Would u marry a man who was not financially stable?

Would u marry a man who was not financially stable even if he is loving, loyal ect..?

Heres what i think about this. I think financial problems inside a marriage causes a marriage to go on the rocks.
When the man expects to be the bread winner of the family and expects the wife too stay home then he should be financially stable. If he is not financially stable then the wife should work as well. By financially stable, i mean someone who doesn't have debt and is making an avg salary with a stable job.

No offense to anyone here, my partner is not financially stable but thats why I don't live with him right now. I would hate to be a stay at home mom with a man who expects me to stay home when he cant even bring enough food in or support the family with a decent/ok place to live. That would be a frustrating situation. but a lot of woman think its ok as long as the man is loyal and loving ect... But for me it just doesn't cut it. Financial troubles cause problems in a marriage even though he is loyal, loving ect...

I don't even like DATING guys that are financially unstable, so no, I definitely wouldn't marry one. Unless, he gave me total control of the finances and i gave him an "allowance"

No I would not. No two ways about it..

No definitely not. If he's struggling to support himself then how does he expect to support a family?

Yes... Because smurf happens. Even if he was financially stable when getting married, it doesn't mean he will be forever....

Well, if you're together and there is a child involved, SOMEONE has to go out and make money. (unless you plan on getting a free ride from the govt, which is a smurffy thing to do)
And you're right, I believe that most marriages that end in divorce are due to financial troubles. Love won't feed you or your children, ya know?
If your SO is fit and able to work, even if it's min wage at mcdonalds, then he should be doing so.

Quoting Baylee398:" Would u marry a man who was not financially stable even if he is loving, loyal ect..? Heres what i ... [snip!] ... But for me it just doesn't cut it. Financial troubles cause problems in a marriage even though he is loyal, loving ect..."

I married my husband and we only had what we could carry in a suitcase.

I'm 26 and bought my house 2 years ago, been married for almost 7.

Building our life the way we did TOGETHER, and going through those hard times is the best thing I could have done. We know we can make it through tough times because we've done it before. There is nothing we can't handle. I think that everyone should have a tough time in the beginning, because if you can't make it through money problems, you won't make it through the long haul.

Yes. As long as he doesn't have like, a gambling addiction or anything.

No reason in the world why I can't be the breadwinner. I wouldn't marry a man that expected me to be a SAHM, actually.

My husband was smurffy with money when we were dating (we were only 18 then). But when we made the decision to have kids and all that, he buckled down and did it. Smurf happened along the way (job losses and such) but that's life.

Nope. He has to have his finances straight, it shows he's responsible.

Quoting Lil' Nugget.:" I don't even like DATING guys that are financially unstable, so no, I definitely wouldn't marry one. Unless, he gave me total control of the finances and i gave him an "allowance""

I agree, right now im taking control of most of the finances. My husband wants me to just take care of the kids.. but i told him if he was the only one working we wouldn't even be able to live. We would be buying little caesars pizza's for 2 days worth of food and sleep on the floor. Thats not the life i want.

When i first met DH his financial state was crappy. He had credit cards maxxed out from his previous marriage, and he was struggling to pay bills. 2 years into our relationship he used him in one taxes to pay off everything he still owed. We are now married, and neither of us have credit cards. If we can't pay cash for it, we will not get it. I don't think i would have marroed him if we were still paying off debts he and his ex wife accumulated together...

Quoting Baylee398:" Would u marry a man who was not financially stable even if he is loving, loyal ect..? Heres what i ... [snip!] ... But for me it just doesn't cut it. Financial troubles cause problems in a marriage even though he is loyal, loving ect..."

I've been on both sides of this - and the man who WAS financially stable ended up being the one to ruin us financially. Now, the man I'm with wasn't financially stable (no debt, but not a steady job either - he's a native actor) but is the most loving man I've ever known. And he has worked hard to become financially stable for our family.

If SO, who is not financially stable at the moment, and is also the father of my child, dropped to one knee RIGHT NOW and asked me to marry him, I'd say yes in a heartbeat.

Yes, finances can make a marriage go on the rocks, but treating a man, who is a great guy but may have stuff from his life before you against him, like he's not worth marrying just because of his finances is wrong. Finances can change. Love, REAL true love is forever.

My opinion though, lol. I'm a romantic. I believe if 2 people are meant to be together and love each other, that marriage is a piece of paper and a tax break, and you don't need it to show your love and commitment.

Quoting Baylee398:" Would u marry a man who was not financially stable even if he is loving, loyal ect..? Heres what i ... [snip!] ... But for me it just doesn't cut it. Financial troubles cause problems in a marriage even though he is loyal, loving ect..."

well, I disagree with your definition of financially stable.. but otherwise yes.

then again.. I wouldnt' marry anyone who "expects" me to stay at home anyway.

I expect someone who has a steady job, and makes responsible decisions. Debt isn't a deal breaker, almost everyone has debt. But- more debt than he can afford- yea- problem.

Quoting Katharyn Marie:" When i first met DH his financial state was crappy. He had credit cards maxxed out from his previous ... [snip!] ... not get it. I don't think i would have marroed him if we were still paying off debts he and his ex wife accumulated together..."

Is is possible to live off cash? i've always wondered this.