re: selfish decisions

Quoting BG Secrets:" i did post this in AS right? anyway, both were using BC. thanks. i dont think that was your point, ... [snip!] ... upset that there are people voluntarily expelling embryos, and you want to express your concern. pray for my fetus will you?"

I like you

Can you unquote Ashley's posts? They've been hidden.

Quoting BG Secrets:" thanks so much. and i know, i have the best friends in the world. the newer one ive been working with, ... [snip!] ... my old friend. loosing her was so hard on me. i still dream about her. last night i had a dream i said i was sorry. </3"

Out of curiosity, have you tried to find her contact information?

I wish you and your SO a lot of luck. Sounds like you're both in a hard spot and trying to support each other. Be patient, be honest, and love. <3

Quoting Me Gusta:" Can you unquote Ashley's posts? They've been hidden."

Indeed.

Quoting The Doctor:" Out of curiosity, have you tried to find her contact information? I wish you and your SO a lot of luck. ... [snip!] ... a lot of luck. Sounds like you're both in a hard spot and trying to support each other. Be patient, be honest, and love. <3"

oh i know how to get a hold of her....
its just complicated is all. i mean, this is the very shortened verrry quick version of the story.
i dont think it would be a good idea to jump back into her life and throw all this on her lap.
i think we hurt each other enough for now.
if there were a way to truly say i was sorry, and have her really understand...maybe. but i think maybe through all the emotional sludge we built up things will just get tied up again.
but then again, i know she wants to move on, this was a couple years ago, so im sure she has.

At least i still have a chance with SO.
Thanks so much, after this eye opener i feel like i can really understand his side a lot better so maybe this was a kind of breakthrough.

Quoting BG Secrets:" nope. not even once. if i carried a baby to term i would bond with it. why would i put everyone around ... [snip!] ... isnt selfish, forcing infants on people and situations that they dont belong is selfish. thanks for the alternative though."

love it!!!

I know this was posted hours ago, but I just wanted to say I absolutely loved your responses. Strong lady. <3

yep, an older post... but i HAD to comment and tell you how inspirinng you are. you are very brave to be trying to figure out your true feelings about it also. it may not seem like that, but i don't know if i could do it. i'm such a hormonal mess right now, this post actually made me cry a little bit.

i hope everything gets worked out for you and you can find everything you're looking for about your feelings. it's hard to get to the root of anything deep, especially when multiple people are involved.

i'm not even honestly sure if i worded all of that the way i was thinking.. like i said, this was inspiring to me and you're a very strong woman.