well its over

so bruce and i have came to the conclusion that we are breaking up. he told me a couple weeks ago that he just isnt happy anymore. we tried to make things better between us but we just cant. so it looks like i am moving back to michigan with my family.we are even in different rooms tonight so its really over.
i am so lost right now i dont know what to do. i am in love with him and want to be with him but i see it as if one of us isnt happy it just wont work. thats how both our last relationships were he stayed with his ex because they had a son and he said he is starting to feel like that again.
please someone make me feel a little better i just want to die right now.
thank you mamas
jessica lynn
looks like i have joined the single parent group.

Aww i feel awful for you. I know I'm new so I hope you don't mind my input. Going through this is an awful feeling I'm sure. But if he's positive he can't be happy again just realize it's not your doing and it's his. With time things will get easier. Just try to distance yourself as he has done to you so you don't hurt yourself worse. Sometimes it's best to walk away and at times you must lose a person to realize how much you needed them. Time will tell just know your life will be a different path and that doesn't mean it will be a bad one... Stay positive tho I know it's the hardest thing you will go through.

... Is he completely sure with himself that his unhappiness is real?
It could be just a phase... I wouldn't let someone you love walk outta your life like that..(or something like that) how long have you two been together? After being with someone for years, you guarantee are likely to hit that rocky road.... I'd have a long talk with him.. those kinds of things are worth one more try .. idk if you two were fighting constantly or your relationship history.. but i'm sure something could be done?? <3 g0od luck with everything regardless of what happens..

Well, I dont know what to say. . . . Be strong momma!!

Atleast he was honest with you, he could have stayed and been unhappy and cheated and/or worse. ..

If you ever need to talk I'm here!

hugs and luvs

Steph

You don't realise how lucky you are.He could have stayed and your life would of been stale and miserable. It may look dreadful now but you have such an exciting new chapter of your life that is about to start. It won't be easy but life is what you make it. You have the oppurtunity to do whatever you want to do! A few friends have been divorced and they have never looked back. All have moved on and have found hapiness again. It just takes a bit of time. You WILL be fine if you don't wallow in pity! Take positve action! Good luck xx

yes he is sure he said "i have been feeling this for a while but thought it would change when danika is born and it hasnt." our daughter is 5 months old so he has been feeling them for a while.
i know a big part of our fighting is because i gained so much weight being pregnant and havent lost all of it and i hate my self for it. we have talked about this for a while but then just a couple weeks ago he really started telling me more. another part is i am so far from my family and i havent seen them in over a year. i also have a nephew a day younger then danika that i havent meet.
we talked for 6 hours tonight and this was the best thing for us as hard as it is i know its best for us and mostly danika.
the worst part is that we had a condom break on us last month and i found out my iud had moved into my cervix so i could have gotten pregnant while it was still in. and i dont beleive in abortion so i wouldnt take the morning after pill i just wouldnt feel right.
thanks for replying ladies this is just all so hard.
he did tell me he plans to keep paying our phone bill so i can keep my phone and he said that after a month we will see how things look for us.
jessica lynn

Quoting Nicole B:“ You don't realise how lucky you are.He could have stayed and your life would of been stale and miserable. ... [snip!] ... hapiness again. It just takes a bit of time. You WILL be fine if you don't wallow in pity! Take positve action! Good luck xx”

i know it will take time but i also know that with time my heart will heal.
if we didnt have a daughter it wouldnt be as bad because we could just break up and be on with our lives, but with her involved just makes it bad.
i told him from the begining that if he is ever unhappy he needs to just tell me becuase it wont work so i am thankful that he told me but it still hurts. i just wish i had someone to talk to right now but is almost 5 am here so people tend to get pissed if you call this late or early you know

Quoting beautiful_booboo06:“ i know it will take time but i also know that with time my heart will heal. if we didnt have a daughter ... [snip!] ... i had someone to talk to right now but is almost 5 am here so people tend to get pissed if you call this late or early you know”

LOL Yeah I learnt my lesson calling people at 5am  My mum thought there had been an accident or something! Hahaha. I'd had a few too many to drink LOL! I'm watching simpsons on tele... Freakin re-runs 

Quoting Nicole B:“ LOL Yeah I learnt my lesson calling people at 5am  My mum thought there had been an accident or ... [snip!] ... an accident or something! Hahaha. I'd had a few too many to drink LOL! I'm watching simpsons on tele... Freakin re-runs ”

when i lived in michgan and was drunk at 5 am i always had someone to call even if theywere just in a different room partying. but being down here i have no friends only his famil and we are waiting until his next day off and going to take his mom to dinner to tell her before we tell anyone else. i sent my mom a text right away tho but she didnt call back so she must be really sleeping hard. she will call me in the morning.
i cant let this get me to down because i do have a daughter to raise still. and i cant let her suffer from this its not her fault so i am gonna try and stay as up-beat as i can. its pretty hard tho thats for sure.