Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:" Drug addiction becomes more then a choice. It's an addiction. It's SO hard to quit it changes the way ... [snip!] ... a very tough thing to get over. A family member of mine has been a drug addict for 20 years. It's hard not to lose hope. "
Quoting Safka9973:" In my DHs exes case, she has been addicted (and this is what I have read online, and been told by her) ... [snip!] ... simply something very wrong with them. Simply having drug problems is no excuse for being unable to discern right from wrong."
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" See this is where Im going to have to tell you that since you dont know this woman then you opinion ... [snip!] ... to look at it these people chose to became drug addicts and it is their bad choices that have turned them into horrible people."
Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:" People handle things differently. I'm glad you overcame what you did. But some people turn to drugs ... [snip!] ... I'm glad you didn't turn to drugs and get addicted like she did. There are to many people dealing with this horrible disease."
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" I understand that everyone handles things differently but when you have a huge support system that is ... [snip!] ... she knows that no matter what none of us will allow her kids to go without something just because she is smurfing smurf up. "
Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:" I never said to blame everything on their addiction. I in no way was trying to say that. You have ... [snip!] ... it IS feeding her addiction. Have you talked to the family members that are doing this?? It's seriously not a good idea! "I think you misunderstood me lol. We havent given her money in years and before that we only ever gave her money once because she called me crying about how her FS were cut off and she didnt have any food in her house to feed her kids(at the time she claimed she was clean but she wasnt). I felt bad for her kids so I convinced SO to take them money we had set aside for our power bill to give her to buy groceries. Not even two days later she called with the same sob story and I asked her what happened to the $400 we had just given her the other day and she flipped out said I was a smurfing lair and that we hadnt given her any money. So I talked to her oldest child and found out that their really wasnt any food in the house and since SO and I no longer had any money left because we had just given it all to her SO went out and got a payday loan and went out and bought groceries for her kids. When we showed up at her house with all the food she again flipped her smurf and tried to refuse the groceries because she didnt want the food she wanted the money "so she could go buy food that she wanted" but in the end the kids convinced her to take the food by crying nonstop because they hadnt eaten in two days. After that she refused to allow us to see her kids for over a month because we didnt give her Since then we havent given her a dime instead we will either take her shopping to get her what she needed or we would go get it on our own and bring it to her. Even when we have paid her bills we never gave her the money we just went and paid them for her. Normally when we go shopping I always by extra items (like shampoo, toothpaste, tampons ((even though I dont use tampons)), toilet paper, ect.) so that I have those items on hand incase they run out at their house. I learnt my lesson the first time and its not a mistake I will ever make again.
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" I think you misunderstood me lol. We havent given her money in years and before that we only ever gave ... [snip!] ... on hand incase they run out at their house. I learnt my lesson the first time and its not a mistake I will ever make again."
Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:" Wow..horrible and sad. Brings back memories to me from when I was small :/ Good idea with the extra ... [snip!] ... have any hope at all. I hope your sister in law will get better. It does happen for some...even when all hope is gone. "