Ughh Men!!

okay so i need some adviceee!! alright, so my bd and i haven't been together for a while now and i started seeing this guy at work about a week ago... we've been hanging out everyday, going out to lunch, hanging out with friends, ect...ect. he's reallly nice and i like hanging out with him alot. i know that my biggest focus is on preparing for my baby, and it still is, but who says having someone isn't nice either... so here's the delima... he had a g/f that lived in NY and moved down here like thursday, he says he doesn't want to get back with her that they still talk bc she moved down here for him and can't just leave her in the dust. i am completly understanding of that and we've had some longs tlaks about being honest and i have no reason to think he's not being honest about it all... so ne ways he stayed up all ngiht last ngiht writting a paper for school and called me this am when he got outta class... and came over to sleep here for a while, well when he changed into comfy's he was checking himself out in the mirror and i picked on him, he said he wasn't that he was looking at the hicky(opps my bad! ) on his chest and asked me if it still looks like a hicky, i was like whats it matter?... he told me he was going over to his ex's tongiht bc shes cooking him dinner and he might stay the night. i got ticked off and just looked at him, he said you want me to behonest so why you acting like that when i'm honest? so i haven't said ne thing else but it's like why you here in my bed now getting rest so you can go and be in her's later tonight?! ughhh... i know this prolly sounds like high school bs but it's not... i really would like to have someone and i think hes a great guys and is so super sweet, we get along great and he's fine with me being pregnant. but i guess maybe i feel like i'm just putting myself out there just to get hurt in the end... i don't really know what i'm expecting out of writting all this... i guess i just needed to vent more than i need advice... but if you feel like you have something useful to add, y'all are more than welcome... sorry it's so long but thanks for reading!  

be careful, sounds like your going to get hurt.

Sure he's being honest. But if I was with a guy and he 'honestly' told me he was going to his 'ex' girlfriends house to spend the night I would honsestly kick him in the balls. Psh.   You dont have to settle for someone just because youre preggers. I would tell him you dont appreciate it and if he just blows you off move on.

It sounds like the classic, "I'll leave her for you...I just can't do ittoday" lie. I'd be careful not to get too attached to this one.

personally i dont know the guy but the situation sounds kina fishy...
just think about you and ur little baby. the right guy will come along and hopefully not have baggage like that guy. its obviously your decision! GOOD LUCK! hope everything turns out ok!!!

Quoting waitinonababy:“ Sure he's being honest. But if I was with a guy and he 'honestly' told me he was going to his 'ex' girlfriends ... [snip!] ... settle for someone just because youre preggers. I would tell him you dont appreciate it and if he just blows you off move on.”

EXACTLY!!!! It just seems like he has you on the side for when he is NOT with his ex! I would be kicking him to the curb! I have been in that situation and I HATED it! When I finally came to my senses I ended it and that was when he wanted to make a commitment to me and I said NO! I was NOT going to stand being on the back burner while he did his thing! I AM better than that and SO ARE YOU!!!!!! Good Luck and I Hope you DON'T get hurt!!!

Definitely proceed with caution. You've only known him a week, and it sounds like he's playing you, stay friends if you want, but I really wouldn't be dating right now if I were in your situation. It's not just you anymore, it's you and your baby.

Tell him how you feel about it.

Quoting waitinonababy:“ Sure he's being honest. But if I was with a guy and he 'honestly' told me he was going to his 'ex' girlfriends ... [snip!] ... settle for someone just because youre preggers. I would tell him you dont appreciate it and if he just blows you off move on.”

i agree 100%!!!!!!!

Hmmmm...sounds to me like he wants a pregnant girl to cheat on his ex with because he knows he can't "knock you up" right now. I actually knew a guy who did that. (he was NOT my friend). He had a long time girlfriend, but would look for single pregnant women to cheat with so he woudln't have to worry about becoming someone's BD. I kid you not, so just becareful.