A mistake..(long vent)

I'm a single mother to a 2 1/2 year old and the past couple months I was with a new boyfriend. Everything seemed to be going great. He was great around my son and thought things were heading in the right direction for our relationship. That is until almost three months ago when I found out I was pregnant again. I was a little nervous to be a mother again, but didn't see big issue about it because things were going to be so well with my boyfriend. I thought he would be kind of happy that we were taking another step in our relationship but instead he flipped! Yelling and cussing saying it was my fault and that I SHOULD have been more careful when it came to my bc (which I took everyday) He told me that I needed to "get rid of it", that we couldn't take care of it, and so on. I listened to him and got the abortion and now months later I feel empty. I broke up with my boyfriend a couple weeks ago when I saw his true colors. I just feel like I could have taken care of this baby if I really wanted too instead of listening to him. I haven't even told my parents because they're pro-life and were so supportive when I was pregnant with my son at 17. I feel horrible about my rash decision. I don't know if I should tell my parents? or what to do?

That's really sad. Your boyfriend shouldn't have pushed you like that. There's really nothing you can do about it now though except try to move on. Sorry mama  

To be honest... it is probably better that you didnt try to raise the child. If i were you, i wouldnt want to put up with a man who acts like that about his own child. It was not a mistake in my eyes. Just another chapter in your life. You will have plenty of happiness to come in your future and some day you will find mr perfect and you can start over  

You are having so many issues I'm sorry but from ur last forum you for not need another mouth to feed u need to make a decision on what's best for your situation I'm just saying but good luck

Quoting sweetbea0906:" You are having so many issues I'm sorry but from ur last forum you for not need another mouth to feed u need to make a decision on what's best for your situation I'm just saying but good luck"

This is BG Secrets, it's not the same poster every time....

Quoting Mrs.Sweet 2012:" To be honest... it is probably better that you didnt try to raise the child. If i were you, i wouldnt ... [snip!] ... life. You will have plenty of happiness to come in your future and some day you will find mr perfect and you can start over  "

Thank you. A part of me knows it was for the best. and I know its a good things he's out of my life. I just keep thinking of the whole "what if" thing.

O OK ha I was about to say got dammit please lady your killing me so is it like a secret group inform me please

Quoting BG Secrets:" Thank you. A part of me knows it was for the best. and I know its a good things he's out of my life. I just keep thinking of the whole "what if" thing. "

No problem. Your time will come, at that moment you will know 100% sure that it is the right decision. Some times things happen and you dont really have control of the situation. You dont regret it, you just move on and learn from it.

Quoting sweetbea0906:" O OK ha I was about to say got dammit please lady your killing me so is it like a secret group inform me please"

http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2115901.html

Quoting sweetbea0906:" O OK ha I was about to say got dammit please lady your killing me so is it like a secret group inform me please"

No. It's 1 page, there's a thread somewhere on it with the password and stuff to log in for secrets. It's kind of a big deal that you only use it for serious stuff though.

<blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" Thank you. A part of me knows it was for the best. and I know its a good things he's out of my life. I just keep thinking of the whole "what if" thing. "</blockquote>




OK well since I know ur a different person now he's an ass hole lol sorry I didn't know it's different people maybe my slight dumb moment can give u something to Laugh at

Quoting sweetbea0906:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" Thank you. A part of me knows it was for the ... [snip!] ... now he's an ass hole lol sorry I didn't know it's different people maybe my slight dumb moment can give u something to Laugh at"

Its fine. I did get a laugh from it haha

I know exactly where you are coming from. I am/was in almost that exact situation. I miss my baby so much, and keep thinking about the what ifs, and I know I could have been a good mother. I have baby fever something shocking. I’ve said it before, but what helps is knowing it wasn’t the baby I didn’t want, it was the situation I was in that I didn’t want. I can imagine having a child to my ex, I don’t think a child deserves that. He was not happy or excited when I told him I was pregnant, I know his attitude wouldn’t have changed during the pregnancy, I know he would not have offered any support during the pregnancy or after, I know he wouldn’t have been involved with the child but he would have made life hard for me for going against his wishes. His attitude alone wrecked the few milestones I experienced when pregnant, and I couldn’t imagine having that happen for the rest of my childs’ life.

Having gone through all of this with my ex actually helped me to see what I want and what I DON’T want for my future and my child/ren. That is the only thing I can thank him for.

Quoting Yellow Diamond:" I know exactly where you are coming from. I am/was in almost that exact situation. I miss my baby so ... [snip!] ... helped me to see what I want and what I DON’T want for my future and my child/ren. That is the only thing I can thank him for."

I understand where you're coming from. Even though I would have kept the baby if he hadn't pushed abortion- part of me knows it was for the best. I know he would have probably have left if I had kept it and raising TWO kids on my own would be really hard. Some days I feel okay and others I just want to lay in bed and breakdown just because I KNOW I could have raised it if I really wanted too, really tried. Sometimes I feel like I took the easy way out.