disipline

hi, im very big on disipline, i hate going out and seeing little kids being such brats and i would be so embarrassed if it was my children. im not a big fan of smacking (only for a very last resort) so i was wondering what methods you guys use to discipline your toddlers and do they work??

we have a naughty chair in my house and when brandon is naughty he sits on the naughty chair for an alloted amount of time, other than that he will get a swat on the bum for doing anything that could hurt him. its hard to explain to him because he is only 21 months and he just doesnt get reasoning so i do what i think works.

Quoting expectin trouble:“ we have a naughty chair in my house and when brandon is naughty he sits on the naughty chair for an alloted ... [snip!] ... hurt him. its hard to explain to him because he is only 21 months and he just doesnt get reasoning so i do what i think works.”

i tried the naughty chair but didnt find it too affective, my eldest seemed to spend most of his time on it and thought it was funny, does it work for you??

Quoting charleigh:“ hi, im very big on disipline, i hate going out and seeing little kids being such brats and i would be ... [snip!] ... (only for a very last resort) so i was wondering what methods you guys use to discipline your toddlers and do they work??”

When they touch or grab or hit instead of slapping their hand I grab their hand rather firmly look them in the eyes and say NO or something along those lines with my pissed off face then let go. Worked wonders for my lil booger brats.

Consistency. Eye contact. Your voice needs to match what your saying. Noo sweetie thats bad in your mommy voice will not do the job. I guess I am kind of a hardass but hey all I have to do is look at my little brothers and they stop immediatly.

I dont give second chances. When one of them hits the other I dont say things like "you better not do that again", I just walk over to the culpret, pick him up and bring him straight to his bed, set him down in it and tell him no hitting allowed and he stays there until he is ready to apologize.

Cant think of anything else right now lol

Quoting nik | Waiting4baby!:“ When they touch or grab or hit instead of slapping their hand I grab their hand rather firmly look ... [snip!] ... and tell him no hitting allowed and he stays there until he is ready to apologize. Cant think of anything else right now lol”

lol u r a hardass but so am i!!! i cant stand seeing little brats running around the supermarket instead of walking alongside their mums nicely, or throwing tantrums and i will make sure my kids dont turn out like that.
yeah i use the bed one sometimes! its quite effective!

Quoting charleigh:“ i tried the naughty chair but didnt find it too affective, my eldest seemed to spend most of his time on it and thought it was funny, does it work for you??”

Never worked for me and my parents. They where able to look around and watch us and find something funny to laugh at. It would end up more as a game for them. Straight to their beds worked much better.

Quoting charleigh:“ i tried the naughty chair but didnt find it too affective, my eldest seemed to spend most of his time on it and thought it was funny, does it work for you??”

yeah my son hates not being able to go and play with his toys the chair is in the front room i turn off the television and take any toys away from him, he doesnt enjoy it but he has learned that if he stays there then it is over quicker. i always make sure that when its over i take him off and give him a cuddle so he knows he isnt in trouble anymore

Quoting charleigh:“ lol u r a hardass but so am i!!! i cant stand seeing little brats running around the supermarket instead ... [snip!] ... tantrums and i will make sure my kids dont turn out like that. yeah i use the bed one sometimes! its quite effective!”

Yup! But even though I am a meany my little brothers love me to death!

there is nothing wrong with a bit of discipline aslong as when the punishment is over you go back to being loving nice mummy then kids will respond well to it.

Evan started with timeouts when he was 1.5 years old. (2 minutes) DH thought I was nuts for doing it (thought there was no way he would "get" it...) but he did! The first couple of times, I had to keep putting him back into timeout and starting the timer over, but after that, he understood.

Some things, I will give him a warning. Hitting and screaming NO at me there is no warning...he goes straight to timeout for that.

He is in timeout for 3 minutes now (one minute for each year of age) and I will find a corner or someplace quiet in the grocery store or the mall to put him in timeout if necessary. Just yesterday, he was pitching a fit in the grocery store...whining and telling me no cuz I was looking at something. I look at him sternly and say "Do you want to stop whining and act like a nice boy, or go to time out?" It really only takes you putting them in timeout at the store 2-3 times for them to get that you are serious and WILL follow through! I have pulled the car over and gotten him out of his seat and put him in timeout at the side of the road (once) before...cuz he was screaming and pitching a fit in the car, and I told him if he didn't stop, he would be getting a time out. Now, when I tell him that in the car, he knows I am serious and stops...

I do have to say, about 3 months after I started timeouts, he had a day where he decided to test me. He kept laughing and running away. For about 45 minutes he did this, and I just calmly picked him back up (no speaking to him) and put him back and reset the timer. This happened once, and never since then. He was just seeing if I would stick to my guns!

Quoting charleigh:“ i tried the naughty chair but didnt find it too affective, my eldest seemed to spend most of his time on it and thought it was funny, does it work for you??”

i dont have a toddler, but when i was younger my mom had a "naughty chair" it was right in front of a big window in our kitchen that over looked our back yard, witch had all the cool stuff in it and our neighbor kids would always be over, so we had to sit in the chair set our timer so we could watch how slooowwwwly the time was passing, wile also watching the kids who were good still playing and having fun, and if we cried or yelled, pretty much made any noise my mom would walk over and restart the timer. i hated it. but it worked.

Quoting nik | Waiting4baby!:“ Consistency. Eye contact. Your voice needs to match what your saying. Noo sweetie thats bad in your mommy voice will not do the job. I guess I am kind of a hardass but hey all I have to do is look at my little brothers and they stop immediatly. ”

The sweet "Mommy voice" worked for my mom. I guess my brother and I used to listen to her even if she was being quiet and "sweet". However, my daughter is a different story. Being 18 months old she has learned she can test my patience and see what she is allowed to do and what she isn't.

The only disipline that has worked for me now is a time out chair. It seems to be effective if I leave her in the chair for maybe a minute. Any longer than that just makes her extremely upset. (I know being upset isn't a reason to take her out of the chair, but i'm not quite sure she knows exactly what she did was wrong.)

The other option that worked for me was what nik | Waiting4baby! suggested. Grabbing their hand firmly (yet not hard enough to hurt them) and look them in the eye as your saying "NO" or "Don't touch" or something like that. However my daughter dislikes the word No .... she will grunt at me and then do whatever she was doing again. But if I tell her "Please, don't do that" She is alittle more responsive...

Good luck to you.


Anyone know at what age toddlers are pretty much aware of the consequences(sp) if they do something wrong? Maybe 3-4 years old?

Quoting ♥ Mommy Meg ♥:“ The sweet "Mommy voice" worked for my mom. I guess my brother and I used to listen to her even if she ... [snip!] ... Anyone know at what age toddlers are pretty much aware of the consequences(sp) if they do something wrong? Maybe 3-4 years old?”

From my experience with Evan (every kid is different, though) I would say 2 years on up to 3. Now he knows if he hits the cat, he WILL be going to time out. Before, I would tell him why he was going to time out, but I don't think he "knew ahead of time" what would happen if he hit. Hope that makes sense!

Quoting KellyTheChef:“ From my experience with Evan (every kid is different, though) I would say 2 years on up to 3. Now he ... [snip!] ... him why he was going to time out, but I don't think he "knew ahead of time" what would happen if he hit. Hope that makes sense!”

It does make sense, Thank you   Like I said my daughter is 18 months old (tomorrow) and well.. sometimes I really think she knows when she is doing something wrong and other times its just that stage where she wants to push me to my limit.

I still do the time out and its hard but I keep her there... hoping in the end that she understands what she did was unacceptable. (ie: pushing the cat, hitting me, talking back to me... ect)

thanks for the advice ladies, at least not all kids are spoilt little brats ay!!