re: Considering cheating...

Quoting BG Secrets:" This is going to sound harsh, but BD isn't exactly amazing in bed or hung like a horse. He has never given me an orgasm, ever. I can have one, so I know I'm not "broken" lol"

IMO you sound kinda selfish. Talk to your so about it, maybe he's open to spicing up the bedroom. Cheating is a little extreme for a lackluster sex life.

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" So why don't you TEACH him how to please you?"

He gets frustrated and quits. He gets frustrated verrrrrry easily. With everything.

Quoting BG Secrets:" This is going to sound harsh, but BD isn't exactly amazing in bed or hung like a horse. He has never given me an orgasm, ever. I can have one, so I know I'm not "broken" lol"

What are you saying? You want to hump around till you find the guy who can give you and O?

I cant believe you plan to marry your BD. What a waste of time. Its these kind of marriages that make me laugh at ALL marriages.

Quoting BG Secrets:" He gets frustrated and quits. He gets frustrated verrrrrry easily. With everything."

I seriously think that you need to rethink marrying this guy

you want to cheat on him
he won't learn how to please you in bed
He threatens to leave you, so you "make up"


I don't see it lasting very long

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" What are you saying? You want to hump around till you find the guy who can give you and O? I cant believe ... [snip!] ... cant believe you plan to marry your BD. What a waste of time. Its these kind of marriages that make me laugh at ALL marriages. "

No I don't want to "hump around"
I'm not a slut. This has never happened to me before

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" I seriously think that you need to rethink marrying this guy you want to cheat on him he won't learn ... [snip!] ... on him he won't learn how to please you in bed He threatens to leave you, so you "make up" I don't see it lasting very long"

Couldn't have said it better myself. He sounds like a prince charming and real winner.

<blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" He gets frustrated and quits. He gets frustrated verrrrrry easily. With everything."</blockquote>




If he's not willing to make you happy and threatens to leave when you fight then he is abusing you and it will likely get worse. He sounds controlling and manipulative.

Quoting BG Secrets:" No I don't want to "hump around" I'm not a slut. This has never happened to me before"

But read what you posted. You said BD doesnt give you orgasms....so what if new guy doesnt give you orgasms? Then what are you going to do.

Post and run for now, I have to go to work.
NO, he will not be there.
I'm going to think about everything you ladies said.
Thanks

Quoting BG Secrets:" He gets frustrated and quits. He gets frustrated verrrrrry easily. With everything."

I think you do love him..... but I dont think youre in love with him anymore.

And if thats the case, it makes sense that you would wonder about someone else.

And if you arent in love with him any more, and youve made your mind up to go get stoned and smurf a no-strings-attached guy, it sounds to me like you really are scared to be lonely if you left BD.... but you dont want to be with him, either.

Quoting Sam and Addie ☼:" I think you do love him..... but I dont think youre in love with him anymore. And if thats the case, ... [snip!] ... guy, it sounds to me like you really are scared to be lonely if you left BD.... but you dont want to be with him, either."

i agree with all of this except I really do want to be with him.

all of you ladies make it seem black and white but there are so many feelings mixed up in this. i get it that this situation is smurfed up

Quoting BG Secrets:" i agree with all of this except I really do want to be with him. all of you ladies make it seem black ... [snip!] ... ladies make it seem black and white but there are so many feelings mixed up in this. i get it that this situation is smurfed up"

it is pretty black and white. Don't cheat. If you want to have sex with other people, you need to break up with your fiancee

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" it is pretty black and white. Don't cheat. If you want to have sex with other people, you need to break up with your fiancee"

 

Quoting BG Secrets:" i agree with all of this except I really do want to be with him. all of you ladies make it seem black ... [snip!] ... ladies make it seem black and white but there are so many feelings mixed up in this. i get it that this situation is smurfed up"

It IS black and white. If you love someone you don't want to cheat on them. The only "gray" is yes you find someone attractive. BUT if you love the person you're with you dismiss that as soon as you think it. I don't know how many times I've seen a guy and go "Damn, he's kinda hot.." and as soon as I think it I shrug and think, "Oh well! Mines better because..." and then I have a huge list in my head because I genuinely believe that my husband is better because of so many things. You can think a person is attractive and still not want to screw them.

There's that fire at first but after it happens you will be upset you did it and feel horrible. It may even make you consider doing it again with someone else down the road. Definitely not worth it. Don't let that feeling take you over the edge, it most likely won't be the last time you feel that way about someone.