be in a good place financial in 5yrs, decide to have another baby and bam .....job loss on delivery day or u could decide to keep this baby and get in a better financial situation b4 its born. Ask yourself what would be easier......living on a super tight budget? or terminating a pregnancy that you are already attached to? Both have life long consequenses..........which can you live with????

Quoting BG Secrets:" thank you....the assistance part is what we're also having a problem with..we finally got off of it and if I had this child I would have to quit my job and we'd most likely have to get back on it..."

You and SO pay taxes......do not be ashamed to take your $ back from the government so that your family can live comfortably! If you qualify then take it. Thats what its for......would u rather the funds go to some loser scamming the system to take your hard earned tax dollars?????

Quoting BG Secrets:" I feel so ashamed. I never wanted it to be like this..I wanted our second baby to be something that ... [snip!] ... own mother because I feel like a foolish teenager who has just found out she was pregnant..I know she'll put me down for it.."

It really sounds like you want to keep this baby. You seriously have nothing to be ashamed about. Not the way you're feeling, or anything. It's a tough situation, and a tough decision.

If you want to keep the baby, you can make it work. I promise you, you can make it work.

Do you have even one friend you can confide in for support? What about outside help?

I found a site for help for low-income pregnant women and families in the US. Is there anything there that sounds useful?

http://www.babycenter.com/0_help-for-low-income-pregnant-women-and-families_10320594.bc